Archive for December 11th, 2013

If you’re like most people, you have something that you really wanted that God did not give you.  Top of most people’s lists would be “the one that got away”;  someone that you were crazy about who for whatever reason you were not able to have a relationship with.  Few of us find out what that person’s life was like in the long run, what kind of person they ended up becoming, so we never see WHY God did not allow the relationship to happen.  Here is the story of one of the rare people who DID find out what kind of person the man she wanted ended up being:


MARGARET CHO: I fell in love with a guy who worked on All-American Girl, which was my first TV show, and he didn’t like me back at all. He didn’t like me back. And it broke my heart. I was early 20s, really in love with him. I was in love with him for 17 years, and I never Googled him, because I didn’t want to know what had happened. In my mind, I thought I’m sure he’s married and livin’ in a white house with a wife and kid, this fantastic life that I had imagined for him. So I never Googled him, and then finally, 17 years later, I turned 40, and I thought I should Google him and just see. [Laughs] ‘Cause he might get divorced or something. You never know, in their 40s, people switch partners. So I Googled him, and this thing came up on Wikipedia, and it said his name, and it said American screenwriter, producer, worked on All-American Girl with Margaret Cho, and in 2007, was arrested for murdering his wife. He bludgeoned her to death and stuffed her body in the attic for a month until it had partially mummified.

[Silence, as Elliott and Entertainment Weekly look at each other, jaws dropped.]
So, it’s really good that we didn’t hook up. He told her family that she was in rehab, and she was an alcoholic, so they didn’t come lookin’ for her. They had a baby. The baby he left crying in a crib. So he had just killed the mother of his child, and then was trying to take care of the baby while his wife was decomposing.
In the attic.
 So I’m, like, shaking in front of my computer thinking, Well, I guess that’s not gonna work out. But I loved this man for 17 years, and always held in my mind the possibility. I mean, I loved him... [He ultimately pled guilty to voluntary manslaughter and was sentenced to 26 years in prison.]

And here’s the Wikipedia entry for the killer:

John James “J.J.” Paulsen is an American sitcom writer and television producer. He has written for several television programs including CosbyIn Living Color and Grace Under Fire.

In the spring of 2007 Paulsen was arrested for the murder of his wife, Leanne Serrano-Paulsen, after police found her body in the attic of their Carmel, Indiana home. Serrano-Paulsen’s autopsy results indicated she died as a result of blunt force trauma to the head, and that she had been dead for two to three weeks prior to the discovery of her body. The couple had a history of domestic violence, and in January 2007 J.J. Paulsen had pleaded guilty to domestic battery stemming from an incident the previous year.

On December 23, 2008, Paulsen pleaded guilty to voluntary manslaughter. On March 27 of the following year, Paulsen was sentenced to 26 years in prison He is presently incarcerated at the Miami Correctional Facility in Bunker Hill, Indiana.

Margaret Cho, who met Paulsen when he worked on her 1994-1995 sitcom All American Girl, subsequently wrote a song about him.”


This man was the love of her life, and he’s a murderer!!  It doesn’t say if she asked God for him, but whether or not she did He knew she wanted him, and made sure that the killer had no interest in the pretty, smart, funny, vivacious Cho…  because if He hadn’t, that could have been HER body found in the attic.

EVERY time God does not bring you a desire of your heart, there is a reason.  It will rarely be such an extreme reason, but it will always be an excellent reason.  Stay in faith, and He will bring you something better!!

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