A reader posted a powerful question:
“Its J again…
Question for you: Evil People vs. Good People
Why does it seem like evil people are successful in life? They get everything they want, they keep getting blessed and they live longer.
Why does it seem like people who try to live a good (GODLY) life they can’t catch a break. . paycheck-to-paycheck, stress etc.”
My answer came out pretty well, so I thought I’d make it a post:
This is a painful question pondered by many, J. The answer is rooted in free will. Many of the behaviors of evil people lead directly to success; the biggest liar and manipulator on the sales team will usually be the top salesperson, for example. The evil person develops skill in seeing how to get the optimal outcome in every situation, and is willing to take whatever the actions are to get that most desirable outcome… which is why they so often get there.
These people are NOT being blessed, they are reaping the “rewards” of their evil in the same way that a child cheating on a test gets a higher score… this is NOT the work of God, as He NEVER rewards evil.
But why does He even permit it? Free will. We all believe in free will, we want to have it, we believe everyone should have it… but we’re naturally unhappy when evil people use it to achieve “surface success.” If God were to block all evil behavior, we would not have free will anymore; more to the point, if being good is all we can do, rather than it being a matter of choice, then we are not demonstrating any actual virtue… and God wants us to CHOOSE right behavior in the same way that He wants us to CHOOSE faith rather than being “programmed” to have it.
And what is our reward for making those choices rather than the evil ones that lead so consistently to “surface success”? We have “true success,” the only kind that matters; our deep connection to God. Those evil people that have monetary and business success do NOT have that sort of connection to God. It is literally impossible for them to have it, because God does NOT reward evil in any way, including that most precious reward; His closeness.
Which would you rather have; “surface success” gained by evil acts, or to be close to God? It’s not a hard choice, looked at that way, is it?
Don’t envy the evil people who have achieved “surface success”; PITY them, because they have given up the only thing that matters, that thing that you and I are blessed with in abundance… closeness to the Lord.
Mark 8:36 (ESV)
36 For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?
PS: Most evil people have to struggle to pay their bills just like the rest of us do, we just don’t notice it because we focus on successful people. Imagine being broke AND not being close to God!!
Edit 12-12: I ran across a verse that belongs here:
Psalm 37:7 (NLT)
7 Be still in the presence of the Lord,
and wait patiently for him to act.
Don’t worry about evil people who prosper
or fret about their wicked schemes.
Edit 4-9-14: Here’s another good verse:
Job 8:20 (GNT)
20 But God will never abandon the faithful
or ever give help to evil people.
Edit 3-5-15: And another couple of good ones:
Proverbs 23:17 (NIRV)
17 Do not long for what sinners have.
But always show great respect for the Lord.
Proverbs 24:19 (VOICE)
19 Do not worry when evildoers go unpunished
or be jealous when the wicked seem to prosper.
Edit 7-18-17: and another one:
Psalm 10:13-14 (NLT)
13 Why do the wicked get away with despising God?
They think, “God will never call us to account.”
14 But you see the trouble and grief they cause.
You take note of it and punish them.
J Here,
Two Things:
1st: Do you think that the majority of people who have surface success obtained it through lying and manipulating/being evil.? Maybe this is why some rich people are not happy beacuse they have “surface success” and not “true success.
2nd: How does someone achieve “surface success” & “true success. . . Is it seek the kingdom of GOD 1st & everything else follows?
Here’s my question. Why is it the person who is very mean to me is successful in life while I am struggling to get to where I want to be in life. This person has nothing better else to do than watch my every move; make fun of my weight, my face, my family, my life. I am fighting hard not to retaliate. I don’t understand why for someone who has so much success and supposedly very happy and content in life has so much time and energy to make someone feel worthless, degrade and malign someone. I just don’t understand.
Hello, An!! What you’re encountering is unfortunately a very common situation. You’re struggling because that is what most people have to do in this economy. The evil person is successful because the ruthless behavior of evil people often leads to success. We have no way to know if this person is happy; successful people are often NOT happy, because a paycheck does not usually provide emotional fulfillment. What we do know is that evil people often enjoy making others suffer; that’s why this person is behaving that way.
Have you reported this person to Human Resources? No company permits this sort of behavior, and they will tell them to stop, which should solve the problem.
My father is this way. He never worked a day in his life, but yet, is rich beyond his means because of my disabled brother. We lose our mom and he ends up with everything. We grew up poor because of him, never knowing when would eat. Not having the basic things we needed. We were bred because of the government, He found out, how he could use the system and have kids and this is how he got through in life, until he won a lawsuit my mother was working on and left us out of it. He ruined so many lives and yet, he wants to come down on me, because I dont have money and he thinks its because I’m not a muslim and critcizes everything I do and my siblings and his family and my mothers. He’s so selfish. A lot of people are waiting on him, to leave this earth, I’m just being honest this is what they said. they dont understand how someone who has been abusive and tortured his whole family comes out on top. I know this is not god. The devil looks out for his people too. He’s 65 and has not changed. my mother was abused everyday and it broke her heart and she had a heart attack. My father drove her crazy everyday. We all know she’s in a better place but still, we had to grow up without our mother because of him. At the funeral, he made it about him. He was worried about what people were gonna say about him, because everybody knew how abusive he was. So at her funeral he made it about him and not my mom.
God bless you. I have been cheated screwed and ripped off by every Christian God for fraud phoney. I walked away from all church only now I am going to start reading the bible, with caution. I believe there’s a God. I know he protected and covered up fake Christians.I love people who are not Jesus jumping liers.
God does not assist fake or evil people, William, not even if they masquerade as Christians. Reach out to Him, explore His word, and let Him love you back to joy!!
Thank you I have tried to reach out to God.I made a deacon return $3700 to a lady he stole off, had to threatened submitting a deposition to the State of Fl.Ins Commission before he returned the money.God has had revenge against me for my integrity. I am so hurt by his recourse for honesty.
William, your first step in reaching out to God needs to be to stop accusing Him of doing harm or wrong; just like us, He does not respond to false accusations by offering a close relationship.
Your dealing with a Narcissist, go to YouTube and watch a channel called “Narcissism Survivor”
Because somewhere they want your attention just ignore and see the difference imagine you have extremely important work in your head when you cross that successful loser again.in your head say that person loser 5times it will be fun hahaha .
i feel the same way An, I watch this girl at work be lazy, and disrespectful to me and not take care of her patients. And yet God has displayed his love for her to me, so many times this past year I have seen people act out in wickness, Yet every time i feel Gods love for them, Isn’t that a form of reward?? in fact is there any greater thing then to be loved by Jesus, does he not see how degraded I feel and humiliated their hateful actions and comments makes me feel his child who believes in him???
There’s nothing in the Bible that says that you have the ability to “feel” God’s love for other people; this is an idea that you have invented in your own mind because you’ve decided, contrary to everything that Jesus taught, that God is rewarding evil. HE’S NOT!
Jesus loves EVERYONE, even those who mistreated him… and as Christians, it is our job to be the same way. STOP proclaiming how people are hateful or harming you; what does that complaining get you, other than losing access to God’s blessings? Jesus is an expert in degradation, having experienced it firsthand, but that doesn’t mean that he’s going to prevent you or anyone else from ever being humiliated; he made clear that we will undergo many trials and tribulations.
God does NOT respond to complaining and false accusations with rewards and blessings, any more than a human being would respond that way. If you want God’s best, STOP complaining, STOP falsely accusing Him, and start thanking and praising, and asking for forgiveness and blessings for the people who hurt you… THEN and only then will you see God’s supernatural favor in your life.
An, it’s 2024 and I pray that you have already overcome this obstacle. But I will say this anyway and pray that it may help you or someone else. Retaliation of the flesh is not good, you were right about that. But the retaliation of the spirit is to go to your heavenly Father with your broken heart. Constant prayer will lead you to take the best course of action. There are laws in place against bullying, especially in the work place. But you need to be righteous in God and the spirit of God will lead you on what to do and how to do it. God fights for us more than we even care to notice. But sometimes He allows things to sharpen our edges or to get our attention when we live like we are being under a spell. So righteousness is a long process. But one needs to start it somewhere sometimes by looking at their own actions through the lenses of the Holy Spirit and decide what you want to part with. Then, pray, and God will rid you of it, in due time.
Those types are below you and you can have everlasting peace and joy by continuing in your faith in God.
Hello An,
It means that God has a great blessing for you that the devil cannot stand, that is why he is doing everything he could to destroy you so you will not benefit for that blessing that is waiting for you! Do not be discouraged nor destructed, have faith in God, God will fight for you! Pray constantly and trust his timing, he’s never late nor early, your situation is not a surprise to him, he knows everything about circumstances. May God bless you!
Hi again, J-excellent questions!! 🙂
Most success comes from God. He gives us talent and the ability to work hard. He causes people to notice us, like us, and help us, even when we don’t earn it. He helps us keep going when we’re tired or feeling frustrated or hopeless.
However, there are plenty of high-profile positions of success where a great deal of bad behavior, or worse, has been involved. The many athletes who use performance-enhancing substances are a prime example. All the cheaters and bribers and corner-cutters and employee-mistreaters that fill the news are more examples. We hear so much about them that it can make us see all holders of “surface success” as bad, but I think there are plenty of decent folks who worked for what they have that just don’t do anything newsworthy. It may be naive, but I think that the good people are the majority.
You’ve made a wise deduction; many wealthy people who are unhappy feel that way because they have no connection to God, and this makes them feel empty. (Of course, lots of them have created their own unhappiness via foolish and self-destructive choices, too; life is rarely simple.)
True success is easy to achieve:
Matthew 22:37 (NIV)
37 … Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.
“Surface success,” when you don’t possess rare talents or impressive connections, is a great deal of work; yes, God will be there helping us every step of the way, but He expects us to do what we can before He shows up to do what we can’t. There are many fine books that can teach you to succeed in business, and it would be prudent to invest in one. You may need to learn new skills, by taking classes or even getting an advanced degree. You may have to work 100-hour weeks. You may have to spend long hours at the library or computer researching your industry and what its top performers have done to get there. And you may have to go to trade shows, conventions and other events to meet and get to know the movers and shakers who can give you inside info, and the inside track on opportunities. It usually takes years of this sort of effort, and the sacrifices it entails, to achieve surface success the honorable way; if you want to go for it, you can count on God to help make it happen!!
Thank you for that great answer. I was just thinking about that same question tonight. You really helped me understand and I thank you for that!
You’re very welcome!! Thank you for the comment. 🙂
How about those people who goes to church but with attitudes like being proud and full of pride, they don’t accept that they failed? Prayerful but their desire to become rich and to prove to other people that they are rich and knows everything?
That sort of person has no understanding of God, much less closeness to Him. You should feel sorry for them, and pray for them. Don’t let them spoil your enjoyment of church; ignore them and focus on God. Thank you for the comment, Seeking truth!! 🙂
Thank you for this, was one of the best comments.
I haven’t been going to church for that very reason. My husband said, “what’s the point in going when you just get upset when you get there because of certain people that have nothing better to do than watch what you wear to church, how you look, and then post nasty things about you after church. Better to watch the mass at home so you can concentrate on the mass and not be bothered by all the negativity around.” — Which I am not very happy with since I do love going to church. But he does have a point. If it will only upset me then my going is pointless.
It certainly seems pointless to go to church if it will be such a misery for you; that’s not what God wants us to experience at church. Is there any other church that you can go to, even if it would take a bit of a drive? It doesn’t have to be your specific denomination; any church can provide you with spiritual insights.
There are many fine pastors whose sermons are shown on TV and are available online; I highly recommend finding some that you like and enjoying them at your convenience.
Going to a church isn’t necessary. Life is a church. Your body, is a church/temple. It exists in the mind. This is where you commune with “God.” Churches have been tithe houses for way too long. You dont need to show up and support someones tax break/donation racket. Lol.
Your husband has a strong point and I understand where he’s coming from. There is so many hypocrites at church now days. In my opinion these types aren’t saved anyway, they will probaby be in the group where Jesus tells them to depart from him because he never knew them. God bless you and your husband, you both seem like great people. I say to ignore them, and keep doing what’s keeping your relationship with Jesus Christ strong!
I’m sorry you’ve had such nasty experiences in the place where we should all be able to feel free to worship our Lord and Saviour without feeling as though we are placed underneath a judgmental microscope…personally, I too have felt this way in the past and stopped going to church. What I didn’t realize at that time was that by paying attention to the proud(who we must pray for because the proud will not stand in the presence of the almighty) and ultimately ceasing to attend church, I had completely forgotten the whole reason for my attending in the 1st place! Satan is involved in all of thos as well brothers and sisters and I’m actually surprised he hasn’t actually been mentioned yet from what I’ve been reading. Satan does not deserve recognition but he loves it when he can hide and we carry on like self absorbed fools and point the finger at our merciful and loving creator and Lord! He doesn’t like exposure so let’s look at these comments and may I suggest that quite possibly, the devil and his demons are busy as usual causing as much confusion, conflict, and calamity as they can by making us pay attention to other members of our congregation rather than ignoring our worldly feelings of pride or self pity and understand we are at church to glorify God and Jesus Christ…when we get mixed up in feeling angry or resentful at how WE are being treated in church by our fellow brothers and sisters, rather than putting aside ourselves and all attention placed solely where church should be focused, we lose that connection as well as fall short of His glory by failing to put worship of Him above EVERYTHING especially above our own feelings of inadequacy or mistreatment. It’s about glorifying our Lord, and as far as everyone that’s speaking up making those false accusations against our perfect Father…shame on you
Sorry, I say this in love so don’t take me as though I’m disrespecting here because I’m guilty of the same but shame on us for not placing the blame on Satan considering he definitely would be laughing and celebrating the idea that his tricks worked again and we are pointing fingers, passing unnecessary and false judgment on our brothers and sisters as well as onto.our father rather than onto.who it really belongs to. The wicked liar! Font be tricked! Be smart! For it is written: Hosea 4:6 “My people perish for lack of knowledge”. Because thou has rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thpu shalt be no priest to me…”
God bless us immensely and intensely and open our eyes, ears, and hearts to His truth! Amen 🙏
It is not success in business what makes you evil, it is evil acts no matter if you are poor or rich. No one can judge but Jesus Christ, we can only ask for forgiveness.
You’re right, Ery, evil people can be either rich or poor, successful or not. We should never envy them or want to be like them!!
What I struggle with the most is this idea of “true success. ” I have had the undeserved and unfortunate displeasure of meeting quite a few self proclaimed “Christians” who truly believe they have a deep connection with God. Meanwhile they go out into the world and do very hurtful things to others with this idea that as long as they don’t acknowledge their ugliness it doesn’t exist because God is forgiving & guilt is actually the devil. So they basically commit evil acts in the world and feel proud about it and then are further rewarded by not only worldly things but a clear conscience. However the victim now has lost their faith & is dealing with the hurt the so-called “Christian” has caused. How then is “true success” defined? I would love to read your thoughts on this. Thank you in advance
I feel your pain, Xovanessa, truly; I’ve been kicked in the teeth by that sort of person more than once. True success means ACTUAL closeness with God, not pretended closeness or hallucinated closeness. Evil people have a clear conscience whether they believe in God, or pretend to, or not; they are missing things that are crucial to being human. They should not be envied; we should pray for them.
Yes, they cause a lot of suffering. Suffering is necessary to grow us up, to build our strength and character, and to increase our faith; everything serves God’s plan.
God is what matters; keep your focus on Him, and He will handle the rest.
Thank you, your post and comments helped to answer the questions I had.
This is exactly what I am experiencing. I try so very hard to keep my faith, but it hurts to watch someone who destroyed your life to achieve the wants of their own continue to succeed. I just don’t understand.
People who destroy lives often possess the skills for success in life, and people with skills usually succeed. I know it’s hard, but you need to take the focus off of them and work on your own life.
Hi I’m feeling that same pain. Very depressed and asking God why me.
Why you? Why any of us? The Bible makes clear that bad times come to us all. Why would you be an exception? If you are clinically depressed, please visit your doctor and get some medication, because that is a physical illness issue. If however you are not clinically depressed, the worst thing you can do is sit around asking why me; use that same energy to do something enjoyable or otherwise positive. I know it’s hard, but please try to move forward to a solution rather than staying stuck in pain. No one can make that choice for you!
I go to church where I don’t know a soul. Seems better and I can pray and fellowship with God the way I want in my heart.
The important thing is to feel connected to God, JC; if what you’re doing works for you, keep doing it. 🙂
There are scripture verses where it says fellowship is important for believers. If you go it alone, the enemy can easily and eventually pick you off. I’ve encountered some direct nasty behavior from so called Christians in my church, but a Christian will focus on Christ. While people will always let us, Christ won’t.
Remember too, Jesus was forsaken by all of his disciples.
If they’re succeeding, aren’t they blessed by God? If so, then God blesses the wicked and continues to keep them happy. As xovanessa said, they have a clear conscience, so evil or not, they’re happy. The ones affected by this (watching their success despite their bad deeds) are the ones that are punished. And it IS punishment. Waiting for a promised blessing that may not come or come at 70 when you’re too old to enjoy them. How does faith fix that?
No, they don’t need to be blessed by God to succeed; success can come from using skills. Happiness takes more than a clear conscience, but certainly some evil people are happy, in their shallow, godless way; the only way it could be otherwise would be if God took overt action against all evil people, and that would eliminate free will, one of His most precious gifts to us.
It’s not a “punishment” to see the success of others, whether they are good or evil. The only one punishing you is YOU, with your anger, bitterness and jealousy; these things prevent God from blessing you, and prevent you from enjoying the blessings you’ve already been given.
If you have faith, REAL faith, you won’t have a single thought that God is doing something despicable like blessing evil people, you won’t waste a single moment stewing in resentment about what other people have achieved or are given, and you won’t have a shred of doubt that, as long as you remain in faith, blessings will come. That is how faith will “fix” how you feel.
Having this sort of faith is hard; it took me years to achieve it. It’s worth it.
Fomerheathen
Nothing happens but by God (according to the Bible) therefore, the skills these evil dooers posses are given to them by God and they are using them to achieve…which means they’re a blessing. God allows the wicked to prosper. Free will is a crock…God gives it as a “gift” then some evil dooer uses it to harm a believer and you indicate they should brush off the harm as if it were nothing as if we are made of stone and are not human with FEELINGS or if not they don’t have faith??? Personally, I feel God sets people up just for the heck of it…as if he’s playing a chess game.
I’ll try my best to address your points, Cheryl:
Nothing happens unless God allows it… but in most case, He doesn’t CAUSE it. He created a universe with laws of physics, and humans with free will, so that everything can mostly run independent of Him. Therefore:
Our inborn abilities come from our DNA, which is a random mixture of our parents’ DNA. Skills are learned abilities, and that learning comes from our free will, or the free will of parents, teaches, coaches etc forcing us to do it. Thus, the skills of evildoers come from DNA and free will, NOT from blessings.
If God prevented the evil from prospering, that would not only eliminate free will, but by making it obvious that He was there stopping evildoers, that would cause people to not be able to make a real choice between evil and good, and to not need faith because we would have proof.
Faith refers to a specific set of attitudes; if someone doesn’t have those attitudes, they do not have faith. Believing that God is setting people up for harm is the opposite of faith; God does not reward that attitude, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure.
God does not expect us to brush off harm, He expects us to overcome it with faith. People with true faith can overcome ANYTHING, and keep loving and trusting the Lord; radical faith is rewarded with radical blessings.
Hope that helps!! 🙂
Thank you. I always wondered about evil people being more successful than good people.
You’re welcome, Javier!! 🙂
I came across this website again. I love GOD SOOOOOO MUCH and cruelty is done to me by others basis. The actions of people i know its sad and disgustingly uncomfortable. I shake and cry endlessly to GOD i just want him i want to praise the LORD AND MAKE HIM SHINE THROUGH my life. But im struggling soooo badly like constant bad luck i have so much faith THATS ALL I NEEED IN THE END IS YOU LORD AND your follows my brothers and sisters. I just wish for peace and happiness and love and kindness FREE WILL its true your sooooo right (: excuse my grammar i was excited to post up a message here. God bless all the people on this post. Sending love out there. Sometimes it is hard i see two parts of people and it sickened me when i saw two different sides to a person i know people thought they were good but behind there back that person was so rude and i dont know i just get so upset they prosper and its painful meanwhile here im giving all my might into so much and my faith is whats keeping me ALIVE AMEN
I know how awful it feels to be surrounded by people who aren’t treating you right, Sarah Jane. All you can do is cut them out of your life, or if you can’t do that stay as far away from them as you can. Then, you can use your time and energy to find some nicer people to spend time with. Stay in faith; God will get you away from the mean people and into a group of the right people!!
I studied hard in college and received a degree in Business Management and a minor in Accounting all the while working full time. I cannot seem to get the promotion nor the recognition in my field. Recently, an employee who was a stay-at-home mother for sixteen years and began working at the same place as I do was promoted to a management position with a guaranteed salary of $85,000. She was only working for the employer for ten years while I have been there for twenty years. What should I do? I am incredibly frustrated at the situation. Help me please.
Petra, promotions are rarely based on how long you’ve worked somewhere, unless there’s a union that enforces promotion rules; it is largely based on what the person in charge feels like doing. If someone with none of your education and half your experience got promoted instead of you, that means that whoever makes the decisions at your company does not see you as management material. They are wrong, of course, and God knows that; He already has a better job lined up for you… almost certainly at another place.
I wouldn’t suggest leaving a place where you’ve got 20 years invested during this weak economy, so keep doing your best where you are, but be ready to find the right job at the right place when things pick up.
Thank-you for the Blessing this has been for me to read tonight. God bless you and your family.
William James Glennon
You’re very welcome!! 🙂
I feel for all of you that struggle with this. For myself, I’ve found that it is best to try to separate yourself as much as possible from this world around you. This world is nothing but lies and sin. Through Christ God has given you the chance to live under a completely new reward system. If you keep wishing you had the rewards of the worldly motivated, then you will only miss out on the much greater rewards that come from denying yourself from this world and instead focusing on a dedicated servitude to God.
For this reason I am grateful to God that he did NOT give me success in the world when I lived apart from him, for that may have only caused me to never answer his call for me to serve as one of his precious soldiers. There is nothing more fulfilling in this world than a life in service to God. Just think of how few people in this world seem to truly understand that. Don’t pray for worldly blessings as a reward for your service to God. Pray for the spiritual blessings needed to stay pure in a world that is run by those detached from God. And most of all, let the words of no man take precedence in your life over those words of your true Master. The complete surrender of yourself to God is the only way to reach the pinnacle of your potential here in your earthly existence. I am grateful that He has revealed such truth to me. .
I love this Mitch, thank you! I believe I was meant to read this as it is my mothers birthday (in heaven) the day you posted this! I felt your words and they brought me comfort. I was feeling sad, about her passing when I was 14. And the person responsible. My father is still living. A man who has never done anything with his life but hurt others. I recently lost everything and I was never a materialistic person, I wasn’t raised that way. I had sentimental things. I fell on hard time, reached out to my father and at first he was nice but then, I know him, he couldnt wait to have me in his face so he can bring up the same thing I’ve heard since the 80s and the 90s and way before I was born. I’m 35 and he’s still talking about when I cut school when I was 35, trying to compare it to the abuse and torture to my mom and us. He tries to make others feel bad for not being a muslim, and hes not even a real one, he switched from being a christian to a muslim to do bad things, because he agreed with their teachings from hundreds of years ago, that said its ok to beat women. When he found out I lost my apt, my things, he said good thats what I get for not being a muslim and because I don’t respect him. I forgave and tried to move on but no man should beat his daughter with a belt 200 times on her bare butt when I was 15, cuz he thought I had sex with a boy and I didnt . He tried to treat me like my mom, he lashed her on her feet 200 times and said if she ever left him, she wouldnt be able to walk. This man has mad so many peoples lives miserable and hurt so man y people but yet, hes living it up, bragging about his house cars etc, always judging others constantly. But deep down he’s a hurt little boy still talking about when his mother flushed his turtle down the toilet and here he is 65. and he’s till talking about it, and how his mother made him eat last and so forth, so when he met my mother, he conned her into marrying him and everything his mother didnt do, he beat my mother into doing it. He made all of our lives a living hell, especially mine up until I was 18 to leave, I tried to leave before that but no one came for me. I’m so glad god has kept me and protected me, becauseI turned out ok and I know that everything that this mad says against me, it s reflection of how he feels about himself. Even when I was on tv, he tried to make it about him and ruin it for me, and I didnt even know where he was and have not seen him in 18 years, he constantly hold grudges and has no forgiveness in his heart. He blends in with society and tried to make it seem like hes these god fearing manm but behind close doors, hes evil. If only the people who he prays with could hear him and how he treats his family. I’m just glad that my mother is at peace as much as I miss her. She no longer has to get beat up and totured every day and no emotional abuse. I’m also proud of how god has just kept me and that I didnt turn out like the rest of my family. I work on myself everyday and I know god has blessings in store for me. I just gotta keep my eye on him.
I’m sorry your father is so cruel. My parents are too. I had to completely cut them out of my life for the sake of my sanity and that of my marriage and to protect our daughter. He really reminds me of my mother when used the Christian religion to feel superior. She knows nothing about Him. She has been a gun totting nutcase who threatened to kill us all. Do what sonething suggested and please look up naracissim.
Hi making it short my ex baby dady just had a beautiful new born baby girl. He and his new lady girlfriend has hurt me badly bringing my spiritdown saying that I’m not so bright That I look like an old lady. I have had helped them in so many ways and they just have only cleaned there feet on me and laughed off me. I do have two little boys of him they are my treasure in earth and they are the only one who gives me strength to go on in life. I do believe in God and love him but sometimes I do think to myself why evil people get there way or be blessed in life knowing that they are doing bad.
Oneida, I’m sorry that those people have treated you so badly!! You need to STOP dong anything for them. Don’t have any contact whatsoever with her, and only have contact with him about your children… and be sure he pays all of his child support.
Why do you care what terrible people like them say about you? You should feel bad if evil people APPROVE of you, not if they criticize you.
God isn’t blessing them; people can get together and make babies without blessings. Don’t worry about them; make the best possible life for you and your boys, and God will give you happiness that they will envy!!
As a single mom let me be the first to say not to worry about the new relationship or kid. God is not inept nor one to be mocked. People reap what they sow. I went through something similar and it looks good on the outside but trust me he wasn’t happy, was always drinking and smoking weed. A sign of a curse. God will send you a great man. Thank God in advance! Im living proof. One love!
Shalom to all this post really helped me because I’m also going through alot …I believe in our heavenly father’s word which says his plans for us is not to harm us but to bless us ..I’m thankful again to everyone that contributed to this post.
I’m glad that the post helped you, Wes!! It’s interesting that you used “shalom” as a greeting, when I just posted 9 hours ago about a vision a prophetic pastor had over me of the flag of Israel, which people keep saying is a reference to the approach of “shalom = peace”
I have been dealing with a MIL that treats me and my family very badly. She has always treated me badly from the first time I met her. Always has some sort of snide comment about me. I’ve tried so hard to be nice to her, and at least be civil with her. My husband and I have fell on hard times and have had to live at her mercy. In her house at the moment. It is the toughest thing I believe I have ever done in my life. She is buddhist and we completely don’t get along. I wish I could distance myself as others have said, but It is hard to do when you must co-habitate with someone. I have prayed and prayed to God about her hoping she will change her ways. I am left in tears at least once a week due to her antics. She is a very successful person and is doing wonderful for herself. All she seems to care about is money. She doesn’t seem to care about the happiness of her children or grandchildren. I hope that something changes for us soon because at this rate I feel so depressed around her. Thanks for reading. God bless!
That sounds like a dreadful situation, Wish!! Asking God to change other people is usually a bad idea, though. Instead, ask God to give you patience, courage, strength, and the wisdom to see what you can do to get along with that awful woman… see it as a gift for your husband, who probably feels trapped between the 2 of you, and ashamed that you have to live with his mother. Show her how a true woman of God behaves!!
I believe God has mentioned that it is more peaceful to sleep on the roof than to live with an bitter angry person in a house. Find a one room apartment and cut back even if you must walk or take the bus. This kind of stress will bring on cancer, autoimmune diseases etc. I know. I had cancer and I deal with so many other stress related diseases due to being abused. I lived at home till I married. I was afraid to leave. I should of ran away but I was scared.
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Thank you for the help.I had posted days ago: re: Why does God reward Christians who steal n cheat.I want to be who God knows I am.Forgive anyone and everyone who done me wrong. To give all up to God. My name is Will .God bless
Thank you.
Make no mistake, William; God does NOT reward people who steal, cheat, or do anything else wrong. Please re-read the post so that you will be clear on this important issue.
God gave you free will, so that whether you are the best person you can be, or the worst, or somewhere in between, is your CHOICE. He is ready to help you at any time with the wisdom, strength, courage, patience, etc that you need to grow closer to His image of you; all you have to do is ask. Any time you’re willing to give your life over to Him, He will be there with His arms out to accept you.
Forgiveness is likewise a CHOICE. The following may help you win the battle against your own mind that is necessary to truly forgive:
Click to access BS01_Forgiveness.pdf
Thank you. The advice was what I needed. I have read what was recommended and found it a Blessing.You was so correct,I have made the correct choice. God is the only way to be attentive and not disrespect is the only way.I must thank God for having you give me what I needed to hear.
You’re welcome, William!! God will always show you the way if you ask Him.
Well God certainly Punished many of us Good people with Singleness. But why?
Totally, singleness is NOT a punishment. People are single because of free will, and for no other reason. People use their free will to CHOOSE to not pursue people who are available to them. People use their free will to CHOOSE to not go out with the people who ask them. People use their free will to CHOOSE to not go to the places where potential romantic partners can be interacted with, and that includes the many online dating sites. People use their free will to CHOOSE to not make changes in their appearance, behavior, attitude or circumstances that they need to make to be desirable to those people that they would be willing to go out with.
I don’t know which of those factors applies to your case, but I DO know that the first step in changing things is to change your attitude. I can’t tell whether your negativity comes from bitterness, anger, sadness, or other negative emotions, but whichever it is, it will drive people away. People want to be romantically involved with those who are happy, cheerful, positive, and upbeat; the attitude that you are being PUNISHED by God with singleness will not bring joy into anyone’s life, and so no one will want to go out with you. They will use their free will to CHOOSE to not associate with you. It doesn’t matter whether or not you are saying those exact words to the people at you meet, or any similar words; your ATTITUDE will come through every time you talk to people.
The other aspect of attitude that many single people need to change is the idea that if they are not overwhelmingly attracted to someone the instant they meet them, then they never can be attracted to that person, and therefore they refuse to consider going out with that person. Think about it; unless you are housebound, you encounter single people all the time, everywhere you go; how many of those people are you chatting up to see if they would like to date you? Are you looking at every single person you meet as a potential date, or are you instantly disqualifying every person you meet without even getting to know them? Try this; go to the dating site of your choice and look at the profiles for 100 people in your area. Then, ask yourself how many of those people you would be willing to initiate contact with and get to know to see if they would want to date you. If the answer is not 100, then, assuming that you have not stumbled across the profiles of a bunch of criminals on parole or whatever, you are disqualifying people for no reason before you get to know them… and that is a big part of why you’re single.
If you honestly want to be in a relationship, stop falsely accusing God of punishing you, and ask Him to help you change the things that you need to change in order to find people to date and be appealing to them. He will get you to the right person; all you have to do is ask… and then follow through when that person shows up.
We live and work in Germany and I have a Boss who is French and I am African.For the Past 17 years this man has never wanted to know or see anything good about me.All he wanted to see is me reduced to a slave that he thinks I am.But I have always ignored and pretented that he is NOT succeeding against me but in reality he is draining me to my grave.My blood pressure never go down now.Every new employee after some few months are simply placed ahead of me just to make me feel bad about myself,yet he wouldnt sack me.Why does this man continue to Exist?
Jud, I’m sorry for what you’re going through!! You need to get some perspective on this issue, though. Given all the rapists and murderers and drug dealers who are in the world, your boss is too minor to worry about. You should pray for his redemption along with the redemption of the other bad people of all kinds.
Rather than worrying about why any particular person exists, a better question would be; why are you not doing anything about this situation?
Is this man the highest level of boss at your company? If not, you need to speak to whoever is in authority above him, manager, human resources, the owner of the company, whoever, and tell them about this situation. Almost everyone wants fairness in the workplace, so speaking up is very likely to cause your boss to be corrected and forced to change his behavior.
If your boss is the highest authority at your job, or if the highest authorities are also among those who think that the workplace is a good location to mistreat people, then you need to get a job somewhere else. You have at least 17 years of job experience, so you should be desirable to other employers.
God doesn’t want us to stay in terrible situations feeling stressed and frustrated and complaining; He wants us to take action. Pray for strength and guidance, and make a change.
Allah jst help evil people nt good it’s followers bcz Allah has blessed only elite class and unkind people how Allah can do justice bcz if he do that he has to punish his blessed people whor ur unkind unhuman and evil so how Allah can do justice every wherw in world innocent people r dying but Allah is silent so he z with with evil and unkind people s
God NEVER helps or blesses evil people. He allows evil because we have free will and some people make evil choices. Innocent people die because we use our free will to allow it. Praise God instead of falsely accusing Him, and you will see Him move in your life.
Well then again with so many women that have their Careers today since many of them are now so very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky, and very money hungry is the reason why many of us Good men are still single because of this. And it is very obvious why we Never found the Right One to marry because of their Evil ways. It is just too bad God Never Blessed us to find Love.
Women are no more evil because they have jobs than MEN are evil because THEY have jobs.
God could bring you 1000 women, and it wouldn’t do you any good, because no woman will want to be romantically involved with a man with a bitter, complaining, hateful attitude like yours. If you want to get married, the first step is to radically and permanently change your attitude; if you refuse to do that, you can’t expect God to bring you any women.
A good man has a positive, caring, forgiving, loving attitude; that should be your goal.
The purpose of this blog is to love God and understand what He wants from us; please do not submit any further accusatory or negative comments, because they will not be posted or responded to.
I work in a privately owned hospital n d politics r enormas. There so many good hard working people that get stepped on, it makes me sick. I pray everyday before I go to work that d Lord comes down on this place of employment n weeds out d evil ones. I pray that d good employees get blessed n proceed to a better life. Things have n r beginning to change. I say d Lord can move worlds n much more surely he can change things against evil n bless those hard working people.
Gus, one of the unfortunate things in life is that evil people have to work somewhere; if the evil people leave where you work, that means they are going to infest other people’s workplaces, causing THEM harm. If you pray for harm to be taken away from you and given to other people, that is not a Christian prayer, and God will not respond to it. What you should pray instead is that the evil people will accept Jesus into their hearts, and so stop being evil.
God DOES bless hard-working people, every single day of their lives; just because they aren’t making millions of dollars in stress-free workplaces doesn’t mean that they’re not being blessed. You need to stop worrying about everybody else’s blessings and stresses and focus on your own life and relationship with God. Complaining blocks blessings from getting to you. Start thanking and praising God every day; that is what He will reward.
So where is god to protect all the innocence of children being sold, abused in every possible way. Why does he let bad people abuse the innocent, kill where is he I when they cry and pray for help..and yet many die in hands of the worst in of this world..I got tired of praying, crying, waiting, making different choices for things to be different in my life and theres always someone or something happening to put me in lower and worse situations..I tried many times not to loose faith but I just don’t get it…I don’t envy the prosperity of bad people but it just doesn’t make sense at all to me anymore.
I understand your frustration, Annette, but God does not run our lives for us; we are each responsible for our own life, for the lives of those around us, and for exerting our influence on policymakers who decide how large our police forces are, how much money to spend tracking down evildoers, etc.
If God interfered in human affairs to rescue people, we would NOT be living our own lives, we would be puppets or robots, being programmed and controlled, with no actual free choice. I understand that you might be willing to be a puppet if that meant that no children had to suffer, but not everyone would agree with you, and more to the point, that is not how God has decided to run the world.
The human race has the resources and the ability to make this planet a paradise; as a species, we’ve chosen not to do so. As a result, many people will have bad things keep happening in their lives. This is where faith comes into it. God asks very little from us in return for the endless gifts and blessings He gives us; one of those things is faith. If you lose faith every time things go badly, God does not respond with rescuing or blessings; in other words, your lack of faith is the reason God is not giving you more blessings.
If you have true faith, your faith will never waver no matter how many terrible things happen to you. When you reach that point, you will find that your life has greatly improved. Until then, pray that God will help you increase your faith, and focus on thanking and praising God, rather than complaining about how there is suffering in the world, exactly as the Bible makes clear will be the case. You’ll be amazed at how much better your life becomes.
So then how do you explain when God intervened with human affairs by making pharaoh’s heart hard, by parting the Red Sea and by rescuing his people from Egypt, allowing them to escape, then swallowing their pursuers into the sea? It seems to me the Bible is full of examples of God “rescuing” people from evildoers. So how can you claim that God does not interfere with human affairs to rescue people?
I never claimed any such thing; there’s a whole world of difference between saying that God doesn’t run our lives and saying that God does not EVER intervene in human affairs. God intervenes whenever He decides to do so; the other 99% of the time, we are expected to handle our own lives, since we are neither robots nor puppets.
Your previous comment to Annette stated: “If God interfered in human affairs to rescue people, we would NOT be living our own lives, we would be puppets or robots, being programmed and controlled, with no actual free choice”
– that statement implies that God does not interfere in order to rescue people because of our free choice.
Is the problem here that you don’t understand the difference between intervening and interfering? One of them is positive, and one of them is negative… and by definition, everything God does is positive. God might intervene to help you when He feels it’s necessary, but He does not INTERFERE with your life, which is what He would be doing if He was deciding every moment what you did and didn’t get. Since the Bible is full of actions by the Lord, obviously neither I or anyone else could ever be saying that He has no interaction with people in any way; the point to take away here is that people blame God when evil people get good things in life by their own efforts, or claim that every time they don’t get what they want, it’s because God actively prevented them to punish them in some way. That sort of thinking is nonsensical and counterproductive.
How can you say its a lack of faith! I was born and raised in a strict Catholic home. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 8 years. We finally thought things were going our way after years of fertility but I went into premature labor at 6 months he lived 2 weeks in nicu and God took him away from us. Worse day of our life which also happened to be my mother’s birthday. Since then more fertility treatments more money spent and still nothing!! What this “reason” why I am being punished. Yet people around me only have to cough and they are pregnant. Or I open up the newsfeed and another baby or child is being abused or killed. Yes now I’m losing faith when I thought I would never.
Carmen, I say that lack of faith is the reason that people are not given more blessings, because it is the simple truth.
Being given blessings, or more blessings, does NOT mean that nothing bad happens to you anymore; the Bible is very clear that bad things will happen to EVERYONE.
I’m so sorry to hear about your baby!! You need to understand that God did NOT take him away, He did not make you infertile, and you’re not being punished for anything. Bad things happen to people because that’s the way God set up the world, NOT because you’re being punished for something.
It’s understandable to lose faith when terrible things happen to you, but it is NOT acceptable to God. A person of true faith does not lose any of that faith no matter what happens. I personally lost everyone and everything on which my entire life was based within the space of a few years, and my faith NEVER wavered… which is why I am now being rewarded with such astonishing blessings.
You can always make excuses for why you’re losing faith. There’ll always be a bunch of things in your life, or the lives of those around you, or in the world, that you can point to as justification for losing faith. The reality is, though, that there are NO circumstances under which it is acceptable to God for you to lose faith, and more to the point, faith that weakens or vanishes when things are going badly, faith that is only solid when things are going well, is not really faith at all; true faith is the 100% certainty that God is going to make good on a situation no matter how bad things are, how bad they are becoming, or how you can’t see any possible way out.
True faith is difficult to achieve. It took me several years to get there, of course God had to help me. Whether or not you try to achieve it is 100% up to you. There will be no confusion as to whether you have it or not; if either tragedy in your life or hearing about children who are harmed or killed affects your faith, it is NOT true faith.
If you have true faith, you can receive the highest level of God’s blessings. If you do not have true faith, you will not receive that level blessings. Whatever level of blessings you’re at, bad things will still happen to you, just like the Bible says that it will. But remember:
John 16:33 (NIV)
33 In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
I’ve seen this time and time again. And from what I’ve seen and learned is you have to hand it over to God which means you can’t worry about it anymore. You have to accept the fact that you might not be able to have a baby and truly be ok with that. Once you have, that is when you will get pregnant or have a baby come into your life. I dont know why this happens but it does. I think it’s because you are putting so much stress on yourself to get pregnant that your body couldn’t handle actually being pregnant. Once you release that stress, your body changes and that’s how it happens. But if it doesn’t, it’s ok because either way your body doesn’t have that stress anymore and you can look at different options, like adoption, that maybe you wouldn’t of wanted or considered before because you were so focused on having one yourself. Being a mother is way more than birthing a child. You can be a great mother to any child as long as you open your heart to it.
Everybody sin!!!! So basically we are judging people.. Forgive me father for judging people hi I’m sorry
I have friends I know that are involved in illegal business. They do drugs and drown themselves in alcohol almost everyday. They hardly work but money flows in from their illegal activities like clock work. I have tried to bring God into their lives and they have said to me this “Look at you. Are you successful? You’re living from day to day. If your God cant let you have a decent lifestyle, what makes you think we’d want to part from our lifestyle only to end up like you?”.
Its a profound statement when you think about it.
I am a forex trader…or trying to be. I know how to make money from forex but for the last 4 months EVERYTHING I have done in forex has made me only losses. Every morning I pray that the Lord will bless the work of my hand. I try desperately to please Him…not just with my words…but also my deeds. Yes, I have many failures and shortcomings… yes, I have sin in my life…but is it so bad that He chooses to punish my family by failing me in my work? I am now at a point where I can’t put food on my kids’ table anymore…
How did this happen?
How did my God, the one I trusted, the one I devoted my life to, the one I left all the “richness” behind to follow, the one for whom I even was prepared to walk away from my fiance (she is part of that group of friends but is the only one willing to turn to God) because I wanted to put God first… how did this happen Lord?
I hear you guys talk about “Surface Happiness”, “Seek first the kingdom of God…” and so on… I don’t know what to say really.
I’m torn between the two sides…
I am not wanting money so I can flaunt it and do drugs and swim in alcohol. I am simply seeking a comfortable life where I don’t have to think twice before I buy my son a box of legos or take 12 months to save for a 1 week family vacation. I’m not saying I deserve anything… However, I do question who deserves what when I see my “evil” friends not only get away with illegal business activities but get super wealthy each passing day while I am hanging by the skin of my teeth.
Distraught. Displaced. Drowning…
Jake, God NEVER causes someone to fail in their work, and NEVER punishes anyone’s family for anything. You’re failing for the same reason anyone else fails; you don’t have the right skills, you don’t have the right training, you don’t work hard enough or long enough hours, you’re not in the right place at the right time, you don’t know the right people, etc.
Why didn’t you STOP doing this forex trading as soon as it became obvious that you were not going to succeed? You used your free will in an improper way here; when you have a family depending on you, and you’re not doing well at something, you should immediately switch to something that you can make money at… and if you don’t do that, don’t blame God.
Following God and putting God first does NOT guarantee that you will have success. You have to pick the right job, the job that you have the ability to do in such a manner as to become successful, and then do all the right things the right time. That’s 100% up to you, not to God.
Having a negative attitude about God can cause Him to withhold blessings from you, so you need to immediately and permanently purge from your mind any thought that God is ever taking any action to harm you or your family.
You need to cease all associations with known evil people immediately: if you know what they’re doing or how much money they’re making, you are too close to them.
Stay in faith; God will help you find where you need to be and what you need to do!!
Hi FH
Thanks for replying. I didn’t expect it would come the same day. Glad it did.
I have made money in Forex in the past. In fact, I used forex to gather the deposit (partial) for what’s currently the family home. Also, I am not a programmer but through (I believe) the Holy Spirit, I have received revelation into matters around Forex that helped me build certain things that I could not do if I did not have 1) the skills/knowledge 2) God’s hand upon me, 3) in the right place (with regards to Forex being THE THING)…so I’m a bit confused now. Either my mind is clouded now or it was back when I had all the success with Forex tht I thought this is what God had given to me as my “fishing net”…
Why didn’t I stop? Well, I had reasons to believe that Forex is where God was calling me to exercise my “talent”. I figured that “trading” is something that God endorses in that through the parable of the talents Jesus talked about the guy who had 5 talents went and “traded with it” and made 5 more… I never saw my trading as just a futile attempt to gather some bread. I did get small wins… however, it is like 2 steps fwd and 3 back…I make $300 after say 20 trades and then in one trade I’d loose $250. Not because of my negligence, but sometimes of foul play from the broker… an unexpected market swing or something completely unforseen…and I find out that many other traders I know also lost that same trade (bigger or smaller) – so I don’t know what’s going on here really FH…
I understand that following God does not gaurantee success…however, who’d want to follow God if the closer you get, the bigger the Bullseye painted on your back (if we are talking about “the weapons of our warfare are not carnal…”)…
You are right about one thing though FH… I cannot carry a negative attitude about God. I don’t mean to and as much as all this might sound like a lousy excuse…right now I am deeply disappointed…most likely in myself… and in my fit of wanting to blame something or someone…I’m naively enough passing the buck to God…
Sifting. Searching. Shifting (trying to)….
Jake, I understand the desire to keep doing something that you were successful at in the past, but things change; it’s always possible to STOP being successful, and, although in some instances you might return to being successful, in other instances you will not. When you have children counting on you, it’s generally best to have a job with a definite salary, rather than an uncertain income that bounces all over the place.
It’s entirely possible that the Holy Spirit helped you in the past, but that does not mean that you have to continue doing the job that he helped you with forever. God expects us to grow and change over our lifetimes. The Holy Spirit’s purpose may simply have been to allow you to get your home, NOT to lock you into being a Forex trader for the rest of your life. God doesn’t just help you with one job and then never help you again; He expects you to use the good sense that He gave you to know when it’s time to leave one job and go on to something better… or at least more stable.
There are many different sorts of jobs in which you can use the intellectual skills that you are using in trading, and you’re not limited to jobs that are connected to jobs in the Bible, nor do you receive any special benefits from taking a job that has ancient ancestors in Biblical times; God does not “endorse” jobs. As long as you are doing honest work, working hard with a good attitude, that is what God cares about.
You are in a very risky business, and so you have plenty of losses along with the wins; there’s no confusion here as to why you’re in financial difficulty. What you’re doing is very close to gambling… something that God does NOT approve of, as a rule. You should ask yourself if you’re getting any kind of thrill from all these gambles and payoffs; if you are, again, that’s something that God does not as a rule approve of. If you were just playing around with a trivial amount of your discretionary income, that would not be a big deal, but you are putting your children’s welfare at risk by staying in a business where you cannot guarantee that you can provide for them in the way you should.
Not that this necessarily applies to people like you and I, but, at least in Biblical terms, the people who were the closest to God did sometimes suffer more than anybody else. Most of the apostles died horrible deaths, and Paul had a list of sufferings so long as to be nearly comical. I’ve seen plenty of examples of people who are great men and women of God being tested more severely than the average person; if you want the biggest blessings, you have to be prepared to prove your faith through the biggest tests.
Your concept of the bull’s-eye is exactly the sort of negative, complaining attitude that causes God to withhold His blessings. Just as you can’t criticize a person to their face and then ask them for favors, you can’t complain that God isn’t giving you everything you want your way and in your timing and expect blessings. People want to follow God because they love and trust Him, and because He’s the Creator of the universe; if that’s not enough for you, if you can’t be filled with joy at God’s very existence, regardless of what He is or is not doing for you right now… then you’re not a man of God, and you will not be the recipient of His best blessings.
Do you think I’m exaggerating, that God can’t possibly care that much about a little bit of complaining? Let me tell you a story: I have only ever complained to God ONCE. It was the morning of my first-ever Sunday service, and I had not gotten one single minute of sleep. I was thinking that this might adversely affect my experience, and I complained to God that He had not answered my prayer to get some sleep… and He froze me in my tracks. I do not exaggerate; He FROZE me in mid-stride as I was running around trying to get ready. And I got A VERY strong impression, that’s hard to put into words, but it was very clear; “DON’T.” That’s how much God cares about ONE complaint. Now ask yourself; how many times have YOU complained?
STOP. No ifs, ands or buts: STOP. Do not ever complain to or about God in any way ever again under any circumstances. Give Him thanks and praise every single day, whether or not you seem to be getting any blessings, whether or not He is doing what you want in the way you want Him to do it. This will change your relationship with Him… it will change your LIFE!!
I think your children will turn amazing to you and the world I have seen in my life don’t worry,they will be obedient and will be successful and surely your eyes will see the downfall of their children in same drugs and alcohol and one day may be enving your children.Those who live easy life die early,one that comes easy go easy . Remember for their children they will just another ATM I have seen such cases alotttttttt.god is fair life may not be.
Evil men succeed when good men do nothing.
Hi,
I’m not really a religious or God-believing person. But your article and your answers here really helped me and most make a lot of sense. I’m surprised about that. You really helped me and I feel a lot better than before. Thank you ❤
You’re welcome!! 🙂
ok, i have a question?
and its a change of subject, and i need help…..
iv been dating this girl for 7 years, and yes its a long distance relationship…….i love her more then anything in the world……
i do regret, that, when i first met her, i was a monster…..i never did anything bad because i could never, ever hurt the one i love……also my parents are christains so i have a well backround with that…….to a point……
four years into my relationship with her, she one day came to me, and said, “you need to change, your anger and hate scares me and if you dont im leaving you”……then she logged off where we talk, and left me thinking……2 days went by and……..i thought to myself, “why and i even thinking about this?”……..i chose the obvious answer and got rid of my anger, and i threw it aside because she ment more to me then holding my anger…….
now, after that, the first year for me was unbareble…….it as one crappy thing after another, or as i call them issues…….or situations……
first was, that she went to a pool with friends some male…..and she found out from another girlfriend, that a guy jacked off in the water, and she was flipping out beacuse she was scared if shed get pregnant,……..as for me, all i did was comfort her, and love her and support her, and let her now i love her so much still…….but all the while anger, for that guy being such a fool, was growing inside me…….but i never once let her see it……i only let her see my light and love for her…….
second one, is her mother…….she brings another man into her life, and now her pparents are going at her forcing her basicly to marry him……throwing out bible verses saying it says this or that, that she “has” to marry him……
i guess ill get to to the last one, which happened last night………i woke up and my girlfriend told me, just leave me, you dont ant me, over and over again she said it……and i asked her why….i wanted a real reason why ……..
she tell me that man her mother, her own mother had her met, rapped her a week before…….you can only imagin my devistaion and hers………
i wont go into detale beccause you already know…….
but, my qustion is this……………………if all i do is love her…….cherish her, comfort her, and everything i can…………why would God let soething so horrible happen like this?……what have i done, what has she done to deserve it…….
im sitting here crying because the pain……the pain……of knowing that the only one i love was hurt…..i wanna know why God has to be so cruel like this……i wanna know his reason for allowing such a horrid thing to happen…….
i still love her so much and all i wanna do is free her, get her away from that place, so she can be loved……and i wanna give her all of my love……
but, why?……what possible reason could God have to do this to her……im in pain, butjust imagin what she feels? i cant…………..even put into words, and it hurts my freaking heart……..i just wanna………go hold her, i wanna just…….wanna hold her close to me, and keep her safe…..
my heart is in agony having to go through this, and i dont wanna make it all about me, her feelings and emotions are far more important then mine……but……a man in agony……how can i be strong for her, when everytime, i talk to her or see her, i break down and cry……
i really love her so very much, and…….i just wanna know why God decided to give us this pain……
I’m very sorry to hear about what happened to your girlfriend!! Please be sure that she is receiving proper medical care and counseling, and that the incident has been reported to the police.
God allowed it to happen for the same reason He allows other things to happen; we have free will. Unfortunately, some people use their free will to do evil. If we were prevented from doing evil, we would not have free will. Although people who have been victims of evil, or whose loved ones have been victims of evil, often proclaim that they want there to be no free will for anyone and therefore no evil, in general, people want to have free will… without it, life would have no meeting, because we would just be puppets or robots.
It’s wonderful that you were cherishing and comforting your girlfriend, but these things do not create a magic shield around the loved one, protecting them from harm. No amount of cherishing and comforting prevents evil people from using their free will against your loved ones.
When evil comes against you, it has nothing to do with what you have done or not done or deserve. Evil just exists, and does as it pleases. Neither you nor your girlfriend did anything to cause the rape, and it is certainly never possible for a woman to DESERVE being raped under any circumstances. An evil person did an evil act, as they always do; unfortunately, in this instance your girlfriend was the victim of it.
There is no cruelty from God involved here; God suffers along with us when harm comes to us. He does not take action because if He did, again, we would have no free will, and we would be puppets or robots, not human beings.
God didn’t do anything to her; the RAPIST did something to her. You need to blame the person who took the actual evil action, not God.
Not only are her feelings more important than yours, they are about a million times more intense than yours; she is the actual victim here, not you. If you can’t man up and provide her with the support that she needs, then you need to go to therapy yourself, in order to take hold of yourself and do what you’re supposed to do here. You need to stop wallowing in your own pain, put it aside, and be the support system that she has every right to expect you to be.
Again, God did not decide anything here, nor did He give you this pain; the RAPIST did those things. You need to stop blaming God, and start asking Him for help; pray for strength, courage, comfort, peace, and you will receive those things, and so will your girlfriend.
I have been doing a lot of thinking, I talked to my grandpa, my dad and a few other christain friends for support and help……
I have been praying, and asking, God what he means when he says his wiil be done, or, be sure your sins will find you out, or, how do you plan to punish this person and when will you?……
he usally answers, and I hear or see something, but he’s been so quiet, I feel like he turned his back on me, derserted me…….but then he says, “I will never leave you nor forsake you, and then, I begin to cry because, I want it to be true, and I want his power……I wnt his to do what I can not and protect the one I love……I want him to punish the guy who did this, and to do it swiftly so it dosent happen again…….
I talked to my girlfriend ealier today, and, the moment I saw her I broke down, I couldent handle it…….all I see is pain on her face, a face that was once so beautiful now tarnished by fear, and confusion………
trust me I am trying so, hard…….so very hard, to be strong in this for her…..not myself……but, I also have feelings I cant ignore…….its hard to swallow mine, because I feel like a failure to her……..I told her many times id protect her, and…….now she pry thinks ……..where were you when I needed you most…….and now Iv become less of anything to her…….I feel ashamed…….I feel just horrible…….
I dont know if she’ll ever recover from this,……iv known her a long time, and she never ever gets over things…….
shes refusing, to tell her parents, and or call the cops……so I need a way to convince her to, because this cant be allowed to go on, and I dont know how to go about doing that……..
I want God to pass judgment fast on this guy, because he threatened her, that he wont stop…….
I sent my love,…….messages of love and comfort and inspiration, ……of support, and kindness and gentelness, and I’m hoping with all my heart…….she sees that in me as a man…….and chooses to leave that life behind, and come be with me…….
but, I am, trying my absolute best to be strong, and carry a burden on my shoulders, and letting her know shes not alone, and that I’m always here……
but then I think,…..cast all your cares apon me…..the funny things is,……..what I realize,…..is its so easy to read and hear those words, but the worst part, the hardest part,……Is having faith……..
faith that God will take care of that guy, that he will care about me and my girlfriend, that he’ll take all my cares and everythin else……..
I have a extremely hard time having faith because I to have been hurt in more ways then I can count, and my faith is if anything broken……..and I have sever trust issues, which makes it hard to trust even God…….
but, I’m at my wits end in life…….im almost to the point, I can feel it, to were I almost wanna fall to my knees and ask God once again, to forgive me for everything, and to run my life, because I cant do this anymore alone……..but I’m just so afraid of being let down……..but, I know, I know it, fully, that………even if I hate to admit it sometimes, God is always there, and I know I can call on the most powerful being in the uinvers for help……..because I’m nothing,…….im worthless, useless….pathetic, a waste of space and a piece of trash……….
that I dont, and I never, will deserve a love like Gods, I’m not worthy of it, and I know that……..
but, I’m going to keep praying, I’m going to beg him, to help me, even if I have to fall to my knees……..ill beg him with all my heart…….to help my girlfriend to come out here, and give her peace…….
ill worry about my feelings later…….but I will cry out to him, because he is way more powerful then I am, and I fear……the rath and power of God…..
You need to worry about your feelings NOW, because your inability to handle your feelings is preventing you from providing the comfort and support that your girlfriend deserves from you right now. You need to start having counseling IMMEDIATELY; find a Christian counselor if possible, but if not, get any kind of help that you can to get you back on your feet again ASAP.
God has not turned His back on you; He never turns his back on anyone under any circumstances. What is actually happening here is that YOU have turned your back on HIM, by blaming Him for what the rapist did. You need to turn back to Him, and start speaking praise and worship, not complaints.… and not demands that He punish the rapist, either. As a Christian, it is your duty to FORGIVE the rapist, and trust that God will handle him when the time is right. We must NEVER pray that harm will come to anyone, no matter what harm they have done to ourselves or to others; doing so will cause God to withhold His blessings.
Please don’t add to your girlfriend’s miseries by thinking that her beauty is now “tarnished”; unless the rapist also battered her face, she is just as beautiful as she was before… and she needs you to tell her that, because she very likely feels ugly right now.
It’s foolish to think that you can protect someone from all harm all the time; it is simply impossible. No one thinks that you’re a failure for providing less than 100% protection, and you have no cause for shame.
It is very difficult for a woman to recover from being raped without therapy; this is why it is so crucial that you get her to see a therapist. The therapist will help her to tell her parents, and hopefully the police as well.
If the rapist has threatened her, you might be morally bound to report that to the police and her family whether she wants you to or not. She may very well be angry with you. You might have to choose between doing your best to keep her safe and preventing her from being angry at you. But if you think that she is in further danger, you MUST take whatever action is necessary to protect her, even if she hates you for it.
You need to work on your faith. Ask God to help you with that; He will. If you want to receive God’s best, you need to have absolute faith at all times; God will get you there, but you have to work hard at it.
We are certainly nothing compared to God, all of us, but none of us is a worthless piece of trash; God considers you to be a masterpiece, and He wants to have a close relationship with you and give you the desires of your heart.
No one is worthy of God’s love and His blessings; after all, what could we possibly do to be worthy of anything from the Creator of the entire universe? Nevertheless He loves us with all of His heart; we need to receive that love with gratitude and joy.
By all means, keep praying that God will give your girlfriend peace after all she’s been through… but still get her to a therapist immediately.
I’ll be keeping you both in my prayers!!
thanks,
I talked to her again, she just left, but she’ll be back, right now, all I’m doing is…..telling her how much I love her, and how beautiful she still is to me……
I’m also trying my best to convince? or show her, that where she is is not a place she needs to be, and…………that I want her to come out to be with me, so I can give her the love and comfort she isent getting there….
but shes making it so difficult……..she keeps saying, that since shes not a virgin anymore, I wont love her…..or that ill regret being with her…..and so on……
but I respond and say,…..how can I regret being in the arms of the one I love? how can I live without your sweet embrace, and that I love her more then anything on this planet, and much more……
but she just dismisses it, and dosent seem to care?……I dont know……
I so badly wanna free her, and save her from the hell shes in…….her parents abuse her, the disgrace her, treat her poorly and have no respect for her, they dont listen to her or anything,……..
and I told her, I said, I begged, I want you to come out here, were I can give you all the tender loving care, support, comfort, respect, and everything else…….it breaks my heart……because for her it should be easy…..
is there ways or something I can say that would gie me a boost to convince her its the right thing to do?
but I’m sorry for being a pain, asking pry stupid things and taking stupid, I dont know,,,,,,but…..im getting a lot of support from family and friends to……
time trying my best…….
You need to get some therapy to help yourself cope RIGHT NOW; the therapist, who will know far more about you and your situation than I ever could, will be able to give you professional advice as to what steps you should take next.
Nothing is easy for your girlfriend right now. Nothing will be easy for her for quite a while. Depending on what culture you live in, she could be feeling anywhere from dirty to absolutely defiled and worthless. None of these things are true, of course, but that’s how she feels, and you won’t be able to argue her out of these feelings; she needs to get into therapy IMMEDIATELY.
Her reactions are perfectly natural given what she has endured. You must resist the urge to criticize or complain about how she is reacting. Also, keep in mind that, however terrible her family may be, they are still her family, and she may need the comfort of being around them right now, so stop trying to take her away from her family if she doesn’t want to go at this time.
No, there isn’t any magic thing I can tell you to say to her to get her to act against her wishes. Any influence you have with her needs to be used to get her to see a therapist, NOT to get her to leave her family and be totally dependent on just you for support, especially since you can’t give her much right now, while your own emotions are still out of control.
You’re trying to figure out a way to help the woman you love; there is nothing stupid about that. Really, though, you need to speak to a therapist who can give you more useful suggestions as to what you should be doing now. And of course, keep praying; God is there for you, and He will continue to be there for you.
That’s pretty awesome. I was asking why God allow Muslims to prosper. Some of the horrible things that our soldiers have experienced, seeing or hearing little boys being raped, which is an acceptable practice there. Cutting their wives noses off because they asked a question one time too many. Etc, etc, etc.
I just wonder why such people, and we know they are bad even though the sheep’s clothing that those who have managed to infiltrate our country is getting a glowing report, are multiplying and being so fruitful.
Some of your answer did make sense here, in fact most of it. But I guess I was wondering about Sodom and Gamorha, (sp?), they had fire and brimstone fall on them, God took care of the world by not letting them continue. They were self serving people who cared nothing for anyone but themselves, and in the end wanted to rape even the angels sent from God. He felt so strongly about it that even looking back on it turned Lots wife to a pillar of salt, still not sure why that was such an offence, but they didn’t have Jesus, and Grace was not the standard then.
I guess I’m asking, why has God allowed muslims to prosper?
I hear you. They cheat, coming here and lying about themselves, (some of them), and they get high up jobs in our government. But they will overrun our country, and they have said that they eill use our own PC and religious freedom laws against us. What gives?
Were you imagining that there could be a gigantic part of the world were NO ONE would prosper? Or where EVERYONE is evil?
God allows Muslims to prosper because they are his children, and He loves them every bit as much as He loves you and I… and because they are no more evil than the people in Christian countries. Like the people in every other country, and of every religion, 99% of Muslims are decent, law-abiding people who work hard, raise their children, and hate the evil that a tiny % of people do.
Muslims worship the same God that you and I do, the God of Abraham. Every Muslim gets down on their knees, puts their face to the ground, and prays to God FIVE times every day; how often do you think the average Christian prays?
Muslims believe in, revere, and even pray to Jesus; they just don’t believe that he was the son of God. This is incorrect, of course, and very sad for them, but it does not make them evil. We must pray for them to see the light, not hate them blindly. Hate is not acceptable to God; love and forgiveness is.
Nowhere in the Bible does it say that Muslims, or the people of ANY religion, are evil or should be hated. The rate of violent crimes in Muslim nations is far LOWER than in the Western world, not higher. The abuse of children is especially sickening, doubly so because America is one of the top of 5 nations where this occurs. The others in the top 5 are South Africa, the UK, India and Zimbabwe… None of which is a Muslim nation.
People coming here from every country lie about themselves in order to get in. We don’t have any accurate statistics on it, but it’s entirely possible that Muslims lie at a higher rate because there are Muslim fanatics, just like there are Christian fanatics, and those fanatics want to come here to do harm. Muslims that come here from other countries do NOT get jobs high up in our government, since they cannot get the required security clearance, the 1% of people in America who are Muslim have no chance whatsoever of overrunning our country, and there is no way that they can use religious freedom laws against us, no matter what any of them have supposedly said.
What gives is that you have apparently been listening to uninformed hate-mongers rather than looking up the facts. In the absence of research, focus on acting like a Christian; God requires us to love EVERYONE, not just other Christians.
Where are you getting these information?! God. it’s ridiculous how misinformed you are, I mean cutting noses raping childrens that doesn’t happen there especially cutting noses raping children is a lot more present here in the US and western word(statistics). Why has God allow Muslim to prosper? . Muslims especially Arab Muslims ( I am one of them/I come from yemen) are probably the least respected people on earth, I mean we are literally punished by our enemies and also by Allah because we’re not listening to his saying, The US just decides to come to any middle eastern country and do whatever it likes, OUR politicians just obey, just like OUR the media who portray the US a friendly country who’s just trying to save us from terrorists, we are a disgrace, and that’s why as Yemenis we understood that we’re not going to thrive and live with dignity and respect when we trust him and understand that Coran and learning from the examples of the past (what happened in Iraq Libya what are they doing in syrian and what they did in so many countries) and now look at us I’m so proud of my country Long live yemen.
You should’ve said “including his most precious reward which is paradise” I’mean nothing compares to that and the thing is it’s for ETERNITY I mean it’s crazy how people with faith tend to forget that and buy into this ephemeral transitory life. Absolutely his closeness will lead you to the end goal with paradise and make you happy in this life . I’m a Muslim and from yemen btw and I respect Christians who stick to their morals and ethics and their end goals.
This pleases my soul…thank you
I am really frustrated.. Around 20 years I have worked honestly with top position. I were got many opportunity to take bribe but I never did it. After 20 years I have opend my own business with all my saving.. I am import cloths with all legal documents and by paying Tax. Where as the shop infront of me import illegal. But that shop is working very well. but I can not get my basic profit to survive. OTher side the owner of that shop husband is father in church. Telling whole word about god and follow right path and he own family doing illegal business. My question is that we get after working honestly??
Prashant
Someone working dishonestly, and even illegally, almost always makes more $ than those who are working honestly and legally; if that wasn’t the case, what would be the point of doing dishonest and illegal business? However, the honest businessperson does not have to live in fear of discovery by the law or the decent people in their community or church. And, most importantly, the honest person can have a relationship with, and receive blessings from, God; the dishonest person cannot. When you keep in mind that financial success is the least important part of life, and a relationship with God is the most important part, you can see that you are actually doing far better in life than the dishonest businessperson.
Stop worrying about what other people are doing. Do your best work with a good attitude. God will make it worth your while.
A friend of mine always lies and is like a chameleon. Like if she is now with me talking against someone the next moment you will notice her with that someone talking against me. but then also she always is praised by all the teachers maybe coz she is a little immature compared to others she is short. But sympathy does not means you should praise someone. Teachers be partial with us just for her. I mean if she will not bring any of her book the teacher is like today am not in a mood to scold anyone or something like that or else its okay. If the some thing is done by anyone else she would rather give a note.
I know this is partiality but she is also so evil and intentional from inside.
Even I am a bright student they don’t notice anybody like me just that evil girl. WHY?
We tried to tell the teacher that why you be so partial but she either ignores or just for few days we are in a limelight.
That girl is selfish and she will let you complete her work and if you ask for any help her answer is NO.
Why this girl is praised even though being so cunning and intentional……….always she is praised sometimes for good marks and sometimes for just good handwriting. Maybe am jealous. But yes I am jealous of her. Sometimes i think that even i should be evil and witness all these success. I feel jealous of her sometimes……
I read the content and did not found it complete well was good. Its overall my opinion can anyone answer that why that intentional girl always.
Every authority that you ever encounter, teachers, bosses, etc, will have their favorites. Sometimes it will be obvious why favorites are chosen, and sometimes it will not. Sometimes that favorite might be you, but most times it will not. Part of growing up is recognizing that favorites always exist, and always get special treatment; stop focusing on their lives, and focus on running your own race.
Why are you friends with a bad person like this girl?
Why are you assisting her with her work, or with anything?
Why are you listening to her, or to anyone else, who is telling gossip?
Why are you stewing in jealousy instead of doing your best and looking to God for your rewards?
Focus your attention on being a good girl, working hard, and having a good attitude; these are the things that God will reward you for… And those are the only rewards that matter.
I have a wealthy bro who even on my graduation refused to bring n thing to me n I organised it self handedly,my challenge is he even doesn’t care helping our 3 neddy brothers and their in the village suffering.have prayed to God many more tyms to at least bless my hands coz he knows my hrt I am help less n feel obliged to help my brothers suffering BT all in vain..got done with school BT no job…pliz family pray for me..I want to disapprove this rich,saddest fella n show how the world she or ought to be….pliz pray for me..
Praying!!
Thank you so much for this post…our gift is eternal life not temporary life..worldly people will reap the harvest of the earth but will not inherit eternal life…I myself want to be with God forever…
I think people doing the right thing r hurting because they feel no justice
I truly want to believe God is just. I don’t question whether He loves me or how much He loves His children. But when He allows my husband (who has always made more than me, has better benefits and more advantages than I will ever see) to continue to emotionally hurt me while he lords over the fact he can do this, he can have that, he has spent this, etc. while I can’t scrape enough to afford Christmas presents for our kids, I question His sense of justice.
My husband will never change, I can only do so much and I know God has to be the one to change his heart. Seems to me He doesn’t want to. I’m tired of hurting and hating myself because of what I’m made to deal with EVERY day. Telling me to ‘be patient’ and ‘wait on God’ is a broken record because I’ve done that for over 15 years. So how can God be just if all He does is allow the hurt, humiliation and belittling to continue and yet STILL gives his success?
Both you and your husband have free will, given to you by God; God will rarely interfere with free will. Your husband uses his free will to be successful in business and rub your nose in it; you use your free will to allow him to treat you badly and refuse to buy gifts for your children. If you want God to help you, start helping yourself; make the new year your time to break away from this man who clearly has no real love for either you or your kids. Even if you have to live in a mud hut, it will be better than living with that ugly behavior day in and day out.
Thank you both so much for this ,I really really needed to read this.My current situation is my husbands ex was always trying to break me and my husband up,for sooo many years.Shes very sneaky and always up to no good with her words against me.She ended up very succesful with a Bachelors .Now before i met my husband I had my oldest childest with my first baby daddy.I have one daughter with my ex and two daughters with my husband.Well the father of my oldest always cheated on me and made fun of me with his friends.He hardly ever saw our daughter growing up.he always preferred partying.Well he ended up a very good job.Gets paid so much and still gives me very little child support.His new wife ,couple years back put her hands on our daughter and he sided with her.and didnt believe our child.she was blessed with a bachelors degree and now they both make so much money.I have always wondered why do these terrible people get blessed/success .its not fair 😥 i have always been a good hearted person.i can have my last ten dollars and if i saw a homeless i spare him some dollars out of that ten.ive just never understood this at all.But I am in tears right now.I have always asked this question.And you answered it in a way I never really put thought to it before before.Really opened my eyes and now I can rest better with the way you explained it to us .Thank you also for the verses I screenshot them and saved them.
Good let them burn in this evil 💰 and spent their whole life show off others and being jealous of you,see even as a 3rd person i know what they have how shallow their life is .you have peace and good heart , remember too much money bring too much problem to owner .say thanks to God at least you are at peace and safe from this cartoon individuals
This really helped me . I have been going through some things at work. I have been very upset to the point of wanting to quit. I prayed for the Lord to help me and I found this. I feel a lot better now and understand my situation at work now.god bless you. Thank you
The common thing we see around the world is for people to cheat lie steel basically break every one of the ten commandments for there own personal gain.Once they are old and feel that the time to meet there maker is near they all of a sudden seek a relationship with God and actually do good things for there family and community, but I wonder what about the evil life they lived?
Are we to forgive them now that they are no longer blind and see the light?
and if they are forgiven after living a life of being rewarded with the wine women and everything else for there evil ways what’s stopping those who live a life with a relationship with God through our savior Jesus Christ.
In the end isn’t the reward the same, all is forgiven in God’s eyes, right.?
No one is rewarded for doing evil things. Evil people have benefits because they took them for themselves, not because they were rewarded. To think otherwise is to spit in God’s face and treat Him with contempt… and that will not turn out well for you.
Is it not your wish that all evil people will give up their evil and be good instead? That is certainly my wish, and more importantly, that is God’s wish as well. If someone gives up evil and embraces God, embraces goodness, then of course God forgives them, and we must forgive them as well. Why would you NOT forgive someone who made such a change, or want God to not forgive them?
You need to release the bitterness that is in your heart. It’s poisoning you, and will continue to do so. Jesus told us to forgive; that is what we must do.
so it’s clear why people live a life of the wicked and prosper all they have to do is ask god for forgiveness when they are old and near death and all is forgiven, when if at all are they punished and how?
You’re still not understanding what I’m saying. Asking for forgiveness is not sufficient; they have to have actually CHANGED, changed their hearts and spirits, in order to be forgiven… and since God can read our hearts and minds, it is 100% impossible to fool Him. If they have not changed, they can ask for forgiveness forever, but they’re wasting their time. If it comforts you any, the kind of radical change of heart that is necessary here rarely happens; most, or possibly all, of the people you’re thinking about who started doing good things when they got old and afraid of death did not actually change their hearts, and so did not receive forgiveness.
When and how an individual person might be punished for their evildoings varies wildly from person to person, will not always be visible to you, and more to the point, is quite frankly not your business; you are not the monitor or gatekeeper for their lives, God is. Trust Him to handle it.
You need to get rid of this bitter, jealous, complaining, negative attitude; you are harming yourself, and just yourself, not these other people, by your attitude, and preventing God from blessing you.
Thank you
I’m not finding this post helpful. It should be possible to have peace with God and with this life, sans stress and being all wrought up over bills and calamity. Is it the spirit that follows natural or the reverse? It’s supposed that the natural world only exists because of the spiritual world. That is what is taught in Christian circles all over the world-especially Word Of Faith proponents. Seems logical enough as well because if we see the natural because of the spiritual world, then those who sow peace spiritually should reap peace in the natural as well. But, that doesn’t seem to be the way it goes. Maybe it’s just a westernized concept that you do good, you get good-or that good always prevails. I’m reminded of the scripture that speaks of reaping what one sows and I wonder if Christians have not misunderstood it. Sounds straightforward enough. But it certainly doesn’t seem true in practice!
It IS possible to have peace with God and life without stress and “being all wrought up”; spiritually mature people enjoy that benefit. If you want to reach that point, you need to stop the negativity and complaining, stop criticizing God and how He’s handling things, and fall back on faith.
You have some strange ideas about the natural and spiritual worlds; they may be taught in the Christian circles that YOU participate in, but the vast majority of people do not learn or believe in any such things. None of that is scriptural; I advise you to forget about it and stick to what the Bible tells us. Such as:
Matthew 5:45 (NIV)
45 He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
Stop trying to use the Bible to justify how you should have a perfect, effortless, and trouble-free life because of some little bit of goodness that you think you’re doing. Do the best you can in whatever situation you’re in with a good attitude, and you will see enormously increased blessings… including the peace and rest that God promises to the righteous.
Thank you for your sharing. I was so frustrated over this matter. How come this most corrupted fellow can even being promoted to higher position. I always ask God about this matter. I felt must better now. Thank you. Most of all His grace upon me. Thank you Lord Jesus.
I don’t have an answer but its in gods timing not owe if u remember with pharaoh’s and Moses god intentionally harden pharaoh’s heart so he could show his strength nevertheless in my life when evil gets away with it I haughty with why why why cause I know gods. incontrol
For me this was a perfect explanation. Thank you for sharing!
An-Nisa’ 4:141
ٱلَّذِينَ يَتَرَبَّصُونَ بِكُمْ فَإِن كَانَ لَكُمْ فَتْحٌ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ قَالُوٓا۟ أَلَمْ نَكُن مَّعَكُمْ وَإِن كَانَ لِلْكَٰفِرِينَ نَصِيبٌ قَالُوٓا۟ أَلَمْ نَسْتَحْوِذْ عَلَيْكُمْ وَنَمْنَعْكُم مِّنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَۚ فَٱللَّهُ يَحْكُمُ بَيْنَكُمْ يَوْمَ ٱلْقِيَٰمَةِۗ وَلَن يَجْعَلَ ٱللَّهُ لِلْكَٰفِرِينَ عَلَى ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ سَبِيلًا
English – Sahih International
Those who wait [and watch] you. Then if you gain a victory from Allah, they say, “Were we not with you?” But if the disbelievers have a success, they say [to them], “Did we not gain the advantage over you, but we protected you from the believers?” Allah will judge between [all of] you on the Day of Resurrection, and never will Allah give the disbelievers over the believers a way [to overcome them]
Yes is hard to be saved in christ to be out there for many years doing the lords work . but struggling. and watching the evil people prosper. I have laid awake at night praying and wondering why god allowed such evil people to hurt me and use me so badly . i feel i have had a David experience living in caves hiding from murderous people who want to kill me . as david said. My tears are my food everyday. Pastor shell
When it comes to being rewarded at work, simply many people are not rewarded. Politics is played and a bad boss is a nightmare. Plus working for someone traps and limits your potential, time and pay. Most truly happy and successful people seem to be in business for themselves and not working for others. This has only exploded with the creation of the internet. Where does it say in the Bible thou must work 8 to 9 hours per day for someone else and have limited vacation time and pay?..It may start out ok but for many, as time goes, on it’s terrible. I have known several highly qualified people who never got the promotion due to various reasons. Things only got better when they left. Working on the net is one way to leave.
In Biblical times, people worked 12-14 hours per day, there was no such thing as vacations or time off, and most people barely made enough to eat… And slaves of course were not paid at all.
With that said; if you keep working at a bad job, with a bad boss, you’re not going to have happiness or success. Evil people don’t waste any time staying in a bad situation; they do whatever is best for them. That’s not something that we should be doing all the time, but where our basic income and happiness are concerned, we might like to take a lesson from the evil person, and don’t stay around in a bad workplace or under a bad boss.
Those were wonderful scriptures ! But does not the Lord also say do not take vengeance for vengeance is mine? N you reap what you sow? What do all those scriptures mean, than?!
All of the Scriptures mean exactly what they say, of course. God certainly takes vengeance, but not on all people for all things at all times; there is nothing about God’s vengeance that prevents people evil people from earning success… and if God’s vengeance DID prevent evil people from achieving success, that would prevent us from having free will. If what you sow is working hard and working smart, naturally you will reap success; the Bible doesn’t say that only GOOD people will reap what they sow.
You need to STOP trying to find a way that evil people are being blessed or favored or assisted in any way by God; no such way exists, and focusing on this will cause you to lose out on the very blessings of God that you are so concerned about. God responds to FAITH, not to argument, accusation, or any suggestion that He is doing anything that is not 100% right.
Especially the ones that are married with a family that many of us good men still don’t have yet.
Need prayers
To recover my money
Praying!!
It’s sad that success is now measured by how much money you have. What a sad world 😦
Love your Words here, but I have a questions..
What if these evil people conspire against you and takes your newly Born baby(s) from you, and put them into fostercare, and this forsterfamily Lies and cheat to do anything to keep your children, and the evil state works with them in this.. And they both succeed? I have experienced this twice in Denmark, and has now fled to Sweeden while oregano with my last child, which they also conspired to take away. We are now fine and well in Sweeden.
BUT.. What about my other children, which evil people succes in keeping away from us? I understand not to be jealous of people and their succes is money, riches and such, but this is my children and my blood and responsibility! How to just forget and accept they’re gone for good, and how to accept that they will never be brought up knowing Jesus?
I really don’t understand this, and the pain and suffering over this is unbearable…
I’m sorry to hear about what you’ve been going through, Maria! I don’t know anything about the laws in Denmark, or why your children were taken from your care, so all I can do is suggest that you seek legal advice, which apparently you can get at least a little bit of for free in Sweden:
https://www.thelocal.se/discuss/index.php?showtopic=62944?showtopic=62944
If your children were taken from you without valid reasons, chances are you will be able to get them back.
I looked it up, and nearly 80% of the people in Denmark are Christians, so the overwhelming likelihood is that your children ARE being brought up knowing Jesus… But even if the foster families fall into the minority that are not Christian, if you can get your children back into your care, you can teach them at that time.
Don’t give up on your children! FIGHT to get them back! I’ll be praying for you!
Good evening have God bring them back foryou
I am going through the same type of situation and it seems to just be evil and grief with no point. My foster children are suffering such evil and I can’t help them due to the state agencies favoring abusive, evil, criminal biological parents. I just keep persisting through my anger and tears because what else can I do.
Sometimes all you can do is just endure evil and keep moving forward. I’m sorry to hear that your foster kids are suffering so much! Sometimes biological parents are truly terrible, but in our culture we believe that biological parents are the best thing for a child in almost all circumstances, and that shapes policy. Have you tried talking to a lawyer?
FH, God cannot commit evil because it is not in his nature. Yet he has free will. Clearly it isn’t impossible and he is not a “robot.” Why then could he not — if we are created in his image — create us without the capacity to do evil as he is?
You mean, why did God not give humans a godlike nature? The answer to that is self-evident, if you think about it. In the absence of possessing a godlike nature, we would have to be robots without true free will in order to never do anything evil.
I’m so desperate so I hard to search this.Im in the company of a wicked and vile man in my eyes.But yet I see how good and prosperous everything he does is.Meanwhile I’m sufferening from pain he caused me .Falling I’ll unexpectedly and miserable!Im starting to feel I might not be the good person I thought I am.I might be even more wicked than him if I’m the one suffering so much!
You don’t suffer because of wickedness, you suffer because of the situation you’re in. So change it! Get away from the wicked man; prosperity is no excuse to keep company with the wicked. Ask God, and He will give you the strength to do it.
This helped me so much. Thank you
When I was a younger man, I was much misguided and felt betrayed by my lack of success but as I grew older I found that a quote by w. Shakespeare helped to shape my life as serve as my watchword and it is as follows “Above all, to thine own self be true, for as surely as night follows day thou canst be false to any man”. This is the the truest sentiment I have ever heard to this day and I feel this has been the most Christian like ideal I have held. I have never really attended a church but feel God maybe omnipresent and as such keeps me right. I like to feel if I should meet St Peter at the gates one day then he may judge a true heart and accept me for the human being and son of the earth that I am and I am content with myself and do not fail to help others and give the wisest counsel that I can offer. My life has turned around and I have within reason all that I need for my own girlfriend and son if not all that I want, but that would be simple greed and avarice to want more than I need. I firmly believe as astronaut Neil A Armstrong said that to stand on the moon and look up at the beautiful shining planet Earth it is hard to not to wonder at its creation and stand in awe and wonder. Peace to you all .
It’s simple like this I was in a relationship with someone who always makes me feel like I’m holding him back in life in achieving whatever he wants because I don’t move as fast as him he talks down on me to other people, he tells them I don’t have a plan in life I’m not a go getter like him but I do wanna achieve so much in life I’m taking everything step by step I’m not going to lie I’m a little laid back but with that all said he hurts me he cheat he doesn’t have any respect for me in his past relationship he hurt so many females and I was blind to that thinking he would change but it always seems like he still gets what he want be always get a great paying job he makes a lot of money doing them is like he always being blessed and his responds be like “ how come I’m the evil one but god still blessing me? Iguess he knows my heart.” He makes it sound like I’m the wrongful one with and evil heart
He’s succeeding because he’s skillful in maneuvering in the business world, NOT because he’s being blessed. He can’t make you feel like you have an evil heart without your permission! You can use objective analysis about your heart to know whether it’s good or bad… I’m guessing pretty good! This is a cruel and evil man; I don’t care how much money he has, get away from him immediately, and don’t ever let him back into your life!
Can you please delete my last comment as well, thank you so much
I’ve deleted your comments as you requested, even though I think that the process that you have gone through today would educate and uplift many people. God has done something wonderful in you today, and I don’t want anxiety or concern about people reading what you wrote to get in the way of that!
Oftentimes, people resist the truth, and respond with belligerence, but you have owned your behavior, repented of it, and are making exactly the decisions that you should have made: to try to understand better, have more faith, and do what God would want you to do.
I will still pray for you, but I think that you have already put yourself on the path to get where you want to go!
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how that would feel but I do understand how you try to lead a life pleasing to god, pray and end up with no answers prayers. I’m a stage 4a cancer survivor. I quit smoking over 20 years ago, only frank socially, like wine with dinner. Took care of myself, and almost died. I have a family relations who were very dark people who smoked and drank all their life and had perfect health. I am however grateful god healed me. Don’t get me wrong, but I don’t understand why I had to suffer so much, lose part of my tongue and neck too. I also only have two family members who are safe, kind to me that I can be around who won’t hurt me. I see a lot of evil people who have a lot of family and friends. Yet I’m grateful for two cause I know many have none. So on one hand I’m
Grateful yet I’m also wondering still why the ones who hate god always seem to have more. Maybe we are not supposed to be happy on earth, or are led to believe that so we can be used. Who knows. I do know I’m tired too. Tired of my struggles and those who I love wgonstruggke much. When will it end? Things do seem to get worse. My daughter hates life. Only 21 and she is depressed. I pray every day now for years. We seen endless counselors who hust take our money ( that we barely can pay) and still no help. She is HF austic abd sees no future for herself. Thinks life is pointless. People are discriminate against heavily for this condition. I’m saving all my retirement money that I can for. I fear she will strive. As we all know even Christians starved to death in this world. My husband wants to be a woman and is very depressed and works 365 days a week and won’t even hold my hand. I’m so lonely. My dog is everything and he is old now. Everyday I get with him keeps me going. I’m 54 and I still wonder why god has put me through the wringer so much.
Congratulations on being a survivor of a very dangerous cancer! In order to fully enjoy the life that was spared, you need to shake some attitudes that are keeping you in bondage:
For someone with health issues, it’s easy to have a distorted view of the health of others, but there is no correlation between evil and good health; the reality is that the vast majority of people live without major health problems, regardless of their level of goodness, and it doesn’t help to focus on the few evil ones who are healthy.
I’m sure it’s frustrating to have had good health habits and been very ill, but it’s important to remember that taking care of yourself, while it does increase your chances of being healthy, is by no means a guarantee of protection from illness.
You also need to not torture yourself trying to figure out some cause and effect reason why you were ill; there isn’t any. Some illness is genetic, some is affected by behavior, and most of it is just random; there is no “why.”
Evil people often have more because they are willing to do what it takes to get things, and the more you are willing to grab, the more you will have, for the most part.
Your husband clearly is not a suitable marital partner for you; it is time to end that relationship and move on to make a new life for yourself.
Your daughter sounds clinically depressed, in which case she needs meds. If her current counselor won’t provide her with meds, find a new counselor. If she is on meds and still sees no hope for life, those meds are not working, and she needs to be switched to different meds until the ones that will work for her are found. If your counselor won’t do this, find another counselor.
Under no circumstances should you let an old dog be “everything.” If you’re worried about him dying, get a puppy as a backup… Or even better, make some new friends. Unless you live alone on a mountaintop somewhere, there are people around you, and since you have access to the Internet, you can locate some of the many websites and groups dedicated to helping people meet others in their area.
If you want to start having more answers to your prayers, you need to change your outlook and attitude. God does not respond positively to complaints and negativity, no matter what the situation is. The more you describe how terrible everything is, speculate that all there is for you is to be used and unhappy, and refuse to take any concrete actions to change anything, the fewer blessings you will receive. If you want God to start showing up in your life, you need to stop complaining, stop dwelling on the negative, stop focusing on what other people have or don’t have, and start praising and thanking God for the many blessings He has already given you, and make the concrete decisions necessary to move you and your daughter forward to a better life. I’ll be praying for you!
I have a question,
My ex used me, lied to me, cheated on me.
It was an on and off toxic relationship where he left me for the girl he was cheating on me with, then came back and promised he has changed and he left me again, he told me he only loves me and that every other girl means nothing to him and he even kissed me but he immediately posted a picture with a new girl, but he told me that she meant nothing to him and said that he wants to remain single but is now with that new girl.
My question is how can he still be happy and blessed and live a happy life surrounded by friends who would actually lie for him, a new girlfriend who doesnt mind that he was playing me and a a clique in his church who actually believed his lies and rumours saying that im the bad guy? When i did nothing wrong??
My question, and I’m guessing God’s as well, is: Why have you kept letting that man come back and lie to you over and over? You didn’t do anything wrong in the sense of doing something evil, but you have done wrong in the sense that you have been very foolish; once a man cheats and lies, that’s IT! You’re allowed to divorce him for adultery… and if you were NOT married to this man, then you DID do something wrong, by having a sexual relationship outside of marriage. God despises fornication; He offers you no protection under those circumstances!
The liar and cheater is NOT being blessed; God is NOT making beneficial moves on the behalf of someone of that type. But it’s certainly easy enough for an evil person to be happy, in the shallow way that’s all they’re capable of, because evil people are happy FROM doing evil. Aren’t you made happy when you do the things that are fun to you? Same thing with an evil person. That doesn’t mean that they’re jumping for joy every moment, though, no matter how many smiling Facebook photos they post; those photos just represent one moment in their lives, and you don’t know if they’re fighting or bored or whatever the other 99% of the time. Scumbags cause plenty of trouble for each other, fear not.
Birds of a feather flock together, so evil people typically have evil friends, and they’re all happy to lie for each other. You shouldn’t be involved with any evil people, or be stalking them on social media either, and if you’re not, then you’ll have no way of knowing what lies they’re telling, and you won’t be bothered by it.
His new girlfriend is a fool; any woman who thinks it’s perfectly fine that her man did dirt to a previous woman deserves exactly what she’s going to get in the end, because he will do the same dirt to her.
I can’t imagine what a man who lies and cheats like that thinks he’s accomplishing by being in church! They should be rebuking him nonstop for his cheating and deception and sex outside of marriage, not patting him on the back and blaming you or any of the other women. How do you have so much information about what goes on in HIS church anyways? Do you have any proof that this is going on, or is it all hearsay? You certainly can’t believe anything that he or anyone associated with him might tell you! But even if it’s true, those people are NOT actual Christians; being in church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than being in a garage makes you a car, so what difference does it make what they say or who they blame?
The time has come for you to cut off all contact with this man and anyone who has any association with him, and that means avoiding anywhere they exist on social media as well. If anyone tries to pass along gossip to you, shut them down and don’t listen. Stop being obsessed with this scumbag and his group. Move on with your life, and from now on don’t get sexually involved outside of marriage, whether the man goes to church or not; if you want God’s protection within your relationship with a man, you have to be MARRIED to him. Good luck!
Thank you,
I just want to answer some of your questions first,
We never had sex, im a virgin and im planning to remain one until im married,
I know whats happening in his church because i was attending that same church.
I.forgave him because i thought that we shouldn’t give up on someone you love because people can change, kinda like now the Apostle Paul changed from a non believer killing Christians to one of Gods most faithful believers.
And i also didnt know he was cheating on me at that time, everytime he left me he blamed it on God, saying ‘this isnt God’s plan’. I only knew he was cheating a few months later.
I asked about how God blesses him because, he didnt have to experience depression and anxiety, or the suicidal thoughts and panic attacks. He never got to experience the pain he put me through.
What i meant by saying i was good to him,i gave him money, bought him clothes, pampered him, been there for him, made him study and get a diploma, helped him find a job, was faithful.
I dressed the way he thought was appropriate, removed friends he didnt like. We were happy for 2 years and i thanked God for him every night.
And yes you are right, i wasnt very smart about accepting him back, i just thought that he actually changed. I guess that im just a little sad because he was my first love and deep down i still may have feelings for him. Its just a little hard to move on, its not like there is an instruction manual on how to let go.
But i do understand what youre trying to get across, i have to stop looking back.
And have faith that God knows whats best.
Thank you for your response, it did make me think alot.
Whenever a man tells you who you. An have in your life as friends, what to wear etc. that is serious red flag. Sounds like he accepted all he could from you and left. He is a user and possibly dangerous. I would seriously consider finding an adult or counselor
Thank you for your reply.
I just want to answer your questions first,
I never had sex with him, we were both virgins and we planned to stay that way until we are married.
I know about his church because i used to attend the same church.
Ive always allowed him to re-enter my life because ive always believed that people can change and we shouldn’t hold their past against them.
I also didnt know that he cheated on me, everytime he left he told me that it was ‘Gods plan’ and i only found out that he was cheating a few months later.
And you are absolutely right. I wasnt being smart.
I just loved him so much, he was my first love and our first 2 years together was great and i keep wanting to get that back, he was so different and i thanked God for him everyday. its sad to see what our innocent love has become.
I asked if he was blessed because he never had to go through the pain he put me through, he didnt get the depression or the anxiety, no suicidal thoughts or feeling that his world has crashed, he never experienced a panic attack.
When i said i was Good to him, i meant that i gave him everything that i could give, i gave him space, i listened to him, i dressed in the clothes that were covered and appropriate (no crop tops or fitted clothes) i was faithful, i cut off friends that he didnt like, i bought him clothes and food, made him get a diploma, helped him find a Job.
I prayed for him every night.
But i do understand what you’re saying.
I need to stop looking back.
And to your other comment.
I am like the Good people i know, and i say that because i try to be like them
I try to be honest, kind, genuine and helpful.
Im a loner because girls my age likes to gossip, club, flirt and i dont take part in all that. I like to be Good in the eyes of God and i strive to be more and more christ-like everyday.
I dont alot of close friends, because the friends i made when i was younger changed too drastically. And started taking meth and one of them tried to rape me, so i started avoiding all of them for my own safety.
Im an introvert too, so its difficult to make new friends.
But in recent years i have met some really nice people who are also as kind.
Im sorry for my extra bits of information,
Its easier to open up when youre being anonymous.
Thank you for your insight.
Good job on remaining a virgin! I wish more young women had your determination!
I hate to break it to you, but HE was NOT a virgin; I don’t care what he told you, or claimed to all his friends, a virgin doesn’t keep running off and cheating! He LIED to you. Men lie; that’s an important and painful life lesson to learn.
I recommend that you switch churches immediately! Any church that pats the back of a cheater and fornicator and takes his side against his innocent girlfriend is not a church where you should be!
People CAN change, but there is absolutely nothing in the Bible that says that you have to keep horrible people in your life indefinitely in the hopes that they’ll change! Being a victim and letting them torture you is NOT God’s plan for you! The Bible warns you to guard your heart, and that’s what you need to do from now on!
You HAVE to use whatever you know about someone’s past to judge whether they are a good person or a bad person, because only good people should be allowed into your life. There is absolutely no scriptural requirement to pretend that bad people are good ones, or to treat bad people like good ones! All that does is make you an easy victim.
If a man leaves you, his purpose is to cheat on you; what else could he be leaving you to get? In the future, if a man leaves you, don’t let him return unless he can prove that he has changed radically! It will NEVER be God’s plan for a man to keep coming and going, or to torture you in any other way! Just because he says it’s God plan doesn’t make it so!
You can NEVER have a relationship go back to being the way it was. Once the relationship has changed, that’s it; you might be able to move to something similar, but it will never be the same because a change to the relationship means that at least one of the people has changed, and a changed person can’t go back to the same relationship.
Of course he didn’t go through any pain, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, or suicidal feelings; no harm has been done to him! Like most evil people, he recognizes evil in others, and is smart enough to eject from his life anyone who might harm him BEFORE they harm him. That doesn’t require divine blessings, just common sense.
Doing everything for and giving everything to someone doesn’t mean that they’re going to be happy with you, much less forever, it doesn’t turn a bad person into a good one, and it doesn’t guarantee you good treatment. Giving TOO MUCH to a man, giving him things he doesn’t have the right to get, giving him control over you that he doesn’t have the right to have when you’re not married, doesn’t make him happier or give you a better relationship or guarantee relationship success, it just makes him lose respect for you and assume that you’re a doormat that he can treat any way he wants… which is pretty much exactly what he did to you! Even worse, “making” him get a diploma and “helping” him find a job are things that make you feel like his mother, and that drives a man away from a relationship faster than anything.
Yes, you need to stop looking back! The most that man can offer you is the opportunity to be taken for granted and abandoned again, and I hope you’re done with that!
If you want to be more like Christ, then you need to love those other girls your age, and really loving them requires getting to know them; if you do that, you’ll discover that there’s much more to them than what you see on the surface. If you show other women even half the forgiveness and willingness to wait for improvement that you’re showing to men, you’ll be surrounded by friends! It’s VERY important for you to have female friends, so that you can get comfort and support, and useful feedback as to both your own behavior and the behavior of any man that you’re with. If you isolate yourself, that’s rolling out the welcome mat for evil man! I know that making new friends can be difficult, but being a Christian doesn’t mean everything should be easy; remember, the symbol of Christianity is the cross, not the easy chair.
I’m sure that sometimes it feels like you can’t ever get to a good life where your heart doesn’t hurt from where you are, but you can and you will! Pretty much everyone has several broken hearts before they find the right partner. Keep on moving forward to the wonderful Christian man God has chosen for you!
I wish I had an answer for you. All the good people I know are oppressed, poor and have the least opportunities in this world. 9 times out of ten the most educated, well off you are the more likely you are to be a sociopath. Evil people seem to attract people and they have inborn ability to do so.
Would you describe yourself the way you describe the good people you know? Birds of a feather do, as I said, tend to flock together. There are plenty of happy, successful good people, I know many of them myself, but you’ll never find them as long as you stick with the people you already know.
Sociopaths possess a level of focus and determination that a normal person can’t even imagine. They are willing to exert incredible effort for as long as it takes to achieve their goals, and one of those goals is usually to learn how to charm people. Charm is very rarely inborn, and nothing about an evil person is naturally attractive to others; it’s a learned skill, like all of their other skills. The important thing is that you recognize this when you see it, and not be fooled by them!
Hang out with negative people and negativity is what you get, positive people, and positivity will out, treat others with the same respect that you would expect to receive yourself, if people mistake your kindness as a weakness then move straight on and ditch that person from your life, maybe that person could use your help but as we all know first they must want to help themselves so assess others for what they are. Around my immediate environment I see wicked people, those who sell drugs and seem to profit from it, others who steal and rob from one another, those whose everyday actions are to get one step ahead by what ever means necessary and don’t give a damn about who gets hurt or shoved to one side along the way. Speed on brother hell ain’t half full yet, manners are forgotten, road rage dominates others and here in the UK youths are hell bent on profiting through drugs and crime and stabbings are a daily occurrence in most large towns and cities with our government admitting they are powerless to stop this despite initiatives and programs to try and deal with this. I can’t see this changing so as I believe you say in the US say a good offense is the best defence, so with that in mind I shore up my “castle” . Every day we are bombarded by the media to just subscribe to this service or that broadcasting service besieged by post and onscreen to give to this or that charity, who once having obtained your gift will hound you further to increase your giving, in short everybody wants your pound or dollar, but as most of us are not a bottomless pit of money then there is only going to be one outcome if we are weak to everything, so it is important to be firm with yourself when dealing with others. I often remind my son that not everyone is as nice as mum and I and sadly there are bad elements of society outside our front door. We all know Jesus punished wicked people as demonstrated by his casting out of the money lenders, it seems his forgiveness of other human beings had it’s limits and he knew when to stamp down upon it. Therefore I say don’t feel guilt about saying no to others, stand up for yourselves as he showed us don’t be down trodden by society and don’t settle for less than you are worth, that doesn’t mean we have to be greedy and avaricious, believe in yourself and use self discipline, be positive and positivity will out ( see the first sentence of this reply) This response is mostly directed at Aura and Kia Marie Phillips, sadly I don’t have all the answers but smile, keep right on getting up after you have been kicked down and cut the dead wood out of your lives. You will find what you are looking for. God bless you
Hi J. I’ve been reading your posts and wanted to know your thoughts. Being that the Heavenly Father doesn’t reward evil, what happens when manipulation and deception is used to create a life? …To give a summary of the situation, a man was manipulated by his sister in law and brother to be a sperm donor. Part of that manipulation was to make sure he didn’t tell his fiancé about it. The whole thing was ugly behind closed doors. Lots of lying, deceit, manipulation and even physical and sexual abuse by the sperm donor towards his fiancé (his brother possibly involved – that part is unverified but likely). It was a horrible experience for all involved. And yet, after a few failed attempts at the pregnancy, She was successful and a life was born. Isn’t life a blessing? And yet, that life was created using deception and manipulation? Needless to say, the sperm donor now has an ex fiancé. And she is being lied about and blamed in order to cover their sins.
I assume that your question is directed at me, and not at commentor J who has no way of knowing that anything is posted here.
A baby is not necessarily a blessing; if a mother dies in childbirth, is she blessed? If a nine-year-old is raped and suffers through pregnancy and childbirth, is she blessed?
There are 2 definitions of blessing. We use blessing to mean something specifically orchestrated for our benefit by God, and we also use blessing to mean any good thing that happens in our lives. We have to be clear which definition we’re using when we use this word; since not every child creates a happy situation for the parents, it’s obviously ridiculous to say that every child is a blessing in the sense of getting something good.
We’re not puppets or robots, and God does not orchestrate everything that happens in the world… although He can always intervene and orchestrate something if He chooses to do so. Most things happen because of cause-and-effect, natural laws, and sometimes even by accident. We need to be able to tell the difference between God giving a blessing and things happening in the world just because things happen.
Pregnancy is a physical process in the body, and like all physical processes, does not require divine intervention to occur. If a woman becomes pregnant, 99% of the time it does NOT mean that God has blessed her, it means that she has functioning ovaries and that by some method viable sperm was introduced into her body with the correct timing to encounter one of her eggs. It could happen during rape, it could happen during incest, and it could happen in situations where there were negative things going on and negative consequences for those involved.
By definition, a blessing, from whatever source, is a GOOD thing. If people are devastated and suffering, they have NOT been blessed. And by definition, God would NEVER reward or assist in the creation of a disgusting situation like the one you described.
Thank you for responding so quickly. And yes I meant to address it to you. Apologize for the error. For them the child was/is a blessing I the sense the child has brought joy to a lot of people’s lives. A blessing to many, yet not created by man according to the Father’s will. The manner is disgusting. I believe that’s one of the reasons they pushed so hard to get rid of the fiancé. Discard the biggest threat to cover the sin. I struggle with this on so many levels. The baby is innocent and in and of herself a blessing. There are many scriptures about a woman being barren and when God opens her womb. I believe he has the power to do that (open or close the womb) as scriptures reveal. IDK. There are also scriptures which say to repay evil with good rather than evil for evil. If that is our instruction, why wouldn’t God do the same?? 🤔
I agree, it certainly wouldn’t be God’s will for a child to be created in this manner, but good things do sometimes come from bad behavior; for example, many wealthy criminal types donate large amounts of money to charity, and those charities and the people they serve still benefit enormously from that money, even though it came from criminal practices.
Are you familiar with the phrase “mixed blessing”? It covers situations like this, were both good and bad come from the same source. Many things in life are this way, in fact when you look at things with a broader perspective, MOST blessings of either definition have a negative aspect to them; if you were chosen for a job, a college admission, or to be the person allowed to date the person or purchase the home that you preferred, that means that the other applicants were denied something of value that they wanted and deserved as much as you did.
What is there about this that you’re struggling with?
Certainly God has the power to do anything, including opening or closing a womb… but for God to be repaying something would mean that He was taking direct action, and there was no direct action taken by God in this instance. Again, 99% of what happens in the world is not directly orchestrated by God, things happen because we use our free will, because of natural laws, etc. This baby wasn’t created because of God repaying anyone for anything, she was created because viable sperm was united with a viable egg, and that’s it.
But, if God HAD acted in this instance, giving a baby to evil people, that WOULD be repaying evil with good, right… the same thing that you’re complaining about Him NOT doing, LOL!
You witnessed bad people doing a bunch of ugly stuff. Both harm and good came of it. You need to accept that and move on, not keep dwelling on it, letting it poison your mind and your view of God. Focus your time and efforts on the things that you CAN do something to make better.
The struggle is because I was the fiancé. And he and I were trying to have a baby at his request. Ultimately, he played on my dream they played his…. I understand the free will and have clarity on the human factors involved. I don’t know how much you know about abuse in general. It isn’t pleasant. It involves everything the God hates and sees as an abomination (coercion, manipulation, sexual immorality, lies, arrogance, self-serving), and He is clear about how he will handle that type. Only, my ex gets away with attempt to murder and sexual exploitation and a child was born as a result. That’s where the struggle lies for me. I don’t believe the Heavenly Father contradicts himself. I don’t feel like I am complaining, it’s trying to understand what feels like a contradiction. The best way I know how to deal with that is pray and look for answers in His word and ask others who follow His word. I know his word his true and kept and believe it is a living word. And I am trying to hold on to His word and wondering where is is/was in all of this and why He hasn’t kept His word. I need to understand and right I don’t.
I’m so incredibly sorry that you were the victim of this horrible situation! I’ll pray for God to give you peace; it probably seems like peace no longer exist for you, but God will get you there, I promise!
You’ve been hideously mistreated by someone you loved and trusted and had every right to count on to protect you, and it’s natural for you to be devastated… and being devastated often leads to asking ourselves why why why, not understanding how we ended up the victims of so much evil.
BUT, we don’t understand how it happened, not because the facts don’t make perfect logical sense, because they do, but because not understanding is part of how our brains react to monstrous situations like these. Human beings can be weak, selfish, stupid, hateful, and just plain evil… and therefore they behave in weak, selfish stupid, hateful, evil ways. That’s all there is to the situation. Why didn’t God stop it? For the same reason He doesn’t stop most things evil people do; free will. Why did God let them get away with it? Free will again. There’s nothing in the Bible that says that God will prevent evil, whether abuse or any other variety. You may not LIKE it, but there’s nothing here that you can’t understand.
God’s not contradicting Himself in this situation. God is not involved in this situation. God didn’t make you any promises about this situation, or any promises overall to give you unique protection against evil, and so in no way has He not kept his word. The verse from the Bible that applies is this one:
John 16:33
In the world you have trouble and suffering, but take courage—I have conquered the world.
I’m going to be blunt in the hopes of saving you a great deal of extra suffering: You’re not going through a useful intellectual process of trying to understand something, you’re simply too deeply and freshly wounded to apply the same simple logic to this situation that you’d be able to apply if it had happened to someone other than yourself. You need to forgive everyone involved in this disaster, including yourself if you believe that you could or should have seeing the evil building up around you and bailed out before you did, and then move on with your life. Extricate yourself from these scumbags. Block them on your phone, your email, and social media. Refuse to have any contact with them, refuse to let anyone give you any information about them, refuse to talk about them, get rid of anything that reminds you of them, and make every effort to keep thoughts of them out of your brain. Keep busy. Do whatever you can to reduce your stress. Eat healthy food whether you want to or not. Exercise every day. Don’t make any big life decisions or changes right now: don’t quit your job, don’t move to another city, don’t cut off all your hair, just keep putting one foot in front of the other, secure in the knowledge that, no matter how sure you are that you’ll never get over this or have joy or a good life ever again, you WILL.
You can’t do anything about the suffering you’ve already endured; you CAN decide what you’re going to do to minimize your suffering from this moment forward. It won’t be easy, but you can do this!
Does it actually mean that righteos people are not successful
People of all different levels of righteousness can be successful in the financial sense, but only righteous people can have the only kind of success that matters, which is that intimate relationship with God.
I don’t think free will is limitless—to us who pray, it is not truly free will as God has us pray in the spirit as he knows what God wants us to pray for, so ultimately is truly free will for those who do the works of the world, but not for those who are trying to please God. In a sense is like a parent saying to the child “you can choose any degree you want to study, but I will only pay for your education if you go study xyz degree”, when other degrees can serve the person well too, so we’re told to pray for whatever we want (if you’re a true follower, I’m sure you will be praying for things along the fruit of the spirit), but we will only get if it is what God wants us to pray for… doesn’t seem to free-will-ish..
On the actual question— what happens when you genuinely pray for something God put in your heart (because anything good comes from him, & not materialistic), yet, he allows for someone to consciously and purposely cause pain and emotional trauma, sabotaging you to get what you’ve prayed so full-heartedly for, the prayers go unanswered, or is simply a “no”, then God shows you how He blessed that same person with what was in your heart to pray for but did not get?
God is almighty and has the capacity to allow or not allow evil to happen. I find it extremely hard for me to trust that the him ‘taking the evil and turning it to good’ as well as ‘protecting believers’ is offered without a cost to us. Can we truly say he protects us when he allows damage but doesn’t take it away?—therapist sort of do. Forgive & pray for healing is limited to his desire.
NONE of what you said about prayer comes from the Bible, so there’s no reason to believe that God has placed such ridiculous limits on us.
Everyone believes that whatever they really want was put in their heart by God… but many times it wasn’t, no matter how sure you are that it was.
God does not, under any circumstances, bless an evildoer… and the fact that you think that He DOES is part of the reason that YOU don’t get what you ask Him for, because you lack faith in His absolute goodness.
You don’t get everything that you ask for because God doesn’t give us everything that we ask for, He’s not a vending machine. It might be that you didn’t put forth enough effort on your own behalf, it might be that what you were asking for wasn’t right for you in some way, it might be that it was something in limited supply that not everyone could get… or it might’ve been random chance. If you don’t get what you wanted, suck it up and move on, don’t keep dwelling on it and complaining.
When you find it “extremely hard” to trust God, that’s also part of why you don’t get what you want. There’s nothing in the Bible that says that God is going to protect you from all hurt and harm, and in fact Jesus specifically states that we will have troubles in this world. No, there is no “cost” for God’s blessings, which is lucky for us, because nothing we could offer could possibly “pay” for the Creator of the universe to do something for us.
And no, you are absolutely positively NOT limited to only praying for what you fantasize God wants you to pray for… and it IS a fantasy, because you have no way of KNOWING what He wants, outside of what it says in the Bible. Prayer is without limits… And if you believe that God will only allow you to pray for certain things, or only answer prayers in a certain narrow category, that’s also part of why you don’t get what you pray for.
Stop criticizing God. Stop complaining about Him. Stop whining about what you don’t get, and start singing from the rooftops about what you DO get. Pray for whatever you want, and glorify God no matter what the results might be. Push yourself to achieve absolute faith and absolute trust in the Lord… and AFTER you’ve done that, THEN God might actually put things on your heart and bless you with more things that you’ve asked for.
Sorry FormerHeathen, but I have to kind of agree with some of the others. I love Jesus Christ but I see ALOT of wicked, despicable people who enjoy hurting others and seeing others fail prospering daily. People who open tell God to kiss their you know what in so many ways and these people have huge homes, new cars, nice clothing, and their finances are stable.
On the other hand, I am seeing people who do God’s commandments and have shed tears for the suffering Christ went through as if it were their own starving, afflicted, utterly humiliated by the wicked, and much worse. I am a man of the bible but it is very, very hard to walk this path. It almost seems like God himself keeps his servants with barely enough at times.
Meanwhile you have haters of his commandments and fraternity and sorority involved sinners living it up! Seeing such unfair treatment of what is supposed to be God’s faithful and speaking on it isn’t wickedness. Yes we love God but at the same time people are HUMAN and can only take so much before they start to lose faith in a God they feel is doing nothing or very little for them. They start to see the wicked as more powerful than God because of the ease that is given to many of them. While the suffering, hardships, and just downright ugliness of the world is given to those who are supposed to be inheriting it according to the word.
We won’t stop walking this path but it is very hard walking a path with no shoes while the wicked zoom past us in Ferraris bearing “We hate God and nobody will check us for it” license plates. it sometimes feels like God isn’t being fair to his faithful at all. I hope he does not hate me for this because I am just being honest about how people who are forced to suffer all of the time really feel.
You’re focusing on the wrong things. You shouldn’t be looking at what other people do or do not have, or comparing what you have to what other people have, or judging what everyone SHOULD be getting… that is the OPPOSITE of faith. To have full and mature faith, and be a person after God’s heart, THIS is how you do it:
2 Samuel 12:19-20
19 But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, “Is the child dead?” They said, “He is dead.” 20 Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate.
He didn’t question, criticize, complain, or compare. He made no speeches about how so many evil people have homes full of healthy children and good people had children who suffered and died. He didn’t weep and wail about his unspeakable loss. He got up, made himself presentable, and WORSHIPED.
THAT is the path a true Christian must walk. God has NOT set the world up so that people have wealth in proportion to their goodness… in part to show who has the right heart and who does not. DEAL WITH IT! If you want the best possible relationship with God, including all the blessings, you must must MUST stop letting the enemy… and who else did you think was influencing you here?… trap you into focusing on THIS world and all the wrong things!
If you want to be a true Christian, you MUST stop complaining about how God does things, TRUST Him, and worship under all circumstances. PERIOD. If you don’t do that, you are serving the wishes of the enemy. Your choice.
Thank you for your written statement because I had an issue at a church call maranatha here in Ohio Dayton Ohio and I was upset of how they treated me my McKay tonight act like Christians so it was oh very good that I read this statement I really appreciate it thank you I have not returned back to that church I have been a member there for like 4 years and I regret every moment that I was there it feel like I wasted 4 years of my life
I’m sorry that that happened to you! It’s a familiar experience for many, getting sucked into a church because people seem nice at first, and then you discover that Jesus isn’t actually there. I hope you find the right church soon!
i do have a colleague who is my best friend, to be honest he is blessed and he successful in every thing he does for example he may apply for a job and then within the shortest period of time he is called for interviews and he is given the job immediately and he is not a prayerful person, hardly does he pray, and on the other hand me who is prayerful and always cries to God for a job hasn’t been successful in any way though i have written and submitted several application letters but all in vein, so i keep asking my self is this the way of God
There are usually many people praying for one job, but only one person’s prayers can be answered… And that’s IF God has chosen to decide who gets the job, rather than letting the person doing the hiring make their own choice. We are not puppets. God doesn’t do everything for us or give everything to us. Some things we have to work for ourselves, and some things are decided by other human beings. Sometimes it’s not enough to pray; sometimes you have to actually be the best person for the job, or the one the manager likes the best.
It the most painful thing I have experienced, when a Christian thats shows nice at church but evil around me. Lies, cheat, steal, and a lot more. Tell you they care N love you when they only care N lice themselves. I’m asking God why me, I was just living my life and struggling to survive working 2 jobs. I’m in so much confusion and mental pain. Can’t eat right, up for hours but still have to make it yo work. Feel like God is punishing me. I don’t know if I can every trust anyone else again. I pray God hear my cry 😢 😭 🙏🏾 💔😭😢
When someone does something evil, cut them out of your life, don’t keep associating with them and collecting a longer and longer list of hurts and wrongs that they have done. And once you’ve cut them out of your life, STOP thinking about them and dwelling on it and agonizing over it. The world is full of evil people, cut them out of your life and then don’t focus on them.
Why you? Why not you? The Bible says that bad times come to everyone, and that means YOU. If you keep knowingly associating with evil people, it will definitely be you.
Lots of people struggle to survive working 2 jobs; it sucks, but that’s the reality of the modern world. You clearly have SOME free time, since you’re posting online… Maybe use that free time to engage in some sort of positive and pleasant activity?
I just recently got out of Narcissistic Family relationship if it was even one at all since these people don’t even know what love is. BUT WAS TREATED VERY POORLY. I Mean I don’t understand why people take advantage of the weak, kind hearted and poor..but that’s exactly what they did to me, I was also Raped by their Son I was dating and was still blamed as the Victim all I have to say ABOUT everything In nutshell is HELL WAS SOMETHING I HAD EXPERIENCE IN THIS MOMENT.. I Didn’t Deserve any of the Disrespect, hate, blame, shame , abuse they put on me for just being a Human being with Kind heart!! Yea I feel Anger these people are out here destroying more live but I know their final destination is Death in Hell ( if they don’t repent) God Will Punish them Romans 12:19
My faith and connection with God is where I will always have, I believe,
God almighty is all we need in life. Keep looking to grow more in his powerful words..Amen
For me it’s the past bullying from the past as well as from my most recent ex. I always, always had a close relationship with God. I always prayed and the specific things I asked him for, things that were not typical at all, it seemed those who mistreated me got those very, unique blessings. It’s almost as if God gave them what I’d asked for. It led me to believe that maybe I’m the bad person, that maybe I’m the enemy and their table is being placed before them in my presence (Ref: Psalm 23:5)…..am I the bad person? My prayers were pretty specific so to see them gain such blessings really made me feel like maybe I’m the bad person. IDK what I could have done but repent either way because I can’t take this pattern anymore.
God doesn’t bless bullies. Whatever that sort of person gets, they get from their own efforts, NOT from blessings. You can’t have a close relationship with God if you think He’s capable of blessing bullies. You need to stop focusing on those people and what they do and do not get, and focus on your own life! And, of course, correct your perception of God, and stop thinking and telling people that He’s blessing evildoers!
I have a evil male and female cousin that tricked me. I’ve had bosses that cheated me for wages and mean co workers. Some “friends” that set me up. Put downs from relatives. These people are thriving and my life is imploding. I dont know what to do.
I can tell you exactly what to do! STOP dwelling on those people. STOP talking about them. STOP thinking about them. God does not respond to complaining with blessings! What you should be doing is thanking and praising God every day for all He has already done for you, and then ask for His help with whatever it is you want and need in life. Stay in an attitude of gratitude, faith, trust, love, and the blessings will come!
I believe that answer is spot on. The analogy is effective and the Bible verses support your answer.
How do I answer valid accusations regarding the people have been involved in evil deeds while professing to be Christ follower, e.g Popes who were murderers and were sexually depraved, Christian teachers who have been found to be committing evil acts deliberately and continually, etc
Anyone can CLAIM to be a Christian. There’s no lie detector test involved. Just because depraved people have claimed to be Christians doesn’t mean that they WERE Christians, and it says absolutely nothing about Christians in general, or any other specific Christians, or of course about Jesus Christ. Anyone who tries to imply otherwise is just arguing for the sake of arguing, and being belligerent and disrespectful about it. Point out to them that they have no idea what a Christian is, if they think that any such person could actually BE a Christian. A Christian is someone who follows Jesus Christ, and Jesus preached love and forgiveness, NOT murder and sexual depravity!
We have to stop assuming that every successful person did something evil to get there. I know you didn’t say this in your blog post, but too many modern Christians think like this and it stifles them. Imagine praying for your wicked coworker or business partner instead of hating them. Evil people are lost people.
Thank you for posting this. I have known people in the church like this, who think nothing of destroying people’s reputations in order to get what they want. What makes it even worse, is that no one around them recognizes their evil, in fact they are beloved by everyone, in spite of this behavior. Why does God allow it? If such people are truly his children, why does he not correct this specific sin that wounds true believers in the church? If they aren’t his children, why does God allow them to succeed in harming those who are his children?
God gave us free will. The people who are doing harm do so using their free will. All the people who observe them and do not take action are using their free will. The people who are being harmed who don’t fight back or avoid them or just switch churches are using their free will. When you did not confront the evildoers, protect the victims, or complain to the pastor or other church authorities, you were using your free will.
What would you like God to do to correct the bad behavior, hurl thunderbolts? It’s a serious question. If God came forward and corrected all bad behavior, then we wouldn’t actually have free will, right? We’re not puppets for God to control our every movement so that no one ever does anything harmful or hurtful. We’re living on earth, this isn’t Heaven, and bad things will happen.
When all is said and done each of us will stand before the Lord God and be required to give an answer for the way we have lived on this earth. Everyday we are witness to the fact that death spares noone. Every person is responsible for guarding their soul. Riches decay and turn to dust as do our bodies. We all get old and die.
Beautifully spelled out. Sharing the word was the most powerful of all. Studying the Bible would help anyone struggling with this topic for the word spells it out. Your breakdown was most profound. Thank you!
This was absolutely beautiful spoken! Thank you for posting this, Sir or Madam! Glad The LORD GOD willed for me to read this (a Google search result)!
Thank you for writing this ! I am engulfed by the evils traits of someone’s narcissistic behaviors! And l can’t understand why / how to the extent l serve and love and worship God in truth : they also are able to mimic God in sane ways publicly… even at home whenever they please… for their wicked purposes to cover and deceive and they are more than excellent at it! So much l am often fooled or would often be fooled if l wasn’t made the victim of their evil abuse over and i over again in life… BUT I REALIZE IT IS GOD WHO IS IN CHARGE; though l cannot understand! Smh🙈l am honestly grief stricken and often grieved… the total confusion. Oxymoron ism. Omg 😱! But l refuse to let them change who l am. God inside of me! That is the true treasure they want to STEAL( as he’s stolen my identity or tried ) but they can NEVER ATTAIN TO HAVING THE TRUE TREASURE BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO SEEK IT THE ONLY TRUE WAY. IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH! They only strive to APPEAR godly! TO APPEAR holy! And they often succeed. Saints are fooled. I was fooled and trapped. Captive years. Yet my God is always with me. Even though l’ve failed in greatly many times in this test and may deserve for Christ to abandon my side in this trial. Yet HE IS EVER MY FAITHFUL SUPPORT! Thank you for writing ✍️ this text! Into God be ALL THE GLORY!
Thank you for your opinion which discussed the reward of evil people who reap success in business. How about evil that resides in believers or even in an entire religious organisation? To my horror, I learnt, hundreds of times in the past, about a lot of evil committed by pastors, churches, and religious organisations that were built on deception, where physical, sexual and psychological abuse was a regular occurrence. I don’t want to name anyone here but if you never came across this, I would be happy to disclose in private. These people/organisations claim and probably think they are close to God because obviously they are succeeding. And that is the argument they use to convince the rest that they are good, by pointing at the fruit which is a well known organisation that has countless of followers! So, how do we know what is the sign of being or not being close to the true God if the difference is that blurry?
People and organizations say all sorts of things, but saying something doesn’t make it true… and just because something is said doesn’t mean that we should believe it. There’s actually no confusion whatsoever in the situation that you’re describing; any person or organization that points to their success as proof that they are close to God is doing so in order to manipulate people, to trick people, and to increase their success… which of course has nothing to do with closeness to God.
It’s also important to mention that if someone is evil, they are NOT a believer, no matter what they claim.
And, there’s no quick, easy sign that will be visible if someone is close to God. You would have to know a person well enough long enough to discover what kind of person they are, and THAT will be what tells you.
I don’t like struggling. If GOD really was close to me, I shouldn’t have to struggle the way I do. I’m not buying your answers Jagin
Why do you think that closeness with God would mean that you would never have to struggle? Have you ever seen ANYONE who never had to struggle? Does that mean NO ONE is close to God? That’s ridiculous. You’re confusing God with a servant, or a genie in a bottle that exists to grant you wishes… And that means that you are NOT close to God, because if you were, you would have some idea of His nature. When you stop criticizing and complaining, and realize that God is not your servant, you are HIS servant, then you will start getting closer to Him.
Wife did all our friends abandoned us when my sweetheart wife died and travelled to paradise.
Those people were NOT your friends. And they were also NOT decent people. That situation had nothing to do with God; you depended on poor quality people, and they treated you the way poor quality people will always treat you in the end. I’m sorry they did that to you, but believe me, you are better off without them!
Why did all our friends abandoned us when my sweetheart passed over Norm
Im so confused
Which part is confusing?
thank you for your post its hard to be in need working and not getting ahead and truthfully i ask the lord Jesus you being rich and you became poor that could be rich you paid for everything on the cross everything why am i still struggling its hard to have faith but i rather die poor and struggling till the day i die then give up on Jesus whst can i compare my little struggle or wants on what Jesus paid on the cross the pain the need of god yes i am struggling as many others but others are haveing it worst they are are being killed for believing in are lord Jesus Christ instead of looking what i need or dont have i should be thankful and say it god father thank you for everything in the name of our lord Jesus Christ amen. a pastor said one tome god made i eyes to look outward instead of looking inward thats the key to getting out of self want look what we can do for others especially within are own family’s the work are way outward with are neighbors then strangers that help and god knows all that i need if he gives it great if not god made me he can do what he likes but Satan accuses us daily to god but we need to just keep being thankful even if we are in need its hard but if are lord Jesus Christ son of god suffered and we must follow him all i pray now god let my family and me be faithful to the death please dont let us fall or be weak god help us be more faithful in him .