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Get over it

from JO’s sermon tonight:

too many people go through life thinking somebody owes them something.  they didn’t have a perfect childhood, now they’re offended at their parents, they got laid off after years with the company, they’re offended at a boss, or maybe they came down with an illness, life threw them a curve, they went through a divorce, didn’t get the promotion, now they’re offended at God.  they’ve got a chip on their shoulder, bitterness on the inside;  “if God was so good, how could He let this happen to me?”  God never promised that life would be fair, but He did promise if you would stay in faith He will take what’s meant for your harm and use it to your advantage.  nothing that’s happened to you is a surprise to God.  the people that raised you may not have given you everything you needed, it may not have been fair, but that didn’t catch God off-guard.  don’t use it as an excuse to be bitter, thinking that you got cheated;  if you’ll get over it, God will still get you to where you’re supposed to be.  the person that did you wrong in a relationship, the betrayal, divorce, it may have been painful, it wasn’t right, but if you’ll get over it, quit reliving all the hurt and pain, and start moving forward, then you’ll come into the new beginning God has in store.

whatever wrong that was done, whatever’s causing you to feel sour, whatever seems unfair, get over it.  “all my friends are married, I’m still single”;  get over it.  don’t let that bitterness take root, that will keep the right person from showing up.  “I wish I came from a different family”;  get over it, God knows what He’s doing, God wasn’t having a bad day when He created you, you are not at a disadvantage, you have been fearfully and wonderfully made. “my friends, seems like they’ve got more going for them, he’s more talented, she’s more beautiful, I feel like I got shortchanged,” no, get over it, you have exactly what you need to fulfill your destiny.  “they did me wrong, left me out,” get over it, and God will make it up to you, fight your battles.  you can be pitiful or powerful, but you cannot be both.  instead of sitting around thinking about all the reasons you have to feel sorry for yourself, the bad breaks, disadvantages, you’ve gotta take the hand you’ve been dealt and make the most of it.  nothing that you’ve been through has to keep you from becoming all God’s created you to be.

sometimes we think, “if I had their life, his talent, if I was born into that family, then I could do something great,” no, don’t compare your situation to somebody else’s, you’re not running their race.  it may seem like they have more advantages, more going for them, but God has given you the grace you need to fulfill your destiny;  you’re not anointed to be them, you’re anointed to be you, you’ve gotta shake off any self-pity, bitterness. our attitude should be, “nobody owes me anything, I am not at a disadvantage, I didn’t get left out, shortchanged, passed over, cheated, I am equipped, empowered, anointed, all the forces of darkness cannot keep me from my destiny.”  your time is too valuable, your assignment too important, to go through life thinking about what you didn’t get, who hurt you, how it didn’t work out;  that is a trick of the enemy to get you distracted, wasting valuable energy on things that don’t matter.  he would love to keep you discouraged, in self-pity, blaming others, yourself, even God.  get over anything that’s holding you back:  bad attitude, an offense, what somebody did to you, a mistake you made;  don’t be pitiful when you can be powerful.

the creator of the universe breathed his life into you. every day of your life has already been written in God’s book;  your book ends in victory.  we all go through tough times, but we’re not supposed to stay there;  keep turning the page, and you’ll come into another victory.   God knew there’d be unfair situations, that’s why He’s already arranged a comeback for every setback, vindication for every wrong, a new beginning for every disappointment.  don’t let one bad break, a divorce, rough childhood, cause you to get soured on life.  if you didn’t get the promotion, get over it;  God has something better in store.  if those friends don’t accept you, they leave you out, won’t give you their approval, get over it, you don’t need their approval;  don’t go trying to play up to them, win them over, you have almighty God’s approval, that’s all that matters.  maybe your business didn’t make it, you had a setback, now you think, “what did I do wrong?  I blew it, this is the end,” no, get over it.  don’t condemn yourself, you are not a failure, you took a step of faith and a door closed, that means you’re one step closer to an open door.

when you get knocked down, don’t stay down, get back up again.  nothing good is going to happen as long as you’re down on yourself, down on life, focused on your mistakes, disadvantages;  that’s going to keep you from the amazing future God has in store.  I know some of you are dealing with a sickness;  our hearts go out to you, we’re standing in faith with you…  but don’t you dare sit around nursing your wounds, thinking, “poor old me, I guess my life is over, I’ve got this disadvantage”;  no, dig your heels in and fight the good fight of faith.  God did not bring you this far to leave you;  when the going gets tough, the tough have to get going.  get over the disappointment, self-pity, doubt;  you have been armed with strength for this battle, no weapon formed against you is going to prosper, nothing can snatch you out of God’s hand.  the enemy doesn’t have the final say, God has the final say;  He says the # of your days He will fulfill.  you keep turning that page;  praying, believing, being your best, being good to other people, and you’re going to come into another chapter, a chapter of victory. Job had a lot to get over;  he lost his health, family, business.  if anybody had a right, at least in the natural, to have a chip on their shoulder, be angry and bitter, it would have been Job.  he was a good man, he loved God, he was being his best, yet his whole life was turned upside down.

Matthew 5:45 (NLT)

45 … he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike.

I’d love to tell you that if you have faith and love God you’ll never have any difficulties, but that’s not reality.  when the storms come, if you’ve got your house built upon the rock, if you’ve got an unshakable confidence in God, if you know the Lord as your shepherd, the storms will come, but you will not be defeated.  you may go through the fire, flood, famine, but you’ll come out still standing strong.  don’t be discouraged by the storm, don’t fall into self-pity, “I don’t know what I did wrong,” no, you may not have done anything wrong, it may be because you’re doing something right, taking new ground for the kingdom, setting a new standard for your family.    the enemy’s not going to roll out the red carpet and let us fulfill our destiny, but the forces that are for you are greater than the forces that are against you.  Job could have given up on life, blamed God, thought, “just my luck, I do my best and look what happens to me,” no, right in the middle of the difficulty, when he could have been bitter and sour, he looked up to the heavens and said:

Job 13:15 (NKJV)

15 Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him.

he was saying, “no matter what comes my way, I’m not gonna get bitter, angry, offended, have a chip on my shoulder.  it may not be fair, but I know my God is still on the throne;  He will make my wrongs right.  I may not like it, but I’m gonna get over it and keep moving forward.”  9 months later, Job came out with twice what he had before.  when you get over it, you position yourself for double.  when you forgive even though they did you wrong, get ready for double.  when you have a good attitude even though life has thrown you a curve, get ready for double.  when you go through the day being your best, even though it seems like you’ve got a disadvantage, thoughts tell you, “you’re not as talented as she is, look at him, he comes from an influential family, you got cheated, look at her, she’s so beautiful, you’re so average,” no, you know better than to believe those lies. instead of getting depressed, you shake it off, knowing that you have been made in the image of almighty God, you have royal blood flowing through your veins, you don’t let those thoughts defeat you, you don’t let what people say, circumstances pull you down;  no matter what comes your way, you get over it and keep moving forward.  when you do that, you better get ready, God says to you what He says to Job, “double is coming your way:  double joy, peace, favor.”

is there something you need to get over  today, a friend that betrayed you, a business deal that didn’t work out, a childhood that wasn’t that great?  unless you get over it, it will keep you from the fullness God has in store.  the key to the double is will you not get bitter, not have a chip on your shoulder, go around thinking that somebody owes you something?  it’s easy to make excuses to live a sour life;  people blame the past, how they were raised, “mama didn’t give me what she should have given me, my father wasn’t around growing up, that’s why I’m bitter, can’t get along with people, be successful”;  what your mother or father didn’t give you is not a surprise to God, don’t use that as an excuse to be sour and go through life feeling shortchanged.  get over it, start moving forward, this is a new day.  God knew who your parents would be, He knew what kind of environment you would be raised in.  some people came through a very unfair situation, didn’t get the love, approval, support they should have…  but I don’t believe in giving anyone the right to feel sorry for themselves, because as long as they think they got shortchanged, and life is not fair, “I’ve got this sickness, I’m not that talented,” that will keep you from the amazing future God has in store.  it may not have been fair, but if you’ll have the right attitude, instead of being a setback it’ll be a setup for God to do something great in your life.  I know people 50 years old still talking about what mama didn’t give them;  have you ever thought about maybe mama didn’t have it to give?  maybe your father did the best he could with what he had?  sometimes we rely too much on people when we should be relying on God

Psalm 27:10 (AMP)

10 Although my father and my mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child].

a mother or father may not have given you what you needed, but if you’ll start looking to God, He will make up for everything that you did not get.  if you want someone to give you 100%, don’t look around, look up;  God is the only one that can give you everything that you need. some people, it’s not that they don’t want to, they were never taught how to show love, express approval.  they never saw that model growing up;  now they’re passing down what they’ve seen.  if you only look to people, you’ll be disappointed;  people will let you down.  if you’re not  careful, you’ll get bitter and resentful toward them, and think, “you owe me, why won’t you give it to me, what’s wrong with you?”  no, maybe God is teaching you to not rely on people, but to rely on Him.  you gotta let people off the hook.  quit trying to make someone be everything to you;  no one person has 100%.  no person can meet all your needs, no matter how good they are, how loving, how kind, at some point, they’ll fall short.  you gotta look up to your heavenly father, and say, “God, I know you will give me everything that I need.”  when you open the door to self-pity, blame, all kinds of negative thoughts will flood your mind.  the enemy will be right there to egg you on, tell you, “you’re right, they did you wrong, you got cheated, you should have a chip on your shoulder, you need to go straighten them out.”  it’s easy to remember what we didn’t get, and where they made a mistake, how they should have done better, “why did they say that?”, but most of the time if you put yourself in their shoes you’ll find they did the best they could with what they had.  why don’t you let people off the hook, quit expecting them to be perfect?  look to God to give you what people could not give you.  if you don’t, and you go through life thinking somebody owes you something, you got that chip on your shoulder, it’s going to cause you to get bitter. when you’re bitter, it poisons every area of your life.

Hebrews 12:15 (NASB)

15 See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble…

a bitter root will always produce bitter fruit.  bitter people don’t have good relationships;  they’re too negative.  when we’re bitter, it affects our attitude;  we see everything through a critical lens, nothing is ever good enough.  bitter people, they can smile on the outside, “how ya doin’, good to see you today,” but on the inside they’re thinking, “I don’t like you, why’d you show up here?” bitterness taints everything about them;   it follows you everywhere you go.  if the whole world ever stinks for you, look inside, maybe there’s some adjustments you need to make.  bitterness will follow you everywhere you go.  when we hold on to things we should be letting go of, when we don’t forgive, when we remember the worst, it’s not harming the other person, it’s  poisoning our own life.  God is saying today, “get over it.  life is flying by.  you don’t have time to waste another minute being negative, offended, bitter.”  so they did you wrong, get over it, and God’ll make it up to you. so you had a bad break, disadvantage, get over it, God is still on the throne.  are you making an excuse for some reason you can’t be happy, why you can’t succeed?  “They hurt me too badly, that’s why I can’t forgive.”  no, you’re not forgiving for their sake, you’re forgiving so that you can be free.  “I’ve had some rough times, a bad break in my business,” get over it, you wouldn’t be alive unless God had another victory in front of of you.  nothing in life has happened to you, it’s happened FOR you;  every disappointment, wrong, closed door has helped make you into who you are.  you are not defined by your past, you are prepared by your past.

you may have encountered some great obstacles;  it’s because God has a great future in front of you.  if you will get over what you think is a disadvantage, God will take what looks like a liability and turn it into an asset.  it may not be something physical, but the way you were raised, a mistake you made, what somebody did to you.  we think, “if only I hadn’t had that accident, then I could fulfill my dreams.  if only I hadn’t been through that divorce, gotten laid off,” you gotta get rid of the if-only thoughts.  if-only can keep you from your destiny.  David:  “if only Goliath wasn’t so big.”  Joseph:  “if only my brothers hadn’t sold me into slavery.”  what’s happened may look like a disadvantage in your eyes, but it is not a disadvantage in God’s eyes.  it’s not going to keep you from your destiny, it’s going to thrust you into your divine destiny.  do your part, get over anything that’s holding you back.  get over what they said about you;  they don’t determine your destiny, God does.  get over what didn’t work out, the mistake you made, the disappointment.  it may have been a setback, but it’s not a surprise to God;  He’s already arranged the comeback.  our attitude should be, “nobody owes me anything. I am not going through life with a chip on my shoulder.  I’m letting go of what didn’t work out, I’m forgiving the people that did me wrong, I’m pulling up the root of  bitterness, and I’m moving forward into the amazing future God has in store.”  if you will learn this simple principle to get over it, no disappointment, bad break, injustice, is going to keep you from your destiny.  God’s going to take what’s meant for harm and use it to your advantage.  you’re not only gonna come out, but you’re gonna come out better, stronger, increased, with twice the joy, peace, victory, in Jesus’ name.

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