From JO’s sermon tonight:
we all go through situations that are unfair; life has thrown you a curve, it’s not what you had planned; even though life is not always fair, God IS fair, and if you will keep his your trust in Him, and not get bitter, but just keep moving forward, God has promised He will pay you back for every unfair thing that’s happened; don’t let one bad break ruin the rest of your life, keep you from the amazing future God has in store; what happened may have been wrong, what they did may have put you at a disadvantage, that was unfair, but what they did cannot stop your destiny, they don’t have the final say, God has the final say, God said “I will restore the years that were stolen, give you beauty for those ashes, weeping may endure for a night, but joy is coming in the morning”; nothing that’s happened to you is a surprise to God, God already has the restoration, vindication, new beginning; that setback was simply a setup for God to take you to a higher level; you’ve gotta shake off the self-pity, the defeat, and get ready for God to do something new, He’s going to pay you back for every injustice
Exodus 3:7 (ESV)
Then the LORD said, “I have surely seen the affliction of my people who are in Egypt and have heard their cry because of their taskmasters. I know their sufferings
God has seen every wrong that’s been done to you, every person that hurt you, every tear you shed, every injustice; God went on to say:
Exodus 3:8 (ESV)
and I have come down to deliver them out of the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land to a good and broad land, a land flowing with milk and honey
there comes a point where God says “enough is enough, I’ve seen it, now I’m going to do something about it, I’m not going to just give you what you deserve, but I’m going to make the enemy pay and bring you out better than you were before”; God is a God of justice, He always makes the enemy pay for bringing the trouble into your life; it may not happen overnight, God is keeping the records, He knows exactly what you’re owed; God sees every time you do the right thing but the wrong thing happens,take the high road and forgive, you let it go, work hard but you didn’t get the credit, God is closely watching, you have an account with Him, He’ll make sure you not only get what you deserve, but His justice is to pay you back with more; some of you, you’ve been in an unfair situation, it’s gone on a long time, you’ve lost your passion, your fire, thinking that’s the way it’s always going to be; God is saying to you, “I have come down to do something about it”; you need to get ready, it’s payback time, everything the enemy has stolen, God is going to restore; the joy, peace, health, dreams; God is going to pay you back for the childhood you didn’t have, for that person that falsely accused you, for the years you lost in an abusive relationship; He has seen everything you’ve been through, He has come down to do something about it. don’t go around with a defeated mentality, that’s gonna stop God from working; you may have had more than your share of bad breaks, you could easily get discouraged and settle where you are; shake that off, your attitude should be, “I’m not staying here, I know it’s payback time, restoration time, vindication time, favor time”; Almighty God has come down on your behalf
Psalm 27:10 (AMP)
10 Although my father and my mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child].
if you’ll just keep moving forward, being the best that you can be, God will take what’s meant for your harm and He will use it to your advantage; God will open doors that no man can shut; God will give you favor and cause people to want to be good to you; you may be in a situation where because of the poor choices of others it seems like you’re stuck, you’ll never get out of that rut, accomplish your dreams; God knows how to get you to where you’re supposed to be; all through the day, in your mind, in your thoughts, you should be saying “Father, I want to thank you that it’s payback time, I know you’re a God of justice, you’re restoring the years, the dreams, no person’s going to keep me from my destiny, I will become everything you created me to be”; have that attitude of faith. shake off the negative comments, what people say about you doesn’t determine who you are, shake off the disrespect, keep your head held high, and God will promote you in spite of what they said. one way God pays you back is to prepare a table before you in the presence of your enemies; that means God will promote you in front of the people that were trying to hold you down; He’ll show you favor and honor in front of those that said you’re not good enough; let that go in one ear and out the other
Hebrews 10:30
God is just a God and He will repay the exact compensation owed you. He will settle and solve the cases of His people
some of you have cases that need to be settled, people have tried to push you down, make you feel inferior; you worked hard pursuing your dream, but the bottom fell out; now you’re starting over, you could easily have a chip on your shoulder; you’ve gotta know God has promised to settle your case, but you gotta get in agreement with God and start expecting payback time; if you want to see God pay you back, make your wrongs right, then when things come against you, you’ll feel like being bitter, complaining; dig your heels in, and say “I know my redeemer lives, God’s gonna to turn this around, no weapon formed against me is gonna prosper, my best days are still out in my future”; you gotta have this attitude of faith, knowing that God is a God of justice and He will settle your case
God has seen what you’ve been through, every tear you’ve shed, He knows the disappointment, the heartache you feel, and this is not the end, it’s a new beginning; you’re not going to just come out of this barely surviving, God’s going to make the enemy pay and bring you out better off than you were before; God is still on the throne, He’s in complete control, He’s going to settle your case; get in agreement with God, we all have unfair things that come against us, we all go through bad breaks, but you have to remember God not only sees it, but He’s promised if you’ll just keep moving forward, if you won’t get bitter, He will settle your case; the way God settles the case is not just to turn it around, not to just make it right, God will bring you out better off than you were before
Isaiah 61:7 (The Message)
7 Because you got a double dose of trouble and more than your share of contempt, Your inheritance in the land will be doubled and your joy go on forever.
you may feel like you got a double dose of trouble, you worked hard, but the bottom fell out, don’t get stuck there thinking that that’s your lot in life, that you got shortchanged, that you’ll always have a disadvantage, the truth is, that unfair situation has qualified you for double; it doesn’t have to stop you, if you’ll have the right attitude, God will use it to thrust you forward; you may have had a bad break, don’t sit around with a chip on your shoulder, every unfair thing that has happened has qualified you for double, God is a God of justice, He wants to pay you back, but you’ve got to do your part; shake off the self-pity, what they said about you, what didn’t work out, the way you were raised, and get ready for a double dose of God’s favor, blessing, health, peace, creativity, get ready for God to do exceeding abundantly above and beyond; when you go through unfair situations, it’s never easy, we never like it, but keep it in the right perspective, that person that’s talking about you, trying to make you look bad, in a sense they did you a favor, they just qualified you for double; that person that walked out on you, left you when you needed them the most, don’t sit around thinking that there’s something wrong with you, you’re inadequate, less than, blow them a kiss goodbye and get ready for double, it’s payback time; God wants to do something new in your life
when you let God settle your case, it will be better than you could have ever done it yourself; don’t be sour because of something that you lost, or something that was taken from you, instead of being bitter and trying to get even, stay on the high road, God sees the injustice, He knows what they took, and if you’ll let God settle your case, He’ll not only give you what you deserve, but God will pay you back with even more; God has the final say, God knows how to pay you back, He’s not limited by the laws of nature, or by what people say; when you go to work each week, remember, you’re not working unto people, you’re working unto God; if somebody is being dishonest or playing politics, don’t get upset, don’t try to pay them back, God is keeping the records, He will make sure you not only get what you deserve, God will pay you back with even more; this is a new day, it is payback time, get ready for a double dose of God’s goodness, favor, God is going to make the enemy pay for bringing the trouble into your life; instead of complaining about it, get up in the morning and say “I know my redeemer lives”; remember, every difficulty, every unfair situation, that has qualified you for double; some of you even this week*** are going to see cases settled, restoration, vindication, promotion, breakthroughs, a promise coming to pass; the God of justice is going to show Himself strong in your life; you’re not going to just come out, you’re going to come out better off than you were before
*** This isn’t something he usually says, in fact it seems almost absurd to make a claim with such a short timeframe… is it silly of me to hope that this means ME? I’ll know in a few days; my faith that my victory is fast approaching is ironclad.
my friend-u know whats inside-u helped me recover.thank you
Nothing makes me happier than being able to help someone with God’s word!! Thank you for letting me know, Max, and I hope that whatever you are going through, God will bring you out with twice as much as you had before!!
Why do you hope that God will bring twice as much – you said in your blog that he WILL, so why the need for hope?
Hope is beneficial to your mind, heart, and spirit. It gives comfort, and courage to go on in the face of even the greatest odds. God values hope so highly that He will GIVE you hope:
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Those are the reasons to have hope. 🙂
Ibelieve that Believing in God means, What else is there besides Hope And Faith!! It’s only when the devil starts messing with our minds again causes us so much discouragement! Bless You All!!!
Everything that Satan has stolen from me , God will restore. In this I have faith and the assurance that he will do that .
Believe in the scriptures that’s all .
I have no wife. I’ve been working hard all my life – and all I do is pay income tax at 42% (never mind so many other direct and indirect taxes) to the lying and deceiving goverment so that they can give billions to the bankers, start evil wars, give lots of money to people who are not married and have many kids and take no responsibility for their lives. I am 51 and now the government want 200,000 euros from me which I know according to the consitution I should not pay – it was saved to buy a house- but the courts are corrupt (controlled by satanic freemasons).The lawyers have deceived me and are costing 30,000 euros. My brother conned me out of a lot of cash. I have no pension no house and pay rent. I am glad I have no kids because they are state property and the first letter they get 3 days after birth is a tax (slave) number. Here in Europe things are getting uglier year after year with governmnet taxes and control – like Orwells 1984 – now millions of immigrant scoungers are arriving. But I suppose I am glad that I have not had even more stress and taxing life bringing up fresh livestock for the state farm. I am glad that all I will leave the satanic government is my rotting corpse. I hope I have a plane crash or car crash soon – because there is nothing to live for. Did not God say do not store your treasures on earth – the only reason I carry on working is so that I do not end up cold and hungry on the streets. When is God going to compensate – when I’m in an old folks home?
You need to slow up a little bit on the comments, Dan; this is a blog for discussing our love of and faith in God, NOT for ranting about our lives or what God has not yet done for us. A commentor is permitted ONE rant about how terrible their life is, and this one is yours; I will respond to what you said, and then any further comments of this nature, and any comments that are not specifically about God and our relationship to Him, will be deleted.
When will God compensate you? When you quit complaining. When you quit focusing on the negative. When you quit dwelling on every bad thing in your life. When you quit making a religion out of your finances. God does not respond to complaints, negativity, and ingratitude. When you spend all day every day thanking God for His countless blessings to you, praising Him, and proclaiming your love and faith, then and only then will God start to compensate you for your sufferings.
FH – thanks for the quick reply and for posting my comment – no more rants – but I needed to get that one off my chest – looking forward to your reply- take your time – looking forward to my faith being restored – best wishes Danubian
I am praying for you right now sir!
You need to put God first in everything you do and all the things you ask for will be added to you. Your ways of thinking are not his ways of thinking. God is not limited to how far you see or think, so don’t get stuck waiting on something that may never happen.Renew your mind and meditate on the word of God. The riches of the world are all vanity… However you are entitled to live this life in abundance.
Just know that you are the plan… you are the vessel carrying God’s word… find your purpose and do what you were called for rather than dwelling on “things of the world” and “when you’re going to be rewarded”.
Hey, the line you used “When is God going to compensate – when I’m in an old folks home?” is a line I often hear of being used. Often, the perpetrator gets punished way after their allotted time … they basically “age out of their sins”. As for the injured party, the same thing happens (often enough) as well.
Danubian, I feel for you. There is much injustice in the world and I hear you. I am going through a difficult unjust time myself. I am looking for God to vindicate me but I am to pray for my enemies and to do good to them, something that is revolting to my flesh. God help me.. God help you.. I know that God sees all and will not the judge of all the earth do right..in his time. Rest in Him.
This is the truth, all my life people have always tried to put me down or keep me in misery and it never worked. Everytime I go through a depressing mode he picks me back up ASAP. I have been blessed when others cursed me and I have seen many of my adversaries fall and fade away. There is life and death in the tongue and many have brought death on themselves. It’s like I live in a new world it’s full of peace, love, mercy, wisdom and miracles. God always gives you adversity in order to shape you up to prepare for his gifts, blessings and grace. He rewards you double folded and returns their own scorn upon their own heads double folded. I have seen all of this with mine own eyes since I was a pre-teen. We must pray for them for they know not what they do and what doors they are opening up and the indignation, plagues and judgement that will fall on them.
Thank you friend, it’s 2016 and I’m newly walking with Christ this spoke to me thank you!!!
Hello,
I am recently widowed. The heartbreak and the many difficulties have caused me anxiety and sleepless nights. God created me to be a sensitive soul why must his helping me be a condition of how I respond. I have been abandoned by family and friends. I am alone with my many problems. My husband’s death was unexpected. I am now alone with my children. I am a good person and so far the Lord has not given me justice. The evil that my children and I were subjected to after my husband’s death was awful. I am exhausted and heartbroken over God’s lack of response. I have grayed and gained weight. The stress is killing me.I am doing my best. I am trying. Before my husband died our family was a member of a great Christian church. I beyond tithed and my family was not protected. I prayed Psalm 91 over my family everyday. I have had a relationship and loved God deeply since I was a child. He let me down. Not only did He take my husband but the storm that followed his immediate death was too much. I now just exist. I cry often. II still pray nut the exact opposite happens. I feel forsaken. I need God. I am so hurt that God was not here.
LD, I’m so sorry for your loss, and that the people around you were hurtful instead of helpful; I experienced something similar when my mother passed away a few years ago, so I know how agonizing that can be.
God provides justice for every situation, but not in our timetable; you need to let go of that aspect of your situation, because vengeful thinking can prevent God from blessing you. Let God handle it. You need to take care of yourself and your children right now.
Tithing is not done to protect your family, it is done to show gratitude for what God has given us. Neither tithing nor praying provides your family with any protection from the trials that the Bible tells us will come to all people. Praying allows you to have a close relationship with God, so that you can draw strength and courage from Him in difficult times, and ask for His help; He will sometimes shield you from suffering, but by no means all of the time.
God didn’t let you down, and He did not take your husband. God never promised to keep all of your loved ones alive forever, and your husband died from whatever caused his death, not because of anything that God did. Loving God means loving Him when things don’t go the way you want them to; if you turn on Him and become angry and accusing as soon as things don’t go your way, that would be the opposite of love. God wants us to reach out to Him, push into Him in times of trouble; that is how we build the relationship deeper with Him.
It’s normal and natural to suffer when we lose someone that we love and need as much as a woman does her husband. It always seems like it will be that way forever, but it never is; suffering always passes. In your case, you have to try to push through the suffering as quickly as possible, for the benefit of your children.
You have not been forsaken, God has never forsaken anyone; He has always been there with you every single moment. If you want to receive His love, you need to get past blaming and accusing Him, get past demanding that He give you immediate justice, and turn to Him every day with gratitude, love, and praise; that is what He responds to. When you do those things, you will see God show out in a bigger way in your life.
And you do still have a life. You still have an amazing destiny to achieve, and children to raise to be men or women of God. Stay in faith, take care of yourself even if you don’t feel like it right now, because your children need you, and be patient… Your destiny is still coming.
Thank you for your words ..he will ☚
Greg
Am inspired with this response. Its on point and gives answers to several problems many of us experience. Thanks FH.
Is this truly possible
Got conned with my life savings
Yes!! It will happen!!
Thanks for the encouragement. I see wrong things all the time so much it makes me ill and just wanna die and I have to hold faith that Jesus will someday come back from his Alpha Centauri spaceship and fix this broken mess we call *Life*.
Yes Jesus will come back in a spaceship as it said in the bible he will come back exactly as he left and all other cultures including the bible point out towards spaceships being in existence but they travel thru dimensions as God exists outside of space/time.
As a matter of fact if you’re still reading this then think of life like a computer game where all the alternate endings are possible but instead of God playing he set the character to automatic mode NPC (Non Playable Character) which the character has enough awareness to make choices of whom he/she is going to serve.
God or the government? (The World) and we all know how broken the government is so why serve a broken government as you’ll only get broken results?
As they say in ancient Computer literature: Garbage in = Garbage out and the Big O with his United Nation clowns sure do a good job of it which George Bush blew his chance to stop it by caving in to the *big boys* instead of saying “The buck stops here”. 🙂
One of Bush’s biggest failures besides a certain war was he created a huge tax break on the poor/lower class but it did diddly squat to the economy because most poor people don’t make enough money for it to be a difference in the long term.and work in the *service* industry instead of owning a business unless they were lucky and had someone teach them how to manage a store then they could own one as a franchise.
Sorry if I have poor grammar.
I wish to bring justice hard but obviously it’s not time.
Thank you for your visit and your comments, Kyle!! Don’t worry about your grammar; mine isn’t perfect either, and there are no English teachers around here. There are so many things in the world that are upsetting to learn about; I’m glad I could offer you some encouragement. God is always there for you, and he understands everything you’re feeling and loves you with all His heart; lean on Him, He will never fail you!!
Very true..these days you can’t trust no one except god…
Agree fully
All cheaters
Justice will prevail…truth always wins…god will surely bring in the vindication, justice…a miracle will surely happen…
Amen
That’s totally true. He has miracles stored up for all of us if we can just wait in faith for them to come!! 🙂
I was the one who posted the previous comment…but i dont understand one thing about god, why does he delay in doing justice to good people?? 😦
I’m going through a situation where i’ve been accused…I’m being hurt for no fault of mine…dont understand why god’s letting these happen…I really want this to be settled withing two days…dono whats gonna happen…Im still being positive…Your blog’s helping me feel better…Thanks a lot!!
If He gave us everything right away, we wouldn’t need to have faith… and our faith, along with our love, is all we have to give to Him in return for all He does for us. Stay in faith; it will always be rewarded, even if not in the way and time we had expected.
The rain falls on the righteous and unrighteous alike; bad things happen even to good people… if not, again, we would not need faith. I have also been accused recently, and by a close friend, so it hurt me badly; I’m waiting in faith for God to resolve it, and He WILL do so, both for me and for you.
I found this quote about an hour ago, and I think it’s meant for you:
Psalm 26:1 (NKJV)
A Prayer for Divine Scrutiny and Redemption
26 Vindicate me, O Lord,
For I have walked in my integrity.
I have also trusted in the Lord;
I shall not slip.
I’m so glad that this blog is helping you!! 🙂
god could be seeing how you react to the wrong look at the book of job at the end everything was better he has something better for your life focus on what you have in your life pray and wait upon the lord when we give our lives to jesus its not our lives its his plans we need to focus on
Very true, Lisa; when we suffer, it’s often a test.
Thank you! 🙂
The situation m goin thru demands justice by 23rd of this month…I was accused and betrayed for absolutely no fault of mine…m finding it really hard to cope with…n if god really exists, he wud hav done somethin by now…but things just kept getting worse…n now its just terrible…so wat god does tomo will either make me hav complete faith in god forever o will erase all of it…i hope he does his miracle tomo n doesn’t let me down…he has helped me before, but don understand y he’s taking the side of evil rit now…I hope he starts supportin the good…
God will always do what is best for you in the long run… but that does not mean that He will do everything you want when you want it along the way. All He asks is that you remain in faith and keep moving forward. If you demand that He fix a specific issue or you’ll stop believing in Him, in other words if you demand “proof” that He is there taking care of you, that’s the opposite of faith… He does not reward that. Scripture tells us that we are not to test Him:
Luke 4:12 (ESV)
12 And Jesus answered him, “It is said, ‘You shall not put the Lord your God to the test.’”
Ask Him to give you the courage, strength and wisdom to handle your situation in the best possible way. And of course it’s ok to ask Him to give you what you want, but also affirm that you trust Him, that His plan is best, and that whatever happens in the next few days your love, faith and gratitude will not waver.
I will pray for you; I know that in the end you WILL triumph.
Hmm…thank you…
My 10 year old son Ezekiel was killed by a Doctor in 2011,go here for more details:
https://www.change.org/petitions/nepean-health-service-i-want-answers-about-my-son-s-death-and-his-deleted-records
I need justice. God has told me this month. Today is the 10th of July I am posting this as an act of faith, so that I can come back at the end of this month and declare that justice has indeed come. My email is howie2day@hotmail.com
Thank you,
Sonja
I’m so sorry to hear about your terrible loss, Sonja!! God WILL vindicate you, and I’m deeply touch by your show of faith; I look forward to hearing about His justice for you!!
Someone used me then rejected me…..i am so angry and hurt……i want revenge but i know I have to leave it to God. How do i let go and move on?
Letting go and moving on is a God thing, there is really no other ideology existing that makes it necessary for survival. Only and I repeat Only as we look at the life of Jesus, the one who created EVERYTHING that moves and those that are immovable, he came to earth and showed genuine unadulterated love to those who needed it most then we turn around and punch nails in his hands and feet, spittle in his face, slaps, jeers, ridicules, lies and while it was yet happening he refuse to forget why he is going through it. It was all because of love, from the mire of this mob would come people who would willing receive the forgiveness he offers and embrace the love he gave and they would in turn give their lives in return. All because he let go and moved on. Where would we be if he didn’t. By the way, there were those who did not, like Judas and he ultimately ruin his own self. This will be the lot of those, it should not be our dream to see them go this direction, but it is inevitable because the opposite of love is hate, even for oneself.
Don’t let someone dirty rotten lying cheating ways toss a bundle on your shoulder to be carried forever, that is way too much. You should not be the victim twice, first the lies, then next the unending hurt and memories. Forget that and move on as Christ your saviour did.
I understand what you’re going through, LJ; I’ve had several people do similar things to me in the past year or so. The best answer I can give is; at first, it’s not really possible to let go and move on, because you have to feel all the emotions that accompany these events. Allow yourself to be angry, hurt, sad, etc, and to do whatever you need to to get through those feelings, as long as you’re still going to work, fulfilling all your other responsibilities, and trying to live a healthy life both physically and spiritually… and of course not doing any kind of harm, because you know that God wants us to be better than the people that have sinned against us:
Luke 6:32-36 (NIV)
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
Of course, you’re not ready to love this enemy yet!! First, process your emotions. Then, work on forgiving them, not to benefit THEM, but because unforgiveness is poisonous to your spirit. And then, come to feel sorry for them because they are so poor in spirit that this is how they have to behave, and because they do not have the closeness to God that YOU have. Think of them the way you would a starving person who stole your food… because that’s just what they are, a spiritually starving person who stole the love and joy from you because they had no other way to get it.
God will deal with that person, and He will help you through your pain and back to peace. Talk to him all throughout the day, and sooner than you think you’ll be through the pain and back to the good life you deserve!!
God brings things to your attention and to those who seek. I am getting better understanding as I go but so far I have to travel with this path. I was seeking something when I came across these series of post. I was wondering what JO was until I looked at the archive and noticed the titles of some of JO’s sermons which I watch each week. Anyways, LJ I was just in a situation where I was disrespected, lied to, used and as a matter of fact I noticed that this would probably be the case with this person from Day 1 literally. Long story short over the course of my relationship with this person I allowed myself to finally get to a point of retaliating. Even earlier this year. The best thing I know now is to let God handle all of the battles. There is nothing good to come out of voicing your opinion in an attempt to justify yourself. Once you do, at the end of the day, you will no longer know what God’s will was because of your own. I, at this very moment, even though I know I was wronged, because of things I did out of my own will for justification has left me feeling remorseful and removed a peace that I should have had if I had let God take care of things. Even if there was no reconciliation with my ex, I could have felt better about things because I followed God. Even if God would have shown me the same thing that I know now meaning the same results (us not reconciling), I can’t feel the same peacebecause of my actions. Knowing that I shouldn’t have been in that relationship from the get go, I still have reserves that things are on me because of my actions. I hope that makes sense.
Still Standing, you’re right that we need to let God handle things for us!! But, He doesn’t want us to go through life feeling, as JO always says, guilty and condemned because of our mistakes!! Whatever you did wrong, He has already forgiven you, and you need to forgive yourself; He will still bring you to a flourishing finish no matter how many mistakes you’ve made!! 🙂
Hello, who is JO please? Thank you.
You can find JO here
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Thank you for the comment, Chris. 🙂
I was involved with a woman that has a history with a man in prison. She stated to me it was her ex boyfriend. When i met her she said she wanted a new life and was going to leave him! I fell in lover with her with all my heart and soul! The relationship started in January. She had told me that she was gonna cut all ties with him as far as communication over the phone cuz she loved me! About in march i found out that she was still talking with him on the phone! I asked her why and she told me it wasn’t that easy!I got very hurt and we both argued about it to where we were apart for two weeks! After we got back together, things were going well and i figured maybe she needed more time on this and need to stand by her side thru this. So i let it go. She went to go visit the ex boyfriend in prison over the thanksgiving weekend. That alone hurt allot! it made me feel like i didnt matter to her that i was going to be alone! In august she started a new job, and found out she was sending him money in prison and of course i was worried about men hitting on her at her new job! so she told me not to worry that she doesn’t get personal with friends at work whether male or female! it made me feel good when she told me that! At the beginning of November, i had asked her on a Friday night if she would like to get together after work? She told my i don’t know , ill call you at 4 when im off. I said ok talk to you then! 4 came around and i never heard from her. I waited till 4:30pm and finally i gave her a call twice thru voice! She didn’t answer! she replied in a text “Whats up?”. I told her , i thought you were gonna call me? She replies ill call you in a minute… Minute never came around and it was already almost 45min that had passed. I called thru voice and no answer again! then she texed me again saying “ill call you in a min… im with my girlfriends! give me some space! So i did and went to go play pool! She finally called me 2 hrs later and asked me where i was at? i Told her playing pool. She said ok i wanna go see you. When she came to the pool hall she was texting constantly. I looked over her shoulder and it was a man from work that she was talking to that’s married! We went home later that night and when she fell asleep i went thru her phone. I saw messages from him saying shes a good kisser, that he doesn’t want to f***k her cuz hes her friend. Then i saw messages from her to him stating “I’m not sleeping with nothing. i know im clean cuz hes clean letting him know that he cant catch nothing as far as STDs. And another message from her stating to him about me ” yes he will do for now, is that bad? its all about me she told him. I’m thinking he refused her, and that’s why she came to me. She was not with her girlfriends that night. The next morning i asked her about the messages and she said she didn’t remember them cuz she was drunk! She admitted that she did cross path with him when she was coming to see me and that he tried to kiss her and she said she pushed him away! I took her word for it and believed her cuz i had trust in her and believed her! Just two days ago, i hadn’t really talked with her. Something told me in me heart she was with this guy. I ended up finding them together at a table at the bar having a drinks together! Hes a Married man! I asked her whats going on here and talked to her five minutes outside. She told me it was only business! I didn’t buy it this time and i walked away! I know shes cheating on me. i helped her out so much with her life when she didn’t have a job and lent her allot of money that she said shed pay back. I just told her i wanted my money and she tried making me fell guilty saying ” oh so you never loved me? is this the price from your heart?” I told her it wasn’t love cuz you wouldn’t be doing this to me! I told her i came a whole year with you and got to know your family and friends, and i gave you my heart and it seems like you don’t care how im hurting i told her! All she told me was SO, get over it! All she did was bring up the past and make excuses on why this was happening. Blaming it on me! I know it was just guilt coming out of her cuz i caught her with my own two eyes with the married guy from work! She tried to make me feel bad for her actions for her getting caught. She said she going to pay me back. She used me allot, and i feel so down and depressed and in the dumps! I feel like she wiped me with her ass and all i wanted to do was love her and thought she was going to change since the beginning. I’m lost and very hurt,and feel very low, and have been asking God for justice on this and i sometimes feel its never going to happen. she did me so wrong! I’ve been asking justice from God but i feel like im being ignored on this by him. It was so wrong what she did to me! Im so hurt bad! Where is Gods justice on this to let her see how bad she hurt me and the wrong shes doing???
I’m so sorry that all that happened to you, JC!!
This woman already knows the wrong she has done and the hurt she has caused; she’s not a little child that does not know right from wrong and what things cause harm. Either she enjoys being cruel, or simply does not care; either way, she is a terrible person that has no place in your life.
Do you want justice… or revenge?
God will see that this woman comes to a bad end, but most likely not for months or years, and you will probably never know about it; He does not want us to feel satisfaction at the suffering another person endures, however deserved it is, because that is not a Christina attitude, so we usually will not see what He does about things We need to just accept it in faith.
And you also need to have faith that God will bring you something better to compensate you for your pain; it will probably not come right away, and you are too upset to jump into a new relationship right now anyways, but it will happen.
What will NOT happen is God showing up immediately to do some dramatic thing for you to erase your pain. You need to live through your pain and learn from the mistakes you made and then choose to move forward. At that point, He will start guiding you to your victory. Please keep me posted!!
But how could she lie to me? i mean come on, a man in prison she doesn’t let go of? Then she says she wants a new life with me and move out of his life in prison but doesn’t and still talks with him? And then she cheats on me with a married man from work? im a good man. i didnt deserve this! i gave my heart and feel that my heart is no good! i feel ugly inside and out. and yes i would like justice from god not revenge. Vengeance is not mine but by the hand of god. She just showed no compassion in the end. not even an in sorry. I just feel so abandoned by love and life How these men get the best of me and my heart and soul? Why does she allow it?
One important truth I learned in life is that if you ignore truth it will punish you in the worst ways. YOU knew this woman was not good very early on in the relationship but you overlooked it because you wanted the vision you had of her to be a reality. If truth is staring you right in the face and you ignore it because of your own desires, wants and wishes, you will suffer for it. God sent this woman your way to teach you a lesson. You need to grow up and rely on HIM alone. Jeremiah 17:5 “Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD.” Our God is a jealous God, meaning if there is someone or something that takes up your time, attention and affections more than God, it will not end well for you, HE must be number one in your life at all times, even before your own family members. Jc I’m sorry but the fault is your own in this case. The bible teaches us to guard our hearts. There are all kinds of nasty people out there ready and willing to use you as a door mat. Your heart belongs to God, don’t allow the filth of the world to spoil it and then blame it on God. Pry to God with all your heart for a Godly wife. Pray everyday and don’t give up. Put the responsibility of a good wife in His hands and trust that in His own time He will bring her in to your life.
I want God to save my future things getting too hard here for me
God already has a wonderful future planned for you. Hard times come to everyone; you have to stay in faith and live through them, and then God will lead you to your promised land.
Unfortunately, it is the nature of evil people to do evil, to cause hurt and harm. They either enjoy it or just don’t care. I’ve been on the receiving end of a fair amount of evil myself the past couple of years from people I loved and trusted, so I know how hard it is to live through.
The thing to remember is that what other people do says nothing about you or your value; only your own actions define who and what you are. All you can do now is learn from your experiences how to identify evil people, and use that knowledge to avoid them from now on. Evil people will ALWAYS do evil; the only way to not be their victim is to stay away from them. In the meantime, God will comfort you and get you through this.
And you state she knows the wrong shes done and the hurt shes caused me? i never got one apology!and to me shes acting like a child!Where is god in all of this? I feel so abandoned by her and by god right now….
I mean keeping her ex in prison, getting involved with me saying she wanted to leave him and be with me, and then her cheating with a married man at work behind my back. Is this right of her to do to people? How does she get the higher end and not feel bad for what she does. she succeeded in hurting me and got the beast of my heart soul and love and thought it was funny to her! I feel like a rejection to life! She has her cake and eats it to? is that what god sees fit for her and for my life? i didn’t deserve this! all i wanted to do was love! Why would god allow this to happen and not stop her in her tracks if shes wrong? I feel that gods justice will never come no matter how hard i pray. i feel so abandoned by life and by my lord! I don’t feel worthy to god or life at all…..
Yes, she knows; how could she not? Even little children know about truth and lies and what behavior is hurtful. She is an evil person; doing evil is her nature. Doing evil is of course wrong, but that doesn’t stop some people.
God is where He has always been: He was there watching her use her free will to do evil, and watching you use your free will to stay with her while she kept deceiving you. We all want free will, but along with the benefits comes the “down side”; free will means that evil people are free to do evil.
God never abandons us, and He is greatly saddened by our sufferings, but He will not turn us into puppets to prevent evildoing. He will bring justice… in His time, which will always be right. Stay in faith; God will repay you for all your pain.
i dont know how to get thru this. I’ve been drinking allot and i know its cuz i still love her. there were good times that we shared. i just don’t understand why she did this to me? is she confused? where is her heart? Is she waiting for her ex she claims in prison? or the guy at her work? or me? Im having a hard time dealing with this and have been drinking allot. what makes her happy? i was so good to her and never told her no on anything i did for her.
reply if you can, im sorry to bother. i just need to talk things out.
i just wanted to be an inspiration in her life. To be there like she asked me to, to hold her at night and feel comforted. To be there for her wants and needs when she was out of a job. Im a man and a good man. I did all those things and gave her what she wanted. Cant that mean allot to someone? Isint this what god asks us to be to one another and to show a loving heart? I don’t look for reward, but i asked god to help me thru this with her cuz i loved her. I really thought he would bless me in this , and look at me now? Im a failure n her eyes and i feel i was never good enough for her. Why couldn’t she see me for me and why couldint i win her heart for just being good to her and being there for her?
I can see how hard this is for you, and I pray that God will bring you comfort and strength. The only way through it is to just endure one minute at a time until the pain fades.
The answer to every question about why she did or did not do something is; “because she’s evil, and evil people act in evil ways.”
It does not matter what you give to an evil person, or how much you love them, you can’t turn an evil person into a good one or prevent them from doing evil to you. Nothing you do or say means anything to an evil person, they do not feel gratitude, and they never do an analysis of who does the most for them or loves them the most and decide to devote themselves to that person. An evil person does not care about you or your feelings. They have NOTHING to offer you.
God does not bless relationships with evil people, or any other unhealthy relationships. He will bring you a good Christian woman, and that relationship He will bless. Just stay in faith, and it will happen. Take care!!
I so needed this today! I was in a 2 year relationship with an old “friend” from college. He used me and rejected me and the kicker…I’ve been widowed and my fiance committed suicide in the last 15 years (I’m 49 years old). This man knew this of course and still treated me like this. He has happily moved on with another woman and justifies his actions by saying he “thought we were friends”. I have no contact with him any more, but I am really struggling with the fact that he could hurt me like that and now move on without any remorse. He wants me in his life and care about me (so he says), but the best thing for me it to have him out of my life. What makes a person do this? And, how does he get other women?? It’s been 3 months and I’m struggling. I know he is not the one for me, but I can’t stop thinking about what he is doing with his new girlfriend. Your thoughts?
I’m so sorry that you have endured so many losses, Heartbroken!! This man is clearly evil, and evil people act in evil ways, for no other reason than that is the nature of evil. When an evil person mistreats us, we torture ourselves looking for deeper reasons, but there aren’t any.
You’re right that this man is not the one for you, and that he needs to be totally out of your life. He will try to suck you back in so he can hurt you some more; don’t let him!!
He gets other women the same way he got you; he says and does the right things for a while, and a woman will ignore all the warning signs of evil when a man tells her what she wants to hear.
What is he doing with his new girlfriend? Deceiving and manipulating her, just like he did with you. And he will eventually hurt her terribly, just as he did with you.
I know it’s hard, but you need to stop thinking about him. When thoughts of him try to creep in, read some scripture; Psalms would be a good choice.
God has a fine Christian man for you, and you need to be emotionally available when he shows up. Focus on the future rather than the past, and stay in faith that God will bless you… because He WILL!!
Thanks for your comments. What I’m struggling with the most is that he has just gone on his merry way without any consequences while I am left devastated. I just want him to feel as much pain as I do. I know that’s not very Christian-like, but it’s how I feel now. I know time will heal.
What you’re feeling is totally normal; it’s not really Christian, true, but it is human. God understands.
Nothing you or anyone can do will make an evil person suffer like you are suffering, though; they’re not capable of being devastated, because they simply don’t care.
The unfortunate reality is that as long as they don’t break any laws, the people in your life can treat you any way they want without consequences; that’s why we have to choose our associates carefully.
I know you want to stew about what he did, but look at it this way; while you are focusing on how he hurt you, feeling miserable, he is enjoying his life… he isn’t even there, but he’s still hurting you!! Try to focus on things that bring you joy, and your heart will heal and be ready for the top-quality man you deserve. Talk to God every day; He will get you through this.
good post, life is full of unfairness, and people are just not nice and think they can get away with anything.
it is important to hold on to God promise.
I’m glad you enjoyed the post-thanks for the comment!! 🙂
Words of encouragement. I was cheated and used by a man I loved. He dumped me and blamed me for everything. I was so heart broken. It was when I heard that he is already married to a woman 10 years older than him after 2 weeks of breakup made me feel more pain. I thought he was the man that I will be with for the rest of my life but it turns out that he doesn’t. He even shouted at me that I was not good for him. Very unfair to me. I have my flaws as well but does he remember his?Yes, I know I don’t have money comparing to the woman he’s married to. I can only give him my sincere love but again he said I did not appreciate him. While he was sick I was there to take care of him and his family witnessed this. What makes me really sad was the promises he made to marry me. After reading this, I know God has better plans for me and hope God will bring justice to my life.
I’m so sorry that you’ve had this terrible experience!! You’re right, God DOES have a better plan for you. God doesn’t want you to marry such a cruel, ungrateful, irrational man!! This man is not worthy of you, but God has a fine Christian man lined up for you that will make you forget this other man.
And don’t fret; people who are foolish enough to jump into marriage that fast have a 99% failure rate, even when there’s no age difference and he isn’t marrying her for her $.
I’m trying hard to forget him. Im still in the process of healing and he is married. How cruel can life be..thank you for your reply. God knows the best and im sure that one day he will regret his action. I’m letting God settle my case. Thank you.
God surely has his own time and when he delivers he does it well trust him
am separated from my husband and he chased me away i have nothin and have a kid but i believe God will see me through
You’re right, Lisa, God WILL see you through. When things are going badly in our lives, that’s a test of our faith; if you stay in faith, God will bring you out better than before. Hang in there!!
I think that what she is saying allows a human to become a better person, you should not bring your self down do to others hate within them, no one is good except god, only through Jesus are we able to justify are sins, pointing fingers is wrong. Jesus said to god before he died, “God forgive them for they do not know what they are doing”. If you want to forgive your self then trust that Jesus will bring justice into your life…s I know that my enemies are praying on me and watching my every move, I declare that JESUS will bestial his ever-lasting kingdom if I stand strong with the belief that I can preserver through prayer and determination that Jesus will answer my prayer if it brings glory to his name.
Jesus, as I recall was it you that forgave me of for what I did? Yes, it was said the lord to me, as I prayed to him, wasn’t it you “Lord” that created my wonderful child {yes} it was says the lord: was it you lord that provided me the strength to know that you are always at my side, yes it was says the lord…. Know that I know it was you Lord, I beg of you to have mercy on me, lord please says the lord in my thoughts, it was you lord that allowed me to choice all on my own, as the lord said, yes it was lord every action that I have said was based on my on motivation for the flesh, I ask you lord, that you let blessing of my pain bring honor in your holy name… “was it you lord that provided me the strength to know that my sight is within you and your spirit” and I ask that you allow me to ignore the snares of the world and allow my kind broken heart to heal, cause it was you lord that was there for me the entire time, all that left and all the came were gone, but not you lord, just you lord you are the one that can set me free, was it you lord that told me I can inherit the kingdom, yes it was says the lord, I stand strong in your word, weak in the flesh, and hurt, but have overcome this through your beauty and greatness, I love your word lord, you gave me free will to do so, I bless them, please I bless them; Lord. They are the gift that was given to all says the lord, the flesh will be gone, but my soul is eager to know that they were given through your holy name. Jesus: I know that your greatness has humbled my heart, oh lord please keep it this way, lord that all are greater than me, I know lord, I said that. Your animals are greater in beauty then me, and I am humbled, the hands that you make, have me humbled, but I still seek the greatness of you lord cause I want my spirit to become more like you, as you said lord the free will that you have gave me has made me give all my emotions and conscious to you, please lord you said that if I give my thoughts and your child that you so gracious gave to me, that you can transpire good, please protect them lord, please I beg you. Jesus, you are the only insight to forgiveness, I ask that your gentle hands assist me in justice, I know that your will is unfair, however, that allows me to escape the pit of hell, for you Lord [God] is perfect, and I would not want someone else to feel the pain that I had, which in the flesh would bring me to hell, and because of your saving grace, I have woken more to hearing your voice, it was written from “1 Thessalonians 4:16”. The forgiveness that is within your heart can save me from the fire lake, kind of like mellow intense jelly (like being stung from the most toxic jelly fish, and having no help), stuck cannot move, screams, pain, burning, scary, Matthew 6:15 spoke and it was written “But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”. 6:14-15 describes: “For if you forgive others their trespasses, you’re heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses (Matthew 6:14-15)”. Proverbs 10:12 described the following intense burning words of hate will stir fire from the kingdom of hell, but Jesus’s grace and love, his common delivery can protect love in the offenses of his holy name, the romans 3:23 pronounced the following: mankind knows their sins, and have loved to roll in the belly of it, laugh and hate at it: they cannot wait until the fallen are short with their transgressions, but the goodness and glory of Jesus will allow them to choice to ask for forgiveness and preserve. There so perfect when they can’t speak of themselves, and cannot wait to hurt you, but proverbs 25:21 says “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink”( Proverbs 25:21).
Thank you for the comment, Whatever!! 🙂
Hi
I was a God Fearing person every day knew when i woke up that the lord is watching my back but god took my happiness awAy with a blink of an eye all i used to pray and ask to god was never let me down and he did im loosing a lot of faith in god now cos the more i pray he pushes me further away just dont know how to live with all this
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been going through such a hard time, Sheldon!! Don’t lose hope; God still has your back. He didn’t take your happiness away; most harm in our lives comes from human beings using their free will to do evil. Praying does not mean that He will protect us from all harm:
Matthew 5:45 (NIV)
45 … He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
God never walks away from us or pushes us away; the only way to be separated from Him is if we lose faith and turn away. True faith exists regardless of what’s going on in our lives; if you only have faith when God is doing everything your way, that’s not faith, that’s just being happy that you’re getting your way.
Your faith is being tested. You need to show God that your faith will remain solid no matter what you’re going through. It’s hard, I know; having this unwavering faith was hard for me to learn, too… but if you want God’s blessings, you have to show Him faith… and gratitude, love, and trust… in the good times as well as the bad times.
It’s ok if you don’t have perfect success; God just wants to see that you’re making an honest effort. Hang tough; your destiny is still on the way!!
I’m sitting at work trying not to do the ugly cry… God used you in a mighty way to speak to me this morning. So much of what you wrote is what my life has been for a least the last 5 years. I do so much to live a godly life and to do what thus saith the Lord and it seems like noone notices and noone cares. I know this is God testing me. I know He wants to see if I remain faithful, and to be honest, I’m hanging on by a thread. I cry out to Jesus daily just to give me enough strength to make it through to the next day. I dare not ask for more. At this point I have no other choice than to believe that one day God will prevail over all the evil and injustice… believing anything else would make me certifiably crazy. I’ve gotten to the point in life where I believed that THIS is it for me. Work like crazy but get no benefits, constantly do for others but not having anyone to help me when my circumstances change. Part of still believes this is just my life. Part of me thinks that justice will not ever prevail this side of Heaven. Part of me thinks I can never be redeemed. Part of me thinks I’m just one of the unlucky ones. A big part of me is convinced that I am utterly unlovable. But part of me still has faith that evil will not continue to win. That part still tries EVERY SINGLE DAY to put the devil under my feet. That part of me, as weak as it may be, still prays for a breakthrough, even though the other part feels like giving up because hope deferred makes the heart sick.
But anyway, thank you for your blog post. I did help to fortify my resolve to hang on, if only for one more day.
I’m sorry to hear what a hard time you’re having, Kay!! God WILL bring you to your promised land after your time in the desert. In the meantime, ask Him for anything and everything you want!! God wants to give us enormous blessings. He wants us to tell Him what we want:
Philippians 4:6 (AMP)
6 … by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.
He wants to fulfill our desires:
Psalm 37:4 (NIV)
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Trust that He will fill your life with blessings… and He WILL!!
I’m glad this post helped you; thank you for telling me. 🙂
Your message has encouraged and motivated me. I am goign through a very very difficult time. I have been falsely accused with legal cases issued by the housing society committee members. In obedience to God’s word, I chose to forgive ny accusers and bless them.
Huge amounts have been falsely added to my maintenance bills and at times I fear how will I be able to pay them.
Please pray that God will give me victory and settle all issues peacefully and supernaturally clear me from all charges debited to my account. I am standing on God’s promises.
Pray that God would fight the battle for me; that I must never lose my focus from God.
I’m glad that the sermon helped you, and I stand in faith with you that this financial situation will be resolved in your favor!!
Thank you so much,I am inspired. This year 2014,I lost my job,my car,my boyfriend(he recently got married behind my back),my teenage daughter is pregnant. Friends and loved one disappeared,no calls,nothing!I am left all alone,unemployed and raising kids alone. It was my year of loss. Your message gave me strength to move on,to have hope and to trust that God will fight my battles.
I’m so glad that this post inspired you, Philadelphia!! I’m very sorry to hear about your losses; stay in faith, because God eliminated those people who were not there for you to make room for better-quality people who will enrich your life. A good place to meet new people and find fun things to do is:
meetup.com
I was feeling down so much in myself due to unfair in my life but as I read the above message I m feeling better by knowing god always do justice.. May god show us the right path in life.. Those people who do unfair, god will eventually pay them by their deeds… We just have to stay positive & do good deeds…
I’m glad that the post helped you, Trish!! 🙂
Please pray that mukesh taneja call me. And talk to me I want to talk him.. He have so many misunderstanding.. Need to clear..Jesus Christ touch his heart make his heart that he is calling me and ask for the thing ..I pray with Thanksgiving
Amen
I’m praying for mukesh taneja to call you!!
Thank you for such wonderful, words of encouragement. I woke up feeling so low and discouraged. I have been a victim of abuse for many years. Over the years, things have become worst. Satan has been working overtime to cause more havoc, using friends , family, technology, evil eye, witchcraft all against my life. At times I become discouraged , because the wicked people still prosper. I’m learning more and more about, how god operates. Recently I have become more close to the lord and in doing so,Satan has gone to great lengths to distract my focus on the lord.
I have to learn how to control my emotions and trust god more. Learn to walk by faith and not by sight. The devil is a liar and a great deceiver but god is the true light. God is watching and recording everything. I believe that justice will be served in gods court of law. The angels have recorded all what took place. My abuser is narcissistic and believes he will escape judgement. He gets away with it because I have no evidence, to prove what he has done.
But god will deliver me and restore my lfe.
Thanks for your encouragement
Amen
God WILL restore you:
Zechariah 9:12 (ESV)
12 Return to your stronghold, O prisoners of hope;
today I declare that I will restore to you double.
Stay in faith, and you will receive unprecedented favor!!
Thank you Very Much for pep talk with God! I know this now. But it helps me get through each day. With the sadness and sorrow that will be behind me 1 day. That we HAVE such a WONDERFUL LOVING GOD who only wants the Best for his people. I appreciate the pep talk! It really brought my spiris up!!! God Bless You for taking the time out to help others, like me. Happiness and Joy for you Always. Thank you Father God!! AMEN!!!
I’m glad the sermon helped you, Juliana!! 🙂
Thank you much for this y Son’s Father and Family took my Son away when I wanted him to have his Family. I with a Father who didn’t care from a baby gave all rights for a emotionally healthy life. I was starting to fall from alcoholism/but still totally loveable, capable and totally functionable. Which was never an issue. The Family paid 10,000 and did EVERYTHING to disown my Son from me. And the only other family who he had was a sensationial Grandmother. The Father’s parents pysically tortured my Son and neglegted him in every way. No God, which I didn’t really realize in the beginning. I was just to happy to be a Mother at 30/yes old. Not believing God would gift me. They lied robbed and did physical harm to my child. And now because he’s was so young, he says he remembers nothing. And I am pushed out because he was in diapers when they took him. I need some kind of support. Ive had nothing but abuse my whole life, somewhat like what Jesus went through. No ezageration!!! All I want is our love reunited like it was in the beginning. I pray for his Father/Family always remind not to start feeling bitter. I have o ly became a reborn Christian(working at it!). Please find me help so that maybe I can write or have classes for all Gods children. Thank you. And God bless you from deep down!! Sincerely yours. Juliana Patrick. I would help volunteer if I could help your website
You’ve been through a terrible ordeal, but don’t lose faith; God will cause you to triumph in the end!! I’ll pray for it to happen soon.
If you want to write, why not start your own blog?
I edited out your email addy from your post for your protection. I appreciate the offer of help; if you tell your friends about me, that would be a big help. 🙂
thank you for the reassuarance i have been through alot since 2001 now i believe that God is going to pay it all back
You’re welcome, and yes, He will!! 🙂
When we last spoke, I told you that I was going threw a really bad breakup. I was with this guy 5 years and it was hard when he dumped me out the blue. This guy cheated, lied an anything else you could think of that was not cool. I was depressed and even tried to kill myself and but God told me that I’m it wasn’t my time. I recently ran into him today and it was hard for me to see him and speak to him even saying hi. He’s has moved on with a girl whom he was cheating on me with and even though I know he wasn’t goo for me and he hurt me so bad, I still feel like he won! He’s seems happy and it seems like he got away scott free with what he did to me which is why I can’t even speak to him when I see him. It hurts and sucks because I’m still struggling with the situation and it has been a year. My question is should I feel like I got cheated and he got the best of me? It’s just a crazy feeling to feel like that person who hurt you is walking away scott free and doesn’t even regret or think about the hurt he’s caused. It’s just not fair. 😦
Quita, YOU are the winner here. God loves you so much that He removed a low-class man from your life, so that you can get ready for the fine Christian man He has waiting for you.
Hurting someone doesn’t make anyone a winner!! If you meet some man, deceive and cheat on him and then dump him, would you feel like a WNNER? Would your family and friends be praising you for that behavior? Would God reward that behavior with blessings? Being a liar and a cheater makes a person a LOSER, not a winner.
The low-class man is a bad person, he has a girlfriend who is also obviously a bad person, and so you know that that relationship will end badly, as will everything else in his life, although not always immediately or so that you will see or know about it. Worse than that, as a bad person he can’t have a connection to God; you can’t be a winner without that!!
It’s horribly painful to be betrayed, but you have to start letting it go; God can’t bring new things into your life while you’re clinging to the old ones. Move forward in faith, and God will restore you double!!
Thank you so much. I never looked at it that way! The guy was kinda playing the both of us. Because he told her he didn’t have a girlfriend and he would tell me when he was going out with this friends, he was really going out with her. So as far as she knows, I was the other women and as far as I know, he was dating her and me at the same time. His parents were fully aware of what he did to me because I told them. I still have a great relationship with them but I only to speak to them if they reach out to me. I don’t call them. However, the still accept this new person just like they accepted me even though then knew what their son did to me but I get it because that’s their son and their loyalty is to them and not me. But your right I got to look to the future and see that this was a blessing even though I don’t see it now because it hurts. But years down the line I would look back and giving God the full praise because he saw it coming way before I did and he was protecting me not punishing me. You stated that this relationship he is in now will end badly? How are you so sure if he’s happy now and treats this girl different than me. For example, not cheating on her and lieing? Again, it’s just an assumption because in not around him so I really would know.
Also, what makes this girl a bad person?
You’re welcome!! And you’re right, in the future you WILL be praising God for getting this low-class man away from you.
We have no way of knowing if this man is happy, or how he is treating the girl; no matter what he says on Facebook or wherever, we’re not in his head, and we don’t have a spy cam watching them together. He is a liar and a cheater, so ANY relationship he has, unless he has major therapy, will end badly. He has already deceived this new girl in the worst way, assuming that he’s telling the truth and she didn’t know (liars lie about EVERYTHING, remember), and it won’t magically get better over time when the excitement fades… it will get WORSE, as it always does with liars.
I’m not convinced that this other girl didn’t know; it’s hard to cover up a long-time relationship because of the amount of time he had to have been spending with you. If she knew, and still dated him, that makes her a bad person. If she honestly didn’t know before, then we look at it this way: now she DOES know that he was deceiving you, and HER, and if she still stays with him, then she is a fool… what kind of idiot wants a man who has been verified to be a liar and a cheater? He knows that he can trick her, and that even if she finds out she’ll still stay with him, so she can expect his worst behavior.
Don’t be angry at him, or jealous of her; pray for them both… they’re going to need it. Focus on your own life, on your walk with God and finding a GOOD man to spend time with. Every moment you spend thinking about these 2 sad people is a moment that is totally wasted; leave them in the past and move forward into the future!!
I just want to give my Lord thanks for everything i’ve heard in this awsome prayer and i would want to believe it has been brought to me at the right time because i was now at a point when i was speechless beause of the double trouble in my situation. I believe my time has come for justice to be brought into my life, enough is enough in Jesus’ name, Amen….!
Stay in faith, Eresie, God has not forgotten you; at exactly the right time, justice will come!!
I slept with a married man. I stopped doing it bc it was wrong and because I found a man whom I loved and I wanted to respect and marry.
The irony: he cheated on me with my best friend. A woman I considered a sister.
I guess it was God’s justice for that to have happened to me. I thought that if I repented sincerely, I would be forgiven, but I guess it just wasn’t the case.
This woman had a nice husband whom she cheated on. He suffered cruelly. And he was a man of God: a believer of justice. And he still is as far as I know. And yet, this woman cheated on him, deceived me and took the man I loved. My ex and her are now married and raising her child from her former marriage (she divorced and married my ex in less than 3 months).
Today, two years after, I still think of this. God enacted his justice on me in less than a year. I was crushed and I understood it had been God’s justice for the bad thing I did even if repented sincerely. So, why were they spared of His justice?
And what about this woman’s ex-husband? He got the bad end of this in so many ways I shudder to think about them. He still bound to that bad woman by their son and he has to have contact with her and her lover. And my cheating ex and his now wife are enjoying life as a married couple with a child.
So, I just wonder now why repentance and the promise (and act) of leading a fair life weren’t enough for God (I still lead a good life. Never messed with anyone ever again). And why my ex and my former best friend are leading a happy life right now despite having done exactly what I did (and even worse, I would say) and having hurt people they once said they loved.
I had the feeling before I met my ex that God didn’t like me very much. After all this ordeal, I really thought I was wrong and that God saved me from a terrible man and a terrible friend.
But now, years later, I feel that perhaps I don’t deserve His justice after all. And that I was right thinking that God didn’t like me very much.
Do you have any recommendation for me to understand God’s will and move on?
Nikki, you’ve clearly been through a terrible time, and in your guilt over your earlier behavior you’ve convinced yourself of some problematic things.
Whether or not God forgave you was never in question. God forgives you BEFORE you repent. His love and mercy are not conditional on our behavior. Remember the story of Jesus and the woman caught in adultery? She did not repent, or even express remorse, but Jesus still said:
John 8:11 (NKJV)
11 … “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”
Jesus did not even ask her to repent first, or instruct her to repent later on; she was forgiven and that was that. What has happened in your life has no connection to God not forgiving you, or to your not sufficiently earning forgiveness; God’s forgiveness is a GIFT, and cannot be earned by any actions or ours, nor can the wrong actions prevent His forgiveness… we don’t have the power to prevent Him from doing anything, nor can we “force” Him to do something because of any action we take. Any bad feelings you have over your past actions are because you have not forgiven yourself!!
The second problem is the idea that God caused TWO people to sin to somehow punish you. God never causes anybody to sin for any reason!! And do you really think God devastated that innocent man’s life to punish YOU? In your guilty conscience you are not thinking clearly; God had NOTHING to do with that whole scenario, and no part of it was “justice” against you. Your ex would have done the same thing if you had been a saint your entire life; he behaved the way he did because that is his personality, not because God “made” him do it because of what you did before.
The third problem is the idea that God doesn’t like you very much; that’s simply not true. In the same way a human parent loves even the naughtiest child, God loves all of us… He can’t possibly love LESS than a mere human parent!! And frankly, if He ever DID decide to not like someone much, I think the murderers and rapists and so forth are in line ahead of you. Again, this is your guilty conscience talking; the only one who does not like you much is YOU… and there’s no reason for that!! You did something bad, repented, and have behaved rightly since then; that’s as good as most people ever are, and better than many for sure.
The fourth problem is that you are focusing on the lives of your ex and his wife rather than on your own life. You have no way of knowing how happy they are, regardless of what they post on Facebook; you are not in their home with them. And, you have no idea how God will handle the justice issue, or when; that’s not your concern. You should be showing Him your absolute faith that He WILL handle it, not essentially accusing Him of sparing them because He has not done it in your way on your timetable. Frankly, since both of these people are established cheaters and deceivers, all God has to do is let them behave the way that comes naturally to them; they will take each other out eventually.
You have to stop dwelling on your ex, his wife, her child, and her ex-husband; these people are not part of your life anymore. You are letting your entire life be poisoned by people who are not giving one single thought to YOU and your life!! You have spent YEARS focusing on this, with no possible benefit of doing so; now it is time to STOP. You have to focus on your own life and the people who are actually in it. Forgive yourself for what you did years ago, understand that you have had God’s love and forgiveness all along, and move forward. Make new friends, meet new men, and keep an eye out for any behavior that makes you realize that they are the wrong kind of people so that you can hopefully avoid any further betrayals. Most importantly; reach out to God with love and joy, as He deserves, and have total faith in His goodness, righteousness, and love for you. He will still get you to your destiny!!
Thank you… This is exactly what I needed to know… I’ve been so terribly wronged. God bless.
You’re welcome!! 🙂
Hi, I’m a 17 year old Christian guy, and the past year I have had a few troubles which were never my fault.
In grade 10 (2013), I asked this girl out from my school, one of my friends. Over the course of a month and a half we never went out or kissed or anything. I then broke up with her (even though we were never dating in my opinion as we didn’t go out) because I felt I just wanted to concentrate on school. At the end of last year (2014) however she made up a terrible rumour that I cheated on her, and told some people. She also told people we kissed and all things other random stuff that was clearly untrue. I’m a nice guy, and when it heard about the things she had been saying about me last year, I ignored it. (Stupid of me I know). But then for the past 6 months I have always worried about what people thought about me if they heard some of the things she made up about me and believed them. It hurt me a lot and affected my motivation in a lot of areas in my life. What did I do to deserve this? I have good friends at school and I’d say I’m more popular than her. Most people I know believe in me and know she lies a lot, but what about the people who believe in her lies?!? There’s no justice in that..and I wonder how God will give me justice. All I want is for EVERYONE to know the truth. Anyway back to the story…, two weeks ago I heard she was still making up stuff about me, telling my closest friends lies. I then finally messaged her telling her to stop, and that I forgive her. It was hard for me to do. But she then replyed saying she was ashamed of what she has done to me and that she’s really sorry. I also told her to tell everyone she’s said bad things about me that it was all a lie. She then replied saying last year after she told people lies, she fixed them up, and that if it ever came up again, she would tell the the truth. How am I to believe in a liar? How do I know that’s true and thay she will confess the truth? I’m hoping God will give me justice, but for all the people she hasn’t corrected her lies with…are those people always gonna believe the stuff she said and therefore not like me or think I’m a bad person? How will god fix this and give me justice? I know this is a very stupid and incredibly minor issue but I just want everyone to know the truth. I always think to myself, would people like me more if this never happend? I’ve told my parents all about the situation, and this girl knows that my parents are unhappy with what she’s done. I feel like talking to people at school and correcting the truth with all the people I think believe her…but my parents think that will make me look like a weirdo and then people will think that I’m a weirdo. Again, if I take faith in God will he fix things or would it be ok if I tried myself?
Daniel, here’s what you do: Talk to whoever she has lied to about you, and say, “Can you believe how obsessed (girl’s name) is with me? She can’t stop telling lies about me since I dumped her. Is she in love with me or what?” Then laugh. Next time she opens her mouth about you, people will ask her if she’s in love with you and laugh at her. That will shut her up. People will soon forget the whole thing. No one’s permanent opinion of you will be affected; they’re thinking about graduation and college and starting their adult lives, not focusing on teenaged gossip.
And that’s where YOUR mind needs to be. In a couple of years, you won’t even remember these people. Don’t worry about “justice”; the term does not apply to this sort of thing. Don’t give one thought to vengeance for trivial things like this; have faith that God grows up teens into adults and move forward with your life. Good luck!! 🙂
Sorry the message I just sent though I didn’t accompany with my email or name.. So here it is
Thanks so much!! And yes, you’re absolutely right.. I need to move forward, and I will.
Now I am in situation where the god can only help me out…i was in relationship from last 5 years..where i had done several mistakes n she goes for a breakup..n now m really trying to change myself n went to her 100 times n said plzz forgive me..but now she wont beleive in me..she is so kind n good by the nature..so what should i do now??..i really love her from my bottom of heart..
Abhilash, if you want to change her reaction to your requests for forgiveness, you have to show her that you have changed. Depending on how badly you destroyed her trust in you, it may take you a while to prove that you are now a different person. It might take months, or even years. If you genuinely want to be with her, then all you can do is take as much time as she needs to be convinced that you have changed. There is no point in trying to get her to forgive you until you have proved yourself to her. Be patient, stay in faith, and God will help you become the new man you want to be, and win back the heart of the woman you love.
Exactly same she told me to do this..but i thought it differently..tysm for your time..Now i will exactly do the same..Again thank you so much…
You’re welcome!! Let me know how it works out.
My Ex girlfriend made up heaps of crap about me over a year ago, and is probably still doing it..yet her friends are still being nice to me? Is it a cover up or what? It’s been over a year now yet they’re nice to me. Im a really nice guy and people know that.. I just don’t understand how her best friends are nice to me.. Not like I’ve ever done anything wrong.. But she did make me sound like a bad guy probably to them. So why are they nice to me?? Are they being nice and then talking behind my back?!? I know her best friend is a big gossiper, and he probably has talked about me before.. Why is he overly nice to me..does he really hate me? I’m hoping God looks after these kind of problems and gives justice and brings out the truth. Part of me wants to ask her friend or two that everything she says about me is lies.. And to ask what her friend (this guy) really thinks of me. Thoughts?
Joe, life is too short to worry about people being NICE to you. They probably like you and are ignoring what they know is untrue gossip. It’s theoretically possible for anyone to be faking niceness while talking behind your back or even disliking you… but why make yourself crazy worrying about it?
People being nice to you is not a problem or a situation requiring justice. If you ask people who are being nice to you if they secretly dislike you, you will look kind of crazy and paranoid, and you could create dislike by your actions. Just be nice right back to them, and otherwise don’t focus on them; once you graduate, you’ll never see these people again, so don’t waste one more moment thinking about them. Hope that helps!! 🙂
yes..surely sir….
I’m a woman. Don’t worry, lots of people make that mistake. 🙂
I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past eight years who promised me that he would never ever leave me, come wat may.The relationship was great and filled with so much love. However, he has left me and is getting married to a girl of his parents choice this month. I could never imagine that he could do this to me. He himself says that he cannot believe he is doing this to me and he feels extremely heart broken to do this but says he has to do so as part of his responsibilities towards his parents.
I let him go without complaining and wished him a happy life ahead.He wants to be in touch with me but i refused.I was very shattered at first, but now I m much better because I completely believe in god. But I dont know if justice will be done and also I dont think I can ever get over him.
This blog has given me hope. What are your thoughts on this?
Pinky, I’m sorry to hear about the painful situation that you’re in!! You did the right thing by letting him go without making an ugly issue of it, and by refusing to keep in touch with him; that is the way a true woman of God should behave.
Everyone always feels like they’ll never get over it when a person they love leaves them, but everyone always DOES get over it. It’s also natural to feel that you’ll never love anyone as much as the missing person, but you will, in fact you’ll almost certainly love several other people in your life MORE than you loved the one who has left you. I know it’s hard, but the sooner you let go of him and start working on your own life, on your own growth and improvement, the sooner you will be over him and find a new and better man. Even though you probably don’t want to, you really need to force yourself to do some new things, learn new things, and meet new people; this can be a powerful season of growth for you that will provide benefits for the rest of your life
Justice is not an issue with your situation; no wrong has been done to you. You were not married to this man, which means that he did not owe you anything, no matter how much love he proclaimed for you. If he has genuinely taken action to honor the wishes of his parents, we know what the Scripture says about that. If, on the other hand, he just found someone that he wanted more, then, since, again, you were not married to him, he was well within his rights to be with her instead, and if he is handling it badly or awkwardly that’s unfortunate, but it’s not something that you should expect justice for. This is one of the reasons that there’s nothing in the Bible about being girlfriend and boyfriend; if a man is not forced to make a real commitment, that makes it too easy for him to leave when he finds someone new, and a man will ALWAYS be meeting new women.
There are a couple of painful lessons for you to learn from this situation:
1) A great relationship is based on HONESTY. If you had no idea that this man could leave you at any time to marry a woman of his parents’ choosing, then you did NOT have an honest relationship with him, and therefore you did NOT have a great relationship with him, no matter how much you loved him and how much he claimed that he loved you… because I guarantee you, HE knew that he would be obligated to marry whoever his parents told him to marry whenever they told him to do it. Or, if that story is just a cover-up, he knew all along that he did not love you enough to marry you, and that meant that the relationship was never going to go anywhere; a great relationship is one where BOTH people want it to lead to marriage.
2) Don’t believe it when a man says that he will never leave you when he has not put a ring on your finger; if a man really wants to be with you forever, he will MARRY you. By the time you have been with a man for a year, or 2 at the most, you should be engaged and setting a wedding date; if you’re not, that almost certainly means that he is NOT planning to be with you long-term. It doesn’t matter how many promises he makes you, or how much he claims to love you; talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. Any man who is not eager to marry you within 2 years is a man that you need to walk away from.
The good news is, God has a fine Christian man already picked out for you, and at the exact right time He will bring this man to you. When that time comes, you will realize that you learned many important life lessons from this other man, and gained a great deal of character, strength, and closeness to God; everything that you are going through right now is necessary to get you ready for your eventual destiny. Eventually, you will THANK your ex for leaving you when he did. I know it seems impossible, but I guarantee you that it will happen.
Stay close to God. Stay in faith. He will get you through this. You’ll spend some time in the desert, but your promised land is coming sooner than you think, and it will be better than you could ever have imagined when you get there.
Thanks for the reply…much appreciated
Just what I needed to hear about- God’s justice! Great piece.
Thanks!! 🙂
why she is taking too much time to forgive me..??..I am doing all possible things to convince her..although she is not having any other relationship..i really love her..n believe me she is so sweet n well manner.. my mental pain is really increasing everyday..plz suggest me something what to do..
You can’t convince someone to forgive you, Abhilash; if you try, all that does is make them feel pressured and manipulated and so LESS likely to forgive you.
All you can do is behave like a man of virtue in all ways, and wait. However long it takes for her to forgive you, based on her personality and how badly you hurt her, that’s what you have to accept, with a good attitude and without bugging her about it.
It may take YEARS for her to forgive you. All you can do is pray and stay in faith… and learn to never make those same mistakes again. God will get you through it!!
OK..i understand..she is saying i know u hv change..i know now u will keep me always happy but i dont want to b in relationship..i want to live with my family n friends those who were with me in my bad days..
There’s no such thing as a person who would honestly rather have no relationship than to always be happy. She is telling you that as a polite way of saying that nothing you can offer her will make her be with you again… for right now. And possibly forever, if she doesn’t forgive you.
There is absolutely nothing you can do at this time to change how she feels. All you can do is be the best man you can be, leave her alone for now, and pray for God to soften her heart. Good luck!!
OK..i got it..thnx for your valuable time..
I came across this site last night…well I am in south africa I searched why does God allow heartache then I came across this site…. I dont even know where to begin so much injustice has happened to me my prayer for a while has been for God to take my life because I failed 3 times at doing it myself.. I have been hurt in all my relationships badly hurt, lied too cheated on one ex got my friend pregnant. .. used and dumped so many times I have lost count… I had given up on love or on ever being happy until a month ago, I met a lovely young guy who restored my faith, give me hope for a brighter future, we always spoke for hours each day I was inlove with him, we spoke about God and how he will heal my heart I thought I found my soulmate… 3 days ago we were sitting together with his friend, I trusted him so much I didnt do a back round check I went onto Facebook using his friends phone and I searched for him, nothing could have prepared me for what I saw my boyfriend whom I trusted whom I loved who gave me hope for better days is married and has 2 kids instead of the 1 I knee about and the 2nd one is brand new baby just over 2 months old…. I stopped breathing for a second the pain has not even left or subsided…. he knew everything, I told him about my hardships and how I had lost hope till he came….. oh but where is God and why must I suffer I know I am not a bad person not even close but horrible things always happen to me… I just dont understand
I hear you, Dee. I went through years of being devastated by everyone I loved and trusted. I had a man I thought was the answer to my prayers who repaid my devotion with venomous cruelty.
I stayed in faith and trusted that God knew best. I learned strength, courage, and forgiveness. After 4 long years, my life suddenly took off like a rocket; I’m experiencing unprecedented favor.
You will too.
Tell God every day that you trust Him. MEAN IT. The day will come when you’ll thank these people for how they treated you. Explosive blessings are in your future!!
Thnx for the wonderful words…. Very inspiring… Now i know what exactly is happening….. Very nice
You’re welcome, Gaumsy!! 🙂
i have been hurt beyond measure by the one i thought loved me, abused verbally, emotionally and phisically. i stood by him every single day and all he did was cheat on me with no regrets by all of his actions, gave him money for business that never was and now told i will not be getting it back. he told me god brought me into his life for a reason and now i wonder what did he mean because he has damaged me. i am so lost, full of pain and have no one i can talk with, my family do not know the extent of my abuse.what must i do
I’m so sorry that you have gone through all that!!
The main thing you have to do now is allow yourself the time you need to grieve this relationship. Eventually the hurt will end… but it will take a while.
It’s best to find a way to share what happened with your loved ones, because if you don’t, not only will you not get their support, but you’ll lose much of what you have with them because you have to hang back from them to hide your grief.
There are many forums where you can post your story online anonymously, and women who have been through the same things you have will offer support and advice.
Throughout it all, stay in faith; God is right there with you. Thank Him for getting you away from that man, and for the fine Christian man He has picked out for you, who will come into your life when you are ready.
You have learned a very hard lesson; the many ways a man can be the wrong kind of man. When the right man comes, he will be very different, and after what you have been through you will be eager for that… but before all this happened, you would have passed this man by as too boring or unattractive.
God will get you to your promised land; keep on moving through the desert, and don’t look back!!
This article is amazing and very encouraging. I’ve been going through a rough time recently and was searching online for some Godly counsel. I’m glad you posted this. Now I can keep on doing what I need to do rather than having my mind assailed about the possibility of being unfairly treated at work to a greater extent than I have previously endured because of increased office politics. You even mentioned the workplace situation in your article. Bless you sooo very much for sharing. May God continue to use you mightily for His glory.
You’re welcome, Naomi, I’m glad this post helped you!! 🙂
thank you for your words of kindness, it is good to know that someone out there has the time to hear me and reply, today has been a less depressing day for me and had a few laughs with my work peers. i will try to open up to my family. i would like the link to get in touch with the women forums for support. i hope tomorrow will be just as good a day as today. god bless you for your support. Oops this is anonymous from yesterday.
I’m glad that today is a better day, and that you have decided to try opening up to your family!! There are many forums for women who have endured abuse; you can find them here:
http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=abuse+forum&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8
Keep sharing your heart with God every day; He already has explosive blessings lined up for you!!
Thnk u very much with such healing words I even thot dying ws better thn suffering especially when I suffer because of what other people did to me.
Stay in faith, Nunu, God will bring you out of the desert and into the promised land!!
Thank you for all of the encouraging words and scriptures and may GOD continue to heal and bless everyone reading this post and those who have yet to find it.
Please pray for me, I too am dealing with being rejected and feeling unloved and unwanted. It’s tough when you put yourself in a vulnerable position and then find that the one you hoped for doesn’t want you. I’m feeling lonely, heartbroken, depressed and just not good enough.
I know Jesus died for my sins, I can take consolation in HIS love but the flesh still hurts. I apologize for my weakness, but do I just prepare to live the rest of my life without a romantic connection? I’ve already given up on having children.
(Here come the tears…dry heaving sobs).
I’ve resigned to try my best to be content with the family and friends I’ve been blessed with. But, I still have that small, nagging little “ache” (for lack of a better term) in my spirit that would like to blessed with a wonderful Christian man in my life, romantically. What am I doing wrong? I just feel like a sack of sadness today…ugh.
BIG Hug N. I understand how you feel. I too have that desire. In the mean time I enjoy the positive aspects of my life that were I in a relationship or had children, I would not have been able to enjoy Philippians 4:11-13 helps. I do want to become a mother so if it doesn’t work out the way I’d like it, I’m thinking of adopting. I also guard my mind against people making singleness feel like a disease. Even in the church (and I’m all for church). I remind myself that Jesus was a single man and He fulfilled the will of the father. I trust God to keep me from being unduly vulnerable no matter the outcome of my life. In the mean time I learn to look on the bright side.
Esther,
Thank you. I felt your hug as soon as I read Philippians 4 🙂
– N
I’m praying for you, N!!
Love is a tricky thing sometimes. There will be people we love who don’t love us back, and people who love us that we don’t love back; this doesn’t make anyone not good enough, just incompatible.
One rejection does NOT mean that you’re going to live the rest of your life without a romantic connection; all it means is that ONE man out of the 3.5 BILLION males on this planet wasn’t perceptive enough to see all you have to offer. Once you have recovered from this bad experience, put yourself back where the men are, and God will bring you a better one.
Although there is a biological limit to having your own genetic offspring, the world is full of kids that need to be adopted or fostered, and women, and sadly teens, giving birth every day who are looking for the right kind of person to give their babies to. There’s no need to give up on having children.
You’re not doing anything wrong, and you absolutely do NOT have to settle for less than a standard family. What you DO have to do is show God your faith that He will provide this for you; being sure that you will NOT have those things is the opposite of faith. God will make it happen!!
FH,
Thank you, once again, for your “right on time” kind and uplifting words. Thank you for this arena where we all can be honest with ourselves and others. Bless you 🙂
– N
You’re welcome, N!! 🙂
Thank you so much for this word! It’s really helped me see that I don’t need to get discouraged or bitter. My husband walked out on me 8 months ago and it’s been so unbelievably heartbreaking, but I know God is going to pay me back for everything I thought I lost when he walked out, as long as I stay faithful to him and put my trust in him. Thank you so much for helping with your words!
You’re welcome!! I know it’s hard to imagine, Skylar, but eventually you’ll be glad that your husband left, because God has a better man, and a better LIFE, already lined up for you!!
I just stumbled upon your blog and I thank the Lord for sending you to me I nee was accused of conniving with fraudsters to steal close to a million dollars at work I was not born a thief and am not one went through torturous hell the media I was shamed and I cant seem to forgive a lot of pple am so bitter because justice hasn’t prevailed was arrested and went through all those traumatic stages I cant seem to move on and I feel betrayed by some pple i helped over the years and expected them to be there for me..i actually realise now that they are rejoicing at my demise am still on suspension and no salary everyday I hv to devise a way of surviving the next day my career my life just changed…I need answers some times I feel the Lord has deserted me f at all he loved how come he is allowing the wicked to prosper I could use your prayers right now .v.c
Varaidzo, it sounds like you’ve been through a terrible experience!! It’s a sad fact that when bad things happen, people who were happy to take from you in better times often disappear. It’s crucial that you forgive everyone involved, because unforgiveness poisons your soul, and prevents God from blessing you.
God has not deserted you!! Lean on Him; He’ll get you through this.
God allows the wicked to prosper because He gave us all free will; if someone wants to pay a wicked person a high salary, God does not prevent it. The Bible says to not focus on what the wicked are up to:
Psalm 37
1 Do not fret when wicked men seem to succeed!
Do not envy evildoers!
Run your own race, and focus on getting your own life back on track, not on what others are doing. I’ll be praying for you!!
Varaidzo, I’m really sorry to hear what happened to you. Without knowing the details or going something exactly similar, I just want you to know that you can get through this once you don’t quit. I agree with FH, because God gave us free will as a gift, He will not take it back just because we abuse it. So the rain will fall on both the just and unjust. But, this is not to say that He will leave evil deeds or injustice unattended to. We see what Joseph went through, but he didn’t quit and God turned it around. Look at Job and Daniel and so many others. And of course, there’s Jesus, who suffered the greatest injustice of all. We are His disciples and the disciple should expect to go through similar, even though most of us will not pay the ultimate price of death for doing the right thing. It is a hard place, a testing place, but we have the tools as believers to overcome the world. Jesus didn’t remain in the tomb. He is risen. So too we rise. I pray you experience God’s comfort and strength in the midst of your situation. May all your needs be provided for and may God’s wisdom, counsel and the love and support of His saints and various other good Samaritans be made available to you. He can turn any situation around, even if we must persevere to develop the fruit of long-suffering along the way. BIG Hug!
PS: that should be “without going through something exactly similar”. But, I do know what it’s like to experience an onslaught of various forms of injustice. It is tough, but we can overcome.
I stumbled upon your post by chance but I am glad that I did. I had been in a two year relationship with a guy I was head over heels for(The circumstances in which we became a couple were shaky because we both had previously dated each other’s friend.)He was my first real love. We were both in college and I thought it would lead to marriage because we dated for over a year. He always said that he knew what I wanted when we first started dating and he wouldnt have dated me if he didn’t agree with my ideology but every time thereafter he would say that he was “unsure” or he didn’t know what he wanted to actually get married or ever have children. He said his step-father told him to not get into relationships because you need to be free. But his step-father and mother have a dysfunctional family relationship which made it difficult for me to understand why he would take advice from a man that didn’t respect his mother that well. I tried to bring him around my family and they liked him(but were weary of him because of his family dynamics)but he would get frustrated every time he hung out with my family and when I had asked “why?” he said he could not be around them because we were “too close” and he was jealous of our family’s dynamics and wished him and his family were like that. I was torn up about this because I didn’t want him to feel bad but my family after God is the most important thing in my life. He saw how upset it made me but he agreed to still hangout with my family and I. His mother did not want him to date anyone because he was “her baby” and “her only child” . I tried to ignore everything because other than the “little white lies” he told about the neighborhood he came from, and how his grades were I believed our relationship was solid. We barely ever fought and we had been friends for four years, two of which were dating. Finally recently I graduated from college and expected for him to do the same the following semester because that’s what he told everyone(including his mother) but when he left his computer open during the week of my graduation I saw his transcript and saw that after four years of college he only had 75 credits. I was embarrassed and livid because he lied I asked him about it and he said that he has transfer credits from summer school that haven’t come in, I knew he was lying but I had bigger things I needed to do. I looked at him and asked if we were going to be together after I graduate and he said “of course why wouldn’t we be”. I invited his mother to come to my graduation both of them came and he even cried during the ceremony. We hung out after graduation for a couple of weeks then about two weeks later I received my acceptance letter to grad school. I was exstatic and told him but he didn’t seem geniuenly happy for me, but he faked it none the less. The next day he came on an excursion with my family and I and when he went home he texted me that he was in a “rut” he failed half the courses he took that last semester and he does not have a job for the summer. I tried to be supportive but needless to say the next week after ignoring me for a week he broke up with me. Claiming my “emotional issues” were the reason and he consulted his family and friends about doing that. I had been so sad. How could this have happened and why? I told him we could never be friends again and I hope he has a good life but all of a sudden a month after we broke up and not talking he texts me “happy birthday” for my bday. The whole ordeal has left me weary of people. I always wonder if he will ever fix what hes done and apologize. He did this to our mutual friend and like a fool I believed “he’s changed” and dated him. I wonder if he will ever get what he did back. I know that God has bigger things on the horizon for me.
God allowed you to learn many lessons about what NOT to accept in a relationship from this one man. God has a fine Christian man for you, who is emotionally healthy, open, honest, and is 100% sure that he wants to be with you; focus on being ready for him, and let God deal with your ex.
Thank-you for your kind words of encouragement FH!
Hello FH..hope u remember me…i have discuss my situation on post 65..It has been a completely 2 months where i hv started to recreate myself…Doing same what u actually told me to do…somedays she talk in a good way..share her feelings wid me..bt somedays she call me n try to harsh on me..when she talk wid me properly i feel so blessed n Happy..when she not…i got mentally unbalanced…is that a way of her perfection or anything else…???
Yes, of course I remember you Abhilash!! There’s no way to be sure of why your lady is doing what she’s doing. What you CAN be sure of is that she has not lost all interest in you, because someone with no interest does not contact you. Focus on your own life, on learning and growing, and getting closer to God; if you want that lady, you have to keep behaving right and just wait for her to be ready.
Yess…bt i hv learnt not to oppose her n not to argue her in whatever may be situation..n she knows it very well…
If that’s the way she is, you have to either put up with it or move on; you can’t change her personality. You might ask yourself why you want someone that you can’t speak your mind to, though.
No FH…i will never be move on…I hv my true faith in God..he cant be so rude with me…she has done many good things for me in last 6 years…n still at that time i hv made a several mistakes…n now its her turn to do so…simple….i will always be ready for her…i know one day she will come with all her heart open☺
She should be very grateful for your loyalty!! Just accept that there is nothing you can do but pray, and wait for her to do whatever she wants to do; God will help you get to the best possible outcome.
Yesss……FH…..i will do the same…☺
hi, our family has been under a curse for 20 years, we are free now, we made a horrible decision and gave the devil a foothold, but we are free, he stole so much of our lifes, we are waiting now to get double for our trouble..it is hard to wait..but in his time we will see it turn around…thank you for such an encouraging message!
Patricia
Thank you, Patricia!! God WILL come through for you!!
My friend,I am stuck in a very bad situation,,,I have been sharing a room with a person whom I knew…But he often texts his friends that he is stuck there due to me although he decided all the things,,I offered him to leave if he didnt like but he said all is was okay,,,,Now he is poisoned by a girl (classmate) about me,,And he doesnt tell me anything about it,,,She is trying to ruin my career and she is using him to do that,,,I can see that she doent love her and jst flirting with him but he is totally going mad at her cz of the sweet talks,,,Please help me what should I do,,,I can’t change the room at least this year cz we hv spent so much money together,,,Please show me the path
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through that, Ank!! How do you know what he texts his friends, and why do you care? He’s not your friend, so don’t waste one second worrying about his wild lies, or who is badmouthing you to him. Unless that girl is your boss, or he is, there’s nothing either of them can do to harm your career, so just ignore them. I’m sure it’s a pain sharing a room with a jerk, but it’s not for that much longer, right? Show God that you will prosper where you’re planted, and He will get you to a better situation soon!!
hold your head up high, you have done nothing wrong…
Thanx for the encouragement and also for your article,,,Sometimes no words can explain your feelings but your words trully did,,,,Whatever you have written in this article were the exact things I was feeling,,,,Again thanx and keep posting articles like this
You’re welcome!! 🙂
Thanx so much patricia
And one more thing I want to ask you is that why am I in a situation like this,which keeps on getting worst?
Matthew 5:45 (NKJV)
45 … He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust
Bad things happen because the world contains evil; there is no specific reason other than that.
Thanx again
AMEN. I AM IN AGREEMENT WITH GOD IT IS PAYBACK TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Inspire me everytime i read
Oh what a blessed morning this is!! For a long time I have been going through unfair situations and this is no accident that I have came across your message, this morning I woke up with tears and real sadness in my heart this was before I read your message I could not understand why all these things were happening to me and why I could not just get a break in life I thought for a really looooong time that God has forgotten me and that I should just accept things as they were, But PRAISE GOD for His reassurance that payback is coming my way!!!! Thank you so much I claim this message over my life in the name of Jesus Christ.
God finds a way to get the right messages to you, Ash!!
I spent 4 years suffering losses, and just plain suffering; this year, God has rewarded my unwavering faith with explosive blessings. Hang in there, your time is coming soon!!
Great blessings are coming, He is so faithful!!!
I know this is an old post but I was looking for some inspiration right now. I’m going through a hard time with another broken relationship and I’m afraid i may be pregnant for a man who doesn’t really care for me anymore. This will be the second situation I’ve been in. Not meaning to start a pity party, but my life has seen more tears than sunshine and I’m slowly caving in and the discouragement is overwhelming. I felt my god was finally blessing me with this man God, but it only ended up in heart ache. I’m so lost and trying to keep faith, but I’m weak and tired.
I hear you, Cara!! My life was a seres of cataclysmic losses for 4 years… but because I stayed in faith, God is rewarding my radical faith with radical blessings. He’ll do the same thing for you!!
Where in the old testament does it talk about God having a hand in taking evil people off this earth when there is no hope of their redemption?
I don’t think there’s anything like that in the Bible. There can ALWAYS be redemption, and God didn’t take people off the Earth, other than Enoch and Elijah.
I just wanted to tell you what a wonderful message this is you just don’t know how hard it is for someone that is going through something to not have any hope that there’s anything good going to come out of it but there is yes I recently had someone that wronged me cheated lied everything you could possibly imagine but trust me I do believe that God will make all the wrong right. He embarrassed me on social media after 3 weeks of being broken up posted pictures of other women I did confront him about it and for some reason he removed the Facebook page although I probably should have lost contact it just made me so angry to know that a person that I cared about so much can do evil and devilish things to me once again thanks so much for sharing this it’s really helping not to mention how good I was to him and his ill father. Some people are just mean.
Storm, you are better off without that man!! Stay in faith; radical blessings are just around the corner!!
Dear God,
I’m not sure what I should do anymore. I have sinned and owned up to my sins. I have cried by my bedside for days praying for a solution and praying that you give me the strength and courage to keep going on throughout my days. I have sinned against you. I lied to my fiance, I have cheated on you and on him. I destroyed his faith in me and him. I am so ashamed for what I have done to him. I know I don’t deserve another chance with my fiance. I ruined him financially, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m just praying that you give me the chance to better myself as a person and to prove to you Lord that I can be worthy at making someone’s else’s life better. I’m tired of being this person who let’s everyone down. I am so sorry God. I don’t even feel worthy enough to ask you for forgiveness right now. I just don’t know what to do. I seem to mess it all up and I’m trying my hardest to make up for it. I pray for the strength from you God. I pray that you help me become a better person. I can’t help but feel so ashamed. I feel lower then low about what I have done.
Anjelica, God has already forgiven you. Forgive yourself and move forward. Choose to do what is right from now on, and try to make amends to those you have harmed. God can still get you to your destiny!!
John 8:11 (NKJV)
11 … Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”
Hi..
I read your post and it is very soothing to a broken and wounded heart..I’ve been in a bad abusive marriage for the past 4.7 years.I kept hanging on hope that he will change. But instead he kept manipulating me my parents and his parents too that he is trying to change..He led Nd lied and lied in all aspects. .I ve lost hope he is gonna change. .I ve decided to leave him for my safety..I sometimes feel guilty that I have taken a bow to support my spouse in good and bad times. But all I see is he is using my belief and exploring me. I have lost my stkf resist my everything ..I have formed within the last 25 years. .All I had was pain and lies..U couldn’t take it anymore. I pray Gud to give me the strength to move on with life as pet his Holy will
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God does not intend for you to be harmed or endangered. Do what you need to do to be safe; God will bring you a better life and the strength to live it!!
Interesting reading,but just how long am I to wait? I’m a believer who has had an impossible time accepting the rhetoric ” hang-in-there ” … “wait on God. ”
At this point giving up would be far better than waiting on God to decide what He feels like doing at the moment.
I realized my mistakes in praying for good things to happen in my life before Jesus returns.I continue to pray for others, but for myself, it’s over,it’s a wrap, I’m done son !!!
I’m tired of being broke and watching God’s buddies (evildoers) always winning. Someone please tell me why I should even bother.
The right here and right now- BEFORE Jesus comes back.- shouldn’t be a problem for God, or am I really destined to forever be His torture-test dummy?
To be succinct: I want out of this living hell called life !!!!!!!
I’m sorry that your life has been so bad recently, Richard!!
Why bother with God? Because He’s the biggest and best thing in the universe, by an infinite margin. That’s worth every bit of time and effort we can offer.
How long do you have to endure a painful life before the good times come? It can take years. Why? It’s a test of your faith. Will it be worth it when your radical faith is rewarded with radical blessings? YES!! Tell God every day that you love and trust Him; He’ll get you through the desert and into the promised land.
FH
Thank you for your kind words. I was taken aback that someone responded in such a timely manner.I am only able to pray that my payback time will show up before Jesus comes back.
I don’t want to be as wealthy as a celebutard, I just want to know what it’s like living as a human being instead of being penniless.
After awhile it’s easy to become accustomed to seeing the worst in people, and society.
In closing I’ll say my boss really does seem to be a full-blown sociopath ; having someone like him in that position would be akin to Willie Horton and Charles Manson being appointed to the parole board.
Thank you again,
Richard.
I know how you feel, Richard. Be VERY sure that the only payback you’re hoping for is God paying you back for your sufferings; if you want wrongdoers to get payback, that will cause God to ignore your prayers. I understand the impulse to want to strike back, or ask God to do so, but as Christians, we’re held to a higher standard:
Luke 6:32-35 (NIV)
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
Jesus was penniless; all he owned were the clothes on his back and the sandals on his feet. He lived a life of service. When you focus on others, you don’t see your own circumstances, and you will find enormous satisfaction. There are a near-infinite # of ways and places where you can donate your time to help others; interacting with people who are disabled, ill, homeless, hungry, will give you a new perspective, and helping them will give you more joy than anything you could ever buy.
You didn’t say why you left me your email addy…?
I understand how you are feeling. 20 years ago my daughter at the age of 4 was molested by her uncle. We were told by the family not to do anything, foolishly we listened and we ended up giving the devil such a foothold in our family. we have paid a heavy price…we have come to realize the mistake we made, repented and little by little things are changing….i understand how you feel…we did not do anything because we were told it would hurt the family…they have treated us like dirt and have sided with the child molester…we have been through the trenches, it has been hell…but where else can we go…God sees every tear, He sees it and He will help.the only one who wants to see you fail is the devil… dont give him any more…stand…as hard as it is stand…May God keep you and show you his path for you.
Patricia,
I wasn’t sure if you were responding to my comments, if
it isn’t the case my apologies to you.
At any rate, it’s agonizing to keep existing with no end in sight.
Since I work during the overnight-hours the fact that I’m always awake is lost on those ghouls.
I gave up asking God to replace the people in the office with GODLY men and women ; it’s too demoralizing.
If God were to bless me with real money, I would bless people anonymously. Why have an ulterior motive?!
Now I’m done with my tirade.
Thank you and may the Lord always bless you and your loved ones.!
P.S.
I’m not illiterate ; I’m one of those people who has no grasp of technology.
yes Richard i was responding to you…hold on. look to Him, who else can we look to…Lord Bless you, Patricia
This spoke to me exactly where I’m at. I suffered years of trauma and abuse as a child and teenager and I have been working hard to forgive everyone this year. God sees my tears and I know he won’t let go of his promises for me. This was so encouraging! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
You’re welcome, Tondi!! If you haven’t already, check out Joyce Meyer, a terrific pastor who came from a background of abuse:
http://podbay.fm/show/152564324
Yes, thank you! I have been reading her book, Beauty for Ashes, and it has been helping so much with the healing process! God bless you!
You sure do seem to have tis great faith in God and an extraordinary belief that He sees all and knows all of the wrongs that have been done to us and that He will bring justice into our lives for all we have been through. Well, I have been praying for over a year now that God would bring consequences to my ex who cheated on me and has also cheated on the girl he cheated on ME with! My ex and I were together on and off for 5 years and I thought it was going to be the greatest relationship of my life. I thought he was the greatest man ever and at one point I actually thought God had brought us together because of the circumstances surrounding how we ended up together. Things changed pretty quickly though after we got together and he would criticize my body, my looks, he wouldn’t introduce me to his friends of family saying it was because we worked together and dating could get him fired, so we had to wait until it as OK to say we were dating,. Yeah, that never happened. He was so ashamed of me, it was like I had to be this big secret because people would tell him he could do so much better than me because he was married to a tennis model and she was absolutely gorgeous, I couldn’t compete with her and I told him that in the very beginning before he even asked me to be his girlfriend! So he knew all the things about me that he ended up ashamed of with other people, before he asked me to be with him. But anyways to make a long story short him and I have been together while he was still seeing this girl he cheated on ME with. We had a fight and he just stopped talking to me this is how we “broke up”. So I went over to his house about a week later and found her car in his driveway. It stayed there for 3 days that’s how I figured out that he was with another woman. I found out later that he was with us both for the first 3 months of his relationship with her. I found out about it, she never has. To this day she has no idea she has ever been cheated on. She thinks he’s mr perfect, the greatest guy she has ever been with and her wants to send her life with him. Well, he has cheated on her with me and I know I am in the wrong for this, too, because I knew he was probably still with her, I didn’t know 100% I thought maybe they broke up or were fighting or whatever, but I knew she didn’t know and I knew that they were still together in some capacity. But God still lets her stay with Him, He won’t tell her she’s been cheated on and my ex has suffered no consequences whatsoever for what he’s done. He feels no guilt or remorse for what he’s done to me and he still continues to look her in the eye and lie to her because she has no idea she’s been cheated on. She still believes every word that comes out of his mouth. My ex is very good with his words, there were times in our relationship when I tried to leave, when I was just done and ready to walk away, he’d tell me all these sweet things about how he couldn’t imagine his life without me, how he never wanted me out of his life, and how things were going to change and be better. He knew my weaknesses and he preyed on them to get me to stay with him and to believe he had never done a thing wrong. Well, as soon as he found someone better he threw me away like garbage, like all the things he said, all the things he promised and all the things we had been through had never happened. It was as if our relationship never existed to him as soon as he knew he had gotten this girl to fall in love with him and knew she wanted to be with him, he ditched me. We got in a fight and he just stopped talking to me, because he didn’t need me anymore, he had her. I have been praying, okay not all the time, but I have prayed that God would have him suffer consequences for what he did to me, but He hasn’t done anything except bless him with a girlfriend who thinks the world of him! God lets her stay with him, continues to bless and strengthen their relationship even though a week before my ex took this girl to Vegas he was with me! She just has no idea! I have prayed God would tell her, but He hasn’t. He just lets my ex get away with everything he’s done, and gives him a girlfriend as a reward! I never once cheated on him, I never used him, I never treated him the way he treated me. I was the best girlfriend I knew how to be to him. I stood by his side through everything he went through when we were together and then once someone better came along, he just tossed me in the trash without a care in the world, as long as his needs were being met he didn’t care how much he hurt me or betrayed me nor how much damage he caused with trust, and self esteem. And I know I can tell this girl she’s been cheated on, I have the proof to show her to prove to her I am not making it up or lying to her, but if I did that it wouldn’t be out of a concern that she has the right to know, there’s that in there, but the bigger part of it would be revenge and I know God would not reward me for doing something out of revenge, so I haven’t told her what he’s done. But I have asked God to tell her, and yet He wont, He just lets her believe in him, believe his words, his lies, believe that he would never cheat on her. How can I have faith or believe if I am looking at God blessing my cheating ex with a girlfriend and rewarding him for what he has done to me?! That hurts. I never did that to him and yet I have no one, and everyone thinks he is this great, upstanding guy (believe me I thought so at first, too), no one would ever think he’d ever cheat on his girlfriend. He has everyone fooled but you say God sees and knows all, then how come He has blessed him with a girlfriend who he seems to treat FAR BETTER than he EVER treated me, and I have no one and everyone thinks all these bad things about me and sees him as the victim he wants everyone to see him as? I AM no saint or angel, I wasn’t the perfect girlfriend by any means, but I NEVER cheated on him or used him or treated him that way. EVER. Why does HE get all the blessings and I get nothing?! Where is God in all this and why is giving my ex everything he wants after what he has done and why won’t God tell his current girlfriend that he cheated on her too?! It is hard to have faith, it really is.
Sorry this is so long…….
I’m sorry that you’ve been through such a terrible time!! Now, you need to STOP agonizing over this man and his life and move on with your own life. This man is not giving you one moment of thought, but he is still ruling your life as if you were still with him. You should thank God every day that He got you away from a man who has such poor morals and treated you so badly.
You’re totally correct, you need to NOT take any actions of revenge against him. In addition, you need to STOP praying that something bad happens to him; not only does God ignore prayers of this type, but He will not respond to any of your prayers when you have this kind of attitude.
Nothing bad that happens is because God provided a blessing, and when bad people receive good things, it is not because God has blessed them, but because of their own efforts and the exercise of their free will and the free will of people they interact with. People get together because they use their free will to choose each other, not because God is blessing them. Again, stop focusing on this man and his life and what he is getting or not getting; God will handle him in the right way at the right time, and as much as I’m sure you’re you’re dying to know about it, it’s not your business anymore what happens to him… forget about him and move on with your life. When you have done that, when you are living your life the way God wants you to, rather than wishing ill on people, dwelling on the past and obsessing over someone who is not in your life,THEN you will start receiving blessings.
Sorry I don’t know if I am writting this in the right place. I have recently been scamed all my savings. It will be to costly for Cort etc and I don’t need more stress and to have to think about the ordeal over and over. I have prayed to god for a sign of what to do and for some justice I just don’t know what he is saying I can’t hear hi . If I could have anyone’s opinion that would be Much appreciated will god restore me in this life or after.
Report the crime to the police; there is no cost to you of the police and courts prosecuting a crime. You might get your $ back, or at least prevent other people from being scammed. You’ll think about the ordeal over and over anyways, so you might as well nail the criminal.
God restores us in THIS life. Stay in faith; He will show up and work miracles!!
When will all of the evil disappear from our neighborhood? We have been having problems with neighbors. Just a few days ago, they broke into our home and stole from us. These are evil people who live confused, evil lives and I am praying for Jesus/God to avenge me and my family for ALL of the problems and evil they have brought into this neighborhood. Another one is the grandson of a neighbor. Please pray for my family and guide me on what to do. I want them away from us and out of our lives, stamped away forever in Jesus’ name. I have been praying and praying and need vindication from the Lord!
I’ll pray that God will remove these people from your neighborhood!! In the meantime, keep this in mind:
Luke 6:27-28 (NIV)
27 Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you
I will. Thank you so much. I don’t want any of them breaking in our home again. I don’t want to see their rogue faces in our neighborhood again. I found out they’ve stolen from others, but they actually came in our home. I don’t want them doing this again to us. I am tired of their evil ways toward my family! I can’t stand living here anymore, and we were here for years and none of this happened until these people moved in and this grandson moved in. Please pray for sooner rather than later. I have been praying for a long time. I ignore the enemy because there was nothing to say to such evil people and I don’t live their wicked type of lifestyle. I am crying out for help/vindication from the Lord! I’ve called the police, everything! I am believing and relying on HIM to resolve for us. Please continue to pray for me and my family. I am at a loss…
If the police are ignoring those people breaking and entering, and stealing, you might need to follow that up. In the meantime, get stronger locks. I’ll be praying!!
Your words keeps me going.I thought God forgot about me but i was very wrong.He keep the record.I will continue doing the right things and pay back time will come. Am blessed
God will NEVER forget about you, Jostina!! Stay in faith; radical faith leads to radical blessings!!
Just what I needed this morning.
That’s awesome, Melissa!! 🙂
Thank you for writting this piece its really what I needed to read
I’ve had a very troubling year this year I was frauded 70,000 while I thought I was doing a house deal in which case it was not …I have been trying to ask the lord what to I do to recover it but I have never felt like I have truley heard him try contact me I don’t know why and its hard as I ask for signs everyday . I’ve had such a huge weight on my shoulders all year and a lot of bitterness as all my savings has been thrown out the window I’m glad to have read this as I need to get rid of this and move on then maybe god will talk to me once i have let it all go.
Thank you.
A.D., I’m very sorry to hear about what happened to you!! Since a crime has clearly been committed here, please consult a lawyer immediately so that you can recover as much of your money as possible. There is free legal advice available almost everywhere if you can’t afford to hire a lawyer, and there are also many law firms that will take your case and not charge you anything unless you receive a settlement. God is absolutely willing to help you, but He also wants you to make a maximum effort to resolve your own issues.
Many people go through their entire lives without hearing anything clear enough to call contact from God, and without receiving any signs; I’m sure it’s frustrating, but you need to stop praying for these things if God is not offering them to you. Instead, pray for wisdom, courage, strength, patience; those blessings you can be certain to receive. In addition, pray for a quick victory and the return of your money; it wouldn’t hurt to promise to dedicate a portion of that money to charity or your church.
The most important thing is that no matter what is happening, you continue to praise and thank God, and tell Him every day of your love, trust, and faith. Make the best life you can with whatever situation you are in. These are the things that God responds to, that cause Him to open up the windows of heaven and bless you. Hang in there; God is going to bring you out of the desert and into your promised land!!
The message you convey is from the throne room of God. I have lost everything come to America and still being attacked misused abused but God told me the precise words enough I will get back double. Right now i am reading your post i have been given noticed to leave my apartment by 23rd of Dec. By a prevoius boss who rented the apartment for me and treated me like a slave underpaid me and now wants to put me and my baby on the street, but i no in whom i believe and i no its pay back time. I no he will prepare a table in the presence of my foes. I just want to thank you for strengthening my faith because without faith it is impossible for God to work mightily and there is nothing that he can’t do, and if he’s got to hook every serpent to give us his promised blessing he will. God bless and keep up the good work. Solid!😊
I’m glad the message helped you, Karla!! Stay in faith; radical faith brings radical blessings!!
I needed to read this, I don’t even know how I became upon this article but it’s everything I needed to hear. Thank you!
You’re very welcome, Devon!! 🙂
Funny, this article could have been written any day of the week, any year and it would still be relevant, for the very reason that the enemy of souls(Devil) is ever working to bring people down and the giver of joy eternal(GOD) never sleep or slumber, but is ever there to lend a hand through the trial. May God keep us holding on to him forever.
What about when the cause of my career being ruined was by my own hand? Will God take care of me still? I’m scared & broke, not to mention broken inside & want to die.
Yes, Ron, even if you were at fault, if you give the problem to God, He will make it right. He is right there with you, waiting to love you back to wholeness.
Luke 1:25 (NIRV)
25 “The Lord has done this for me,” she said. “In these days, he has been kind to me. He has taken away my shame among the people.”
Can I meet with who has written this, please. I really need help
We can talk in a chatroom, if you want.
I think you’ve been listening to JO as well… This is word-for word what he preaches… YES God will do all those things if we play our part…
Yes, Renee, that’s what the first line of the post means; it’s a transcript of a sermon. 🙂
Awesome u have really help me;)
God is Good;)
ALL the time!!
Jo! I just wish that I can meet you I loved what you write about “unfair treatment” and been stolen and receive unfair treatment
You lifted me up,I thought God forgotten me.how wrong I was “God keeps the records”thank you so much
You’re welcome!! 🙂
I believe god will do what he says I believe he will pay my enemy back .I believe he will restore my love life back with the only man I want and love
I believe in Jesus and god.
I believe in god …. I believe in his justice… I always have been a positive person and very good heart (everybody says)….. but now, I am so tired to be hurt that I do not want ask anything neither waiting for anything…. What I expect now is that God recognize all the good acts and how many people I had helped and give me a transition in peace to heaven…. I lost my light and my desire for things…. I do not want anything anymore because simply I do not know how to heal my heart again…
So please God give me confort
God will comfort you and heal your heart, Anonima!!
Thanks i really appreciate it because I just get disappointed i cry i feel bad I even say i will never forgive the person but I after reading your message i forgive the person I know God is going to pay me back with his mercy.
I’m glad to hear that, Rahab!!
Thank you, I really needed this. Some of this even felt like it was directed straight to me. I will keep pushing forward and keep the faith my time will come very soon.
Radical faith will bring radical blessings!!
I had a girlfriend who I was really inlove with. I told her all kinds of things about myself. When i was weak she was strong. We didn’t have the most happy relationship, but we loved eachother. Then one day out of the blue she says she’s not inlove with me anymore. She starts being so malicious towards me. I still decided to be kindly in hope that she would come back. But her malicious ways just got worse. I ended up getting very bitter and mad. Seeking revenge on the girl who betrayed me……then I read all of this. I’m lost for words.
Jemond, I’m sorry that things went so badly with your girlfriend!! All you can do is try to learn from this situation; if someone starts being malicious towards you based on nothing, that tells you that something is very wrong with them, and you need to withdraw from that situation to minimize the damage. That can be hard if you love them, but you have to tell yourself that that person is very different than you believed them to be, and just cut your losses.
Seeking revenge is NEVER an acceptable alternative. Being bitter and mad when you have been mistreated is a normal human reaction, as long as you get over it in a reasonable timeframe, but feeding more evil into an already bad situation will never benefit you, and could even be dangerous, because someone who acts so ugly out of the blue for no reason is the kind of person who will escalate the situation and do something even uglier to you in return. Even worse, every minute you spend stewing and dwelling and plotting revenge is another minute that you’re delaying moving on to a better life without that person.
Live and learn. From now on, if someone treats you badly for no reason, or treats ANYBODY badly for no reason, just remove yourself from the situation and find someone else to invest your time and emotions into. God will help you find the right people!!
This is awesome, am going through many challenges and I have always asked God ” why me”
I want to share with my story… I was in relationship 2 years with one boy he is from pakistan and live in dubai… i love him blindly and true by heart… end of the moment… his one of the friend told me right about him like he is using u only for money and play with u nothing else…. He never try for call in 2 years…. I helped to him 10 lacs sometimes i realize that that guy came in my life only for money… whenever he want money that time he catch me like… i cant believe too much msgs nd call… Second point his frnd told me he is living with 4 girls less then 4 months in dubai and he is engage before 1 year with his cousin sistr even he didnt tell me abt him engagement… he go in party… bars enjoy him life like heaven…
I spoil my 2 years for this guy. He never deserve my love and value of me…
Many time he use abusive words for me but i never speak back …
I want to just know …. god will punish him ??? he play with one girl who love him blindly by true heart… i never say to him give me my money back … !!
Hania, I’m sorry that that happened to you!! Unfortunately, nearly everyone needs to have one or more experiences with terrible people before we learn how to avoid them. In the future, you will know to walk away immediately from anyone who does not treat you right.
God will handle this young man who mistreated you, but you will probably never know when or how. God does not want you to focus on being vengeful, or on people that you should be glad are out of your life; you need to stop wondering what has happened to him, and move forward with your life.
Isaiah 43:18 (GNT)
18 But the Lord says,
“Do not cling to events of the past
or dwell on what happened long ago.
Don’t let one troubled young man prevent you from being a woman of God; pray for his salvation, but other than that do not give him a minute of thought. God will compensate you for the years you lost:
Joel 2:25 (NIV)
25 I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten
2016 will be your best year ever!!
I feel like this was written just for me.its amazing how much all of it pertained to me.thank you so much.Reading this opened alot of doors for me and flipped on a lot of non working switches in my head.I had closed and shut off.for this I am greatful,because now I feel I’m not at a dead end in my life unless I choose to be,by choosing God I am gonna get my life back and be forgiven for my sins completely.Also heal my situation n make my bad turn into good. God bless you.I wanna get a job or hobbie that helps people ,that feel they are at a dead end in life.I wanna pay forward goodness that’s come to me and even what hasn’t I wanna make sure does for others.how great this world would be if everyone turned bad into good by helping others then they help someone so on and so on
That sounds like a great plan for the new year, Melinda!! I’m glad you found this post encouraging!! 🙂
That message, was truly Angel sent thank you so much I needed that
You’re welcome, Vernon!! 🙂
AMEN I RECEIVE IT LORD..ITS PAYBACK TIME
Amen
I’m blessed with this courageous prophecies, anytime I do good to people, turns bad. I’ve been accussed severally & been called with many names, thieve, lyer, pretender etc. I’ve been arrested before b’cos of my good deeds. Soo I decided not do good again, but thanks to you, I’ve changed now. {Rev. Humble Elijah Bless} Ghana. GOD BLESS YOU
I’m happy I could help!! 🙂
Very nice website,I am encouraged and comforted by your message.I am going through very painful and shameful situation since few days.I am the only believer in my family.Since 2 years I was struggling regarding marrying a beliver,parents are very much against to christian faith.Few months back I got a proposal,he is a believer,well settled and belongs to same community so my parents accepted.In his family his father has some objection in dowry but finally accepted.Since 3 moths I have skin allergy fungal infection by the time they came to my home it got healed and marks were there.I was praying that marks also should get healed before marriage.So because of faith on God that he never put us to shame I did not share that matter to guy or his family.They also came prayerfully,took time and finally said ok it is God’s will.Everything went on well engagement and marriage shopping.During shopping they have seen my marks and asked about them.Then I told them everything.When I told them, for two days they were quit and took it as easy matter and spoke nicely.But after two days suddenly they told me to share pics of few marks then I did. They took them to some ayurveda hospital there doctor said it as psoriasis it seems then immediately next day they asked me to come to hospital for diagnosis. Before calling me and testing itself they thought of rejecting me.They took me to 3 small Ayurveda hospitals , by looking the appearance of marks they gave their opinion as psoriosis.And finally took me to allopathy doctor there she tested by taking a scrap of my skin and diagnosed it as fungal infection.They thought of rejecting me by saying it as psoriosis but when report is fungal infection they started rejecting me by saying your daughter has cheated us she did not share it before we are not interested to take it forward and marriage got cancelled before 4days of marriage date.And in every hospital all their family members all together humiliated in front of doctors.In everything from starting to ending I kept silent whatever they asked I answered them politely and honestly.But they thought I have psoriosis I didn’t share them because it is not curabel and finally they thought I deceived them.Even though I am going through such painful situation I have peace in my heart and I know God knows what is happening.At that time even though they are rude and I have shown God’s love and kept silent that also they misunderstood as I have done mistake so I kept silent.And my parents and relatives started blaming me what has your God did for you why didn’t he save you from from such a shame leave your faith and start worshipping idols and marry a person whom we show.And started restricting prayer and bible reading.After that situation within few days my marks got completely healed.Asking God to give forgive them and help them to confess their mistake.And also correcting my self near God for my mistakes.
God did you an enormous favor here, Tripura!! Can you imagine what a nightmare it would have been to have married into this family? These are NOT people of God!! And this man that gave you the proposal is obviously worthless, since he never assisted or defended you, and was willing to walk away because you did not share with them something that was meaningless and none of their business. These people are lacking in even basic kindness and decent behavior. That is not God’s best for your life.
I can imagine how terrible you must feel with your family being upset with you, but all you can do is forgive them and keep moving forward with your life; God will give you the strength. Keep showing them the way a woman of God behaves, and hopefully some of them at least will eventually find their way to God.
God has a fine Christian man already picked out for you; stay in faith, don’t accept any more men or families with no love or respect for you, and God will bring you a man you can build a good life with.
Dear Brother,
This message of your’s was truly inspiring, Thank you for that, may God Bless you abundantly.
Samuel….
I’m a sister, not a brother, but you’re welcome!! 🙂
wow;crying i almost lost hope -but u encouraged me ,u made me see things in a positive way-no matter what I’m going through,how many pains i have felt-I still have Faith that everything will be well as long as I have my God (he is indeed god of big miracles)we just have to believe in him and do things according to his plans n actions not ours,because he knows better than us,i always do good,care to much for people,help people,love to much;work hard but no one notice my efforts,instead they do the opposite -(judge,humiliate,Lough at me when I’m at my lowest,bring nothing but trouble in my life and pain) but because the god that I pray is de God of big miracles and i hope someday I will see the light and rise up high and for now I will keep on doing good no matter what,thanx alot for your encouragement!!!!!!
You’re welcome!! God will reward radical faith with radical blessings!!
4 years ago I got saved and for 2 years I had a strong run with the lord I always was with him, I had the best time in my life and was about to have a perfect future I felt it in my heart all my dreams were about to come true but my sick psychich situation drove me back to drugs now my entire health is ruined and if the lord doesnt do miracles of healing my incurable heart and prostate disease and arthritis then all my dreams are ruined forever, I am very frustrated and hate myself for my dumb past I need miracles lord I am trying to not lose my faith my soul is waiting for the lord to do miracles for my physical health so that my broken heart & emotions can heal all I want is to be as healthy again as the lord made me . I am just in my mid 20’s and feel like dying every moment because of the heart disease my biggest dream is to be healthy again , the devil robbed me of the most beautiful thing I had in life which was perfect health : *(
I’m sorry to hear about everything that you’ve been through, Art!! You need to take hold of yourself, though, and stop making melodramatic pronouncements that your dreams are ruined forever unless God does one specific thing; that mode of thought is doomed to failure.
God’s plan for your life is bigger and better than you could ever imagine, and He knows exactly how to get you there; if you demand that He do specific things or handle your life in a specific way, though, that will prevent God from moving forward with what He wants to give to you.
Faith is the key. When you say you’re trying not to lose faith, what that means is that you have ALREADY gotten a long way away from absolute faith… and absolute faith is what you need to have in order to get through the time of testing in the desert that you are currently enduring and get to your promised land.
In addition to faith, you need to make your best effort to flourish where you have been planted, to have the best possible life right here right now. Part of that is that you have to take responsibility for your own damaged emotions; you don’t need God to heal your emotions, you can do that yourself by living a good life, by getting support from love ones, and by going to therapy if necessary. And, while praying for God to heal your body, you also have to do the best that you can with diet, exercise, getting enough rest, reducing stress, and obeying your doctor’s orders as to treatment.
Don’t wait until you’ve been healed to live a good life; get started right now. Pursue your hobbies, learn something new, hang out with friends, spend time with loved ones, whatever it is that will give you the highest possible quality of life RIGHT NOW.
And last but far from least, you have to do 2 things that will be harder. The first is a radical attitude adjustment; stop complaining, stop looking back, stop dwelling on the past, stop agonizing about what might or might not happen, and live your life, both in your interactions with others and inside your head, with a positive attitude. God does not respond to negativity and complaining, no matter how justified you are in being negative or complaining. Forget about the past, do the best you can in the present, and live every moment in absolute faith that God is going to prosper you in the future. Tell everyone you know every time you talk to them that God is going to make good on all of this, and that you are 100% sure that a better life than you ever had before is on the way. The second thing is, you have to learn to have absolute, unwavering faith. No matter what is happening, no matter what is going wrong, no matter how bad you feel, praise and thank God every single day, tell Him that you trust Him, and that you know He’s going to get you into your promised land. Acquiring that kind of faith can be hard; if you ask God, He will help you get there.
Focus your life and your thoughts on God. Read the Bible every day. Listen to praise and worship music. Get involved with your church, and if you don’t have one, find a good Bible-based church and dive in. Watch sermons on TV or YouTube. Seek His face and not His hand; radical faith will bring you radical blessings.
I think I For just making me the person I am today To learn to have a heart for forgiveness Thank you Jesus I’m so thankful for the word this morning I couldn’t ask for nothing better
[…] Source: God will bring justice into your life […]
God is my saviour and redeemer!!! Amen!
Thank you!
Bless you!
Thank you so much, this has opened my eyes. I have been abused my a close family member for years. And I’m tired. They have tried to destroy me inside and out. I’ve dealt with this to long. I am a Christian and have tried to live my life to please God. I’m not perfect, but I’m a very giving and supportive person. They are keeping my grandchildren from me and talking to them about me. It hurts! Thanks again!
I’m glad the sermon helped!! It’s time to speak up about the family member, and cut off as much contact with them as possible.
I needed this word, my high school sweet heart over the past years, would find reason to brake up with me, but no matter the things she said or done, I remain calm and always said nice things, this time i needed her bad after my mom past,
Thank you for this! I have a possible future sister in law who is envious and jealous and making up lies and telling people lies about me to my boyfriend and trying to break us up cuz she doesnt want us together, I had asked the Lord to expose her and he did. Well now shes trying super hard to get me out snd it almost worked last night. She claims to be a christian and goes to church all time but SHES EVIL! this article helped me! Ive been praying for exposer to my boyfriend to see the truth cause she literally brainwashes him now we are having a meeting monday with his brother and wife who she did same thing to years ago and they are telling their story and another sister will be there. I am leaving it all in the Lord’s hands I just want the truth exposed and her removed as far as east is from west and to leave us live our lives cuz shes evil and has a ugly heart. Please pray for us.
Praying!!
I’ve had so many things hit me hard in my life that this is exactly what I needed to read! I read this daily so that I can go to work and be what God wants me to be, and then come home to my husband and be the wife I’m supposed to be. This is truly something that I needed! Thank you so much!
You’re welcome!! 🙂
My beautiful people remember this Jesus said I din’t work on your time but I will be on time Amen,
Thank you for this touching post. I needed this reminder that restoration is to come. I am dealing with betrayal of someone I am still love with and injustice of every kind from my family to my career.
Even my sibling has had a smooth life while mine has been tumultuous. I always have felt victimized to a certain degree by men and my family in particular. It is tough to see a new beginning ahead with so much rejection amd betrayal in my life. Your post is very relevant and much needed. Thanks again.
I’ve suffered the same sorts of things that you have, Sara, and I can tell you from personal experience; if you’ll stay in faith, in the absolute certainty that God will somehow make good on it, radical faith leads to radical blessings. Keep working hard with a positive attitude, withdraw as much as possible from unpleasant people and seek out nicer people to associate with. keep thanking and praising God every day, and you’ll be out of the desert and into the promised land before you know it.
Thank you, I needed that I love no matter what but Jesus is so very close more than anyone knows it you are a very nice person again thank you so much Love Your Sister in Jesus name, Joyce,
You’re welcome!! 🙂
I am glad you can relate personally. I also never expected to be ‘in the desert’ for this many years – almost two decades on and off. The fact that I am still striving for success and victory along with wanting a life partner is really hard. And, I have felt suffering from age 7.
On top of it, I feel compelled to pray for my ex’s salvation. I wanted to hate him and forget him, but instead the connection is strong and I somehow believe he is going to change…in time, of course…
Being a good person also tends to mean being an outsider in this world. I guess you can understand this also. Would like to know your thoughts on these points also…thank you!
I hear you, Sara. You might take comfort, as I do, in the story of Joseph, who was sold into slavery for 13 years… but ended up the ruler of Egypt.
You SHOULD pray for your ex’s salvation. Hating him would not be an acceptable attitude for a Christian. He might well change in time; your prayers can help with that.
Yes, being a good person can make you an outsider, not to mention the victim of every taker, user, and all around bad person that you encounter. Keep in mind, though, that Jesus and his followers were outsiders; we are in good company there. Just stay in faith, and keep moving forward. Remember, Moses looked like a miserable failure until he was EIGHTY, at which point he became one of the heroes of our faith. The longer God keeps you waiting, the bigger your destiny will be; get ready, unprecedented favor is just around the corner!!
I will definitely be rereading your advice in days to come. You are truly blessed with wisdom!
It is hard to see the light and overcome the feeling of being “screwed over” in general/being lost. When you can’t see the way out, it is worrying…But, all we can do is keep going…as you said!
Please link your post about your triumph over the storm and your season of blessings. Or do write about it soon! All the best to you!
Sara, if we could see the way out, it wouldn’t require FAITH to be sure that God will get us there… and above all else, God wants us to have FAITH. During my years in the desert, I said every single day that God was somehow going to make good on it… and he DID, in a way I could never have imagined, that has improved my life beyond what I could ever have dreamed. Here are a couple of my posts on this topic:
HI FH Hope things are fine with you. I’m still clinging on to a little faith – The devil wants me to curse God, but I ain’t that stupid. I hope you can respond and give me a few words of encouragment. Taking one day at a time. Thanks. Best wishes for Easter.
Yes, I’m doing well, thank you!!
Matthew 17:20 (NIV)
20 He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
Unprecedented favor is just around the corner; keep thanking and praising God every day, and it will come, sooner than you think!! Happy Easter!!
Hello FH..how r u..??This is Abhilash..Hope u remember me..many days before we had interact..i want to tell u something great..nearly a year before u had given me some suggestions to my situation..u will amaze to know..that the girl I love called me n she said I know u have done many things for me..i got to know every single thing which u hv did for me..bt the only thing I want to tell u that plzz give me 3 years to live my life by my own..plzz give me 3 year to achieve something for my parents..after 3 years I will Marry u..I will give my everything to you..but plzz wait for 3 years..without a doubt I said ok to her..bt I want to know from u..whether I did right or not..??
Of course I remember you, Abhilash! It’s good to see you!! 🙂
I have no idea what your lady is up to… and I don’t think you do, either. Is she actually going to be willing to marry you in 3 years? I don’t know. If you still want her, there’s no harm in agreeing to marry her in 3 years; you can always change your mind, as can she. If she’s doing whatever she wants during that time, YOU can do whatever YOU want to do, also. Don’t spend those 3 years sitting around waiting for her; go out, have fun, learn new things, develop yourself as a person, and work on your relationship with God. Keep me me posted!!
Thank you so much Jo. This helps when all seems to be crumbling around me. Gid bless you snd everything you put your hand to. People like you make the road little less hard and remind us of our blessings. Praise God and his Son who shed his blood for our sins.
Praise your business also may your message reach every hearting soul out there. And bring them to JESUS.
You’re welcome, Mike!! I’m not JO, though, I’m FH. 🙂
god takes care of me so much i tell to be easy on getting the person back for me last person that did bad to me die , trust in god the all mightly
So glad grateful for your blog FH… so, so grateful to you for explaining God’s word in a simple manner for all to understand .. thank you and for letting me keep my 0.1% faith. Thank you and may God bless you for you helping people. If only you knew the hardships and battles and real hunger and poverty I have suffered in different worlds and countries during my life (decades) (e.g. when I left my family and my well paid job and everything to seek life (later I discovered God and Jesus) (My family couldn’t find me even through International Red Cross and British Embassy – Bulgaria back in the very dark hard days of early nineties – there was a time where I hadn’t eaten for 4 days – and that after months of little).
I submitted the “Selbstanzeige” at the finance office in Lübeck having to pay them 200,000 Euros plus more taxes as the Attorneys in Hamburg told me I should do (but which I believe I shouln’t pay according to their law and God’s law), but now another better attorney told me that it wasn’t necessary but that it is now too late. I have to pay those worthless attorney’s In Hamburg a lot of cash for worthless work … I know God sits on his throne … but I have never been so low… working for nothing .. will now read your blogs: distinctive favour (sorry I am english and that ain’t no type error 🙂 ) and balanced books. Even my heathen girlfriend (no we are not sleeping together) told me that it is a test from God – hey that in itself is quite amazing :-), in tears as a I write this .. please a word of support from you … I’m ony half as bad as Job’s wife – I refuse to curse God but…
Now I know … the ONLY thing worth having in life is FAITH in God – nothing else matters, but I have little … so many tests over so many decades . alI I wanted is a wife and a small house and raise a family in a Christian way. We must be living in a Satanic age – have read the book “Satan Prince of this world” – a similar book is banned in Germany…. well well well don’t we all know that Ol’ Nick controls Government. Still hanging on .. bless you FH
Hello again, Danubian!! I’m glad that my blog is still helping you out.
I know what it’s like to wait decades for life to get better. My entire childhood and young adulthood was a grim slog, then it looked like it might be improving in my early 30s, but it started back on a downhill slide… and this was BEFORE God came into my life, so I didn’t even have that help and hope. I entered middle age with my life at a standstill, and then in my mid-40s I FINALLY found God. His timing was perfect, as it always is, because once I had gotten my relationship with Him fully established, the bottom fell out of my life, and I lost everyone and everything that I cared about and that my life was based on.
I am now FIFTY, and it was just last year that I got involved in the church that God led me to, and a real life started forming for me for the first time EVER. I’m still waiting for a decent relationship with a decent man, and close friends that live in my same city, and some decent-paying work.
Here’s the thing that you and I have to keep in mind: Moses accomplished absolutely nothing before the age of EIGHTY. He lost both his birth and adopted families when he ran away to the desert, and he wasn’t exactly living a life of value out there. Plus, he was a MURDERER!! I’m sure he felt like a total failure. BUT, what he had suffered had made him the most humble man on earth, and that is exactly what God wanted from the man who would lead His people out of Egypt.
What you and I have gone through, and continue to go through, is turning us into the exact people that God needs us to be to accomplish important tasks for His kingdom. Stay in faith. God has work for us to do… And as a bonus, radical faith leads to radical blessings!!
I help people very much but I don’t have much thing I came from poor people but people they take advantage that where I came from and they always try to destroy me that I have they want me to alway cry why?
The world is full of evil people. They do evil things simply because they are evil. If someone is trying to destroy you, stay completely away from them. If someone takes advantage of you, never give anything to or do anything for them ever again. Save your help for people who are willing to give you something back, even if it’s just love and gratitude. Don’t shed another tear over these people!!
Thanks FH your blog is helping many people out, those like me, who are absolutely at the end of their tether, as we say in England – hanging on for dear life – nowhere to turn except faith in God. The last part is again what we all need – radical faith…so precious… God bless you.. maybe soon I will have some positive things to report …. no not may be .. I will report some good news soon … God still sits on his throne. Have a great weekend.
I look forward to your good news!! 🙂
Hi,iam much blessed! I got married under common law and got 2 kids.I was Saved.Things didnt work out and we separated.The man became verbally abusive (here,i backslid a bit due to problems but always felt God) and he told me no man would ever love me with 2 kids,sure! My sister introduced me to a guy who without much thought,we were already thinking of getting married.Then the man practically begged for a baby, i tried to explain it wasn’t the right time for one but he insisted that he had been mocked by people about childlessness.I foolishly gave in!! Things changed,he moved to his home town and called less,i carried the pregnancy alone.I finally put to bed and told him the news,he became distant and told me that his friends were talking behind his back about getting involved with me!! I asked him to focus ahead,and that he shouldnt listen.He never called for 5 days,and i decided to call him and because of the hurt i was undergoing,i told him these: ”WHY ARE YOU DOING THS TO ME? DO YOU WANT ME TO CURSE YOU??” Ths is when he told me that i couldn’t make a good wife and that somebody just told him that am not the ‘right one!’ i was dead!! Completely dead…He afterwards said ‘forgive me’.By ths time,the baby was sick and i just wanted his support.I called him again and he seemed concerned but said that he had no money that i should borrow and that ‘we’ would pay back.My mum did give me the cash.That evening he called to ask of the baby’s health.Four days later he called and said that HE MISSES US AND THAT WE WOULD SEE HIM SOON! HE ADDED THAT HE IS TRYING HIS BEST FOR US! That was on 26/4/2016, i have never heard from him again! Suddenly God picked me up! I decided never to call or text him,My Faith grew,i started praying and getting breakthroughs! I have done songs in praise of MY REDEEMER! ( i used to do it but i stopped) but the talent came back again!! PRAISE GOD! I have cut man_ties in my life,am waiting upon GOD’S MAN! I can see my future now BUT when i sometimes remember how foolish,used,rejected,dumped i was,it hurts! Whats worse is that the baby LOOKS EXACTLY LIKE HIM!!! I just need your advisory strength to continue moving on,what do you think of this man? Would he ever come back? Why did he promise heaven n earth? Why did he want a marriage and a baby that he would never want anyway? Is God going to repay my wasted time,job and energy? Coz i lost everything just for him,even my other 2 kids! Iam now 29 years and i feel old enough to be 100yrs! I felt ugly,used,unlovable,foolish,unworthy when i was hurting ( now iam a bit okay and moving on in JESUS) Please respond as you pray for my restored Faith
I’m sorry to hear about what you’ve been through!! What I think of this man is that he is a jerk. There’s no way to know in advance if he’s ever going to come back, but we can be pretty sure that if he does, he’ll leave again. He made you promises because they got you to do what he wanted you to do. He didn’t want marriage or a baby; if he had, he would have married you and taken care of his child. It was all a game to manipulate you and make you dependent on him.
Yes, God will repay you, if you’re living a good Christian life as a woman of God, and if you have absolute faith. Pray for God to increase your faith, and He will help you. In the meantime, I’ll be praying for you!!
Ooh thank you so much FH! Iam moving on,thanks to you and my parents! I sometimes want to curse him,bt am restricted due to my Faith,i want God to make him suffer the same way i suffer/ed.The man told me a lady hurt him once and it hurt him bad,then why would he hurt me double with a baby? Imagine i missed my University graduation coz of him,left my job coz of him,lent him money and stood as his pillar in everything.He knew of my past and the kids,then why would he listen to people now when he would have done it early and stopped ths instead of involving an innocent baby??? My sister confirmed that in the same home town he went to live is the same place the lady that hurt him lives,could they be together again? I read Psalms 108 althrough.My question is should we consider men who hurt us ‘our enemies’ and declare war in prayer and read them the above Chapter? Are they enemies coz they are evil? I need an understanding so i may not stray.
I pray the LORD to continue uplifting u as u uplift us! U are such a blessed woman of GOD!
I hate to say this, but it doesn’t sound like you’re moving on; it sounds like you’re still bogged down in being angry and vengeful.
You’re correct that you cannot curse this man. However, it is also 100% unacceptable to want God to make him suffer; it doesn’t matter if you’re including this in your prayers or not, God can read your mind and heart, and He does NOT provide blessings when you have that sort of attitude. As a Christian, you can NEVER wish harm on anyone.
You need to not try to figure out how what this man told you agrees with his behavior; the vast majority of what he told you were lies, and many of his actions are taken at random for his own amusement in total disregard for rationality and commonsense. The answer to every single question about why he did anything is because he felt like it; that’s what evil people do. You are totally wasting your time and energy trying to come up with a logical reason for anything that he has done; there isn’t one.
It’s unfortunate that you did so many foolish things for a man who was just using you to play his games on. I hope that you have learned some lessons here that you will use in the future with men; under no circumstances should you mess up your schooling, your job, or any other aspect of your life for a man who is not MARRIED to you. Needless to say, any further babies need to wait for a solid marital relationship also. And if a man needs money, he should get it from his family and friends, people who have been in his life for many years, NOT from you.
You have to take responsibility for your own actions. This man did not force a baby upon you; you agreed to have sex with him outside of marriage, knowing that sex could result in a baby. There is an innocent baby involved because you agreed to have sex with a man who did not value you enough to marry you. A quality Christian man will not have sex outside of marriage, so if you stick to that kind of man in the future, you will not have any more babies with worthless men.
This man is not your husband, so it’s not your business where he is or what he’s doing… EXCEPT for how it impacts the child you have together. Is he paying child support for his baby? If not, you need to get the law involved and make him pay everything he owes. Keep in mind that as of this time, he has the legal right to have access to his child, so you need to figure out how you want custody and visitation to work, and be prepared to go to family court to have it legally sorted out if he decides that he wants to spend time with the baby.
There is an infinite variety of things that he might be doing right now, including having gone back to that other woman; you have no way to know for sure what he’s doing in private, it doesn’t matter to your life, and, again, it’s none of your business. You need to STOP focusing your thoughts on him, and focus on fixing your own life, and providing the best possible life for your child.
You should NOT consider ANYONE your enemy, under any circumstances. The world was full of evil people when Jesus was with us; he did not proclaim anyone his enemy, including the ones who tortured and murdered him, so neither should you.
It is absolutely, positively, NEVER acceptable to declare war against someone in prayer!! Under no circumstances should you ever pray for harm to come to anyone; that’s even worse than just wishing harm on them.
God will never, ever, EVER answer prayers of that sort, and even worse, He will withhold blessings from YOU because you are doing something wrong. You have to FORGIVE every single person who hurts you, AND:
Luke 6:27-28 (NIV)
27 Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Luke 6:32-35 (NIV)
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
There is no point whatsoever in reading any portion of the Bible to this man, even assuming that he would be willing to listen; the enemy and all his demons know scripture, and it does not turn them from their evil behavior.
Other than getting the money from him that he owes you for the baby, you need to be done with this man, and stop focusing your mind and emotions on him. Your focus needs to be on God, your child, and making the best possible life for yourself and your baby. From now on, don’t get involved with any man who is not a true Christian, or who in any way would not make an excellent father for your child. When you demonstrate to God that you can handle what that man did to you like a true woman of God, blessings will follow!!
Thank u so much FH! I needed such sharp thrusting lessons to learn.Iam awake nw! I know that GOD used such episodes in my life to glorify HIMSELF.He is going to uplift me and my child/ren.I just needed to let out what i felt before after he went quiet on me,Thank u for slapping me out.I left the man for God to deal with him,infact when i pray,i realise that God loves us more.Human beings are after perfection but God takes us as we are.Thank u FH, i will continue Glorifying His name for the gift of life.In His Name,I Hope.
Iam in Africa,and it may sound a little bit ‘absurd’ to nug a man to support a child because men here find it useless and move on with their life,infact,i will be the victim to past emotions and lose my Salvation something i wouldnt risk.So everytime i pray,i ask my Redeemer to provide for me now and in future for my needs and surely i have seen His hand,His Peace rests upon me when i lack coz i know He Will Provide.God is opening ways for sure! My graduation is this July.I trust God for a job this year and also for my singing Ministry to start,move on and bless people.I LOVE GOD AND IN HIM I TRUST.Iam a happy lot..Pray for me and my requests…GOD BLESS U SISTER
You’re welcome!! I’m praying!! 🙂
Hi – I was so glad to find your article and read it. It is what my soul needed. My situation is with my family. I am the executor of my parents’ estate and 3 siblings have accused me of wrongdoings that I did not do. They have lied, smeared my name and have had my relatives shun me. I was bereft and traumatized. I was so heartbroken and betrayed that I didn’t think I could live. I don’t have anyone to help defend me since I am not married and do not have children to stick up for me.
I’m afraid of them and what they can do to me when we have a meeting before the final closing of the estate with the attorney. My mother had given me her credit card the last couple of months before she died and money was spent for vitamin supplements, essential oils, etc., for my mother and me, and also many books on spirituality and healing for my mother and me. About $2,000 was spent the last two months for healing. I did not want my mother to die and did everything I could to help save and heal her.
I have had chronic fatigue for many years and my mother helped support me. My siblings are very infuriated that my mother helped me and they may say that I used the credit cards without her consent which is not true.
The people that have believed their lies have treated me very rudely and very disrespectfully when I have unintentionally had to speak with them.
My mother asked my one sister who was the “ring leader” In all of this to make sure that I was taken care of after my mom died. My sister told my mom she would honor her wishes before my mom died but has instead tortured me. My sister has bullied me for nearly all of my life.
My sister and brothers who have done this are proclaimed “Christians” who think they are so religious and good but are very narcisstic, racist and bigoted. They are the epitome of hypocrites.
I have two other siblings that agree with what I have said but they do not want to make waves and have not said anything against the ones who have deeply hurt me. It really hurts me that they did not stick up for me. They remain friends with them and are afraid to speak up.
I would like my three siblings to realize I did nothing wrong and to be supportive and understanding. I want the bullying and disrespect to stop. I want the other two siblings to have the courage to say something to the ones that have been cruel. Please pray for me and my family.
I’m sorry to hear about this terrible situation you’re in, Jane!! I will certainly pray for you, and I will try to give a little bit of guidance too, if I can.
There is no cause to be afraid of your family; remember what we used to say as little kids, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? If they start saying things that upset you, if you’re on the phone, hang up, and if you’re in person, stand up and walk out. Refuse to continue talking to them until they agree to behave like human beings. God will give you the strength and courage to do this if you ask Him to.
You need to stop fantasizing about things that your siblings MIGHT say, about your mother’s credit card or anything else. Again, words don’t hurt you. If they were going to make an issue about the credit card, they probably would have already done so, anyways, because that is such an obvious way to attack you.
If someone is being rude and disrespectful to you when you have to speak to them, call them on it. Ask them flat out WHY they are being rude and disrespectful. People like that depend on you not confronting them; when you do, they will almost always back down.
Your ringleader sister can only torture you if you let her. Hang up the phone, or walk away from her if you are together in person… and as your parting comment, remind her that she’s breaking her promise to your mother, and dishonoring your mother’s memory.
It’s unfortunate that your other siblings don’t want to stick up for you, but I’m guessing they’ve been like that their entire lives; no one’s personality is going to suddenly change at this point. I know it’s hard, but you need to stop expecting things from people that they don’t have the strength or courage to do. Even harder; you have to stop setting yourself up to be hurt by wanting and expecting things from people who are never going to deliver. They are who they are; if their behavior is harmful to you, all you can do is accept the situation and separate yourself from them emotionally. Some families are loving and close, but in other families, the best you can manage is to be distant acquaintances with them, or even near-strangers; it’s time for you to give up your lifetime career as the family punching-bag and find new people to fill your life. God will help you find people who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
It’s very rare that God changes people’s personalities against their wishes, so, although it’s natural for you to want that, it’s very unlikely that God will do it. Instead, ask God to change YOU. Ask Him to turn you into someone who does not react to bullying with pain and fear, and who does not remain emotionally attached to people who don’t nurture that attachment with love and support. Ask Him to bring you comfort, peace, and things that will bring you joy. Ask Him to show you what you need to do to get to the great life He has planned for you; when you get there, it will all have been worth it!!
Thank you for your wonderful message. Each word is golden to me and I have renewed strength and faith. God bless you…double!
This is the most encouraging and inspirational sermon and I absolutely love it!! I’ll read this everyday if I have to because it’s a reminder that God is working behind the scenes and prayers have already been answered!! Keep having faith and never waiver.
This is exactly what I needed to read and know that God is Greater than anything, no matter the current circumstances I’m going through now. I’m so hurt and mad at my husband. I just got a call from an attorney that he’s filing for divorce. This makes me feel so used and it hurts so so much. We haven’t been living together for qyite some time due to him livingliving in another city because he promised to get in hin fret and find a home for us, my children and I and during the course of almost 4 years I offered to help him get his documents in order and now that he has received his permanent green card he has completely changed with my children and with me. He even works illegally now as his brother and his brother as him and all I want to do is report him. I need to know what to do. I just found out as well that he has property in Mexico and complains about the $40 he gives me a week. This makes my blood boil and I just need God to take justice in his hands and help me forgive him like God forgives me. Need to hold on to God’s promises not man’s.
Yolanda, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this!! You need to focus on getting whatever money you and your children are owed; contact a lawyer immediately, so that you can get the best possible result from this divorce. Leave the rest to God. You can’t be sure what your husband and his brother are doing, and although as Christians we are opposed to any illegal activity, we also have to be careful when people might be doing work of some sort in order to survive. If they’re doing something illegal, such as selling drugs, that’s one thing, but if what they are doing is to allow them to pay their bills when they are not citizens… you should probably stay out of it.
I know you’re shocked and hurt by this divorce, but if it was going to prevent you from reaching your destiny, God would never have allowed it. A new and better life is waiting for you right now, which will include a man who is there for you and your children every single day. Press into God, ask Him for the courage, strength, and wisdom to do what is best right now, and go get that new life. Show your children how a true woman of God responds to adversity!!
I’ve been waiting for ten years and I’m starting to lose faith. I’m dying inside.
After 10 years, you need to be moving on with your life, making a GOOD life for yourself. Stop dwelling on a decade-old issue. God will handle it AFTER you demonstrate your faith by moving forward.
Thanks for these blessed words. I reflect on them each day. I’m still going through but God got it.
Thank you so much that I stumbled to this particular blog. I have been in a very hurtful and sad breakup, and this made me cry and feel loved by God. Thank you. God be with us always.
Have courage
The person did not deserve you
FH,
I enjoy reading your posts and the small glimpses into your past and how God has changed you. It breaks my heart to read all the people who communicate with you, their stories are painful. Yet, it’s inspiring to read them and to be able to pray for God to work in their lives.
I still have trouble asking God for what I need. I think it’s because I don’t know what I need anymore. I was born into a family where both of my parents are suffering from severe personality disorders. My older brother is a wreck, and for full disclosure, I was also for many years.
It wasn’t until I left a toxic marriage to a sociopath (2 years of therapy and much Christian counseling and introspection/prayer to come to this conclusion) that I was able to get a grip on recovering and improving. I know that God saved me from her. I remember the night I was crying and shaking, begging if God was real, that He would save me from this. I could not leave on my own.
I have been away from her for close to two years, and I believe that I have seen demons in human bodies. There was every major type of abuse that was done to me by her. I carry so much shame from things she has done. I cannot date, if a woman touches me, I freak out. I still have desires, but cannot act on them. I feel broken as a man and a child of God.
I am not a victim or survivor. I know I am a child of God and that is enough.
I do not understand or know what the next phase of my life will be. God has not restored the pieces that she and my parents have taken from me by their horrible actions. God has worked a miracle in me, to be standing here a free man from people who brainwashed, abused and violated me. I’ve prayed for His wisdom, but I’m at a standstill. I don’t know what’s coming next, or what I’m supposed to do.
I’m angry that she took my financial future, I lost my house, I do not have communication with my step-children and have disconnected from my family because of what they have done. I have been betrayed by every person that I have trusted, and I believe that was God telling me that I am to trust Him and Him alone.
He has grown me, but I’m still feeling lost and broken. I don’t know what to do. I continue to tell God that I trust in His plan, and I know that I do. I’m able to say that with confidence that comes from my heart. Am I being impatient? Am I wrong for wanting God to repair the damage, make right what was done wrong? Am I ever going to be good enough to be loved by another human? My parents are incapable of love, my ex-wife only married me to take advantage, and I’m trying to make good and healthy relationships but it’s not happening.
I believe God has had me experience these things for a purpose. I cannot see any reason God allowed this to just have me go through it for fun. It wouldn’t be right. God is a just God, right?
Yes, He is. There is absolutely a purpose here, and every day you have to fight to find the faith to believe that God is going to make good on all of this.
My own life was an absolute horrorshow for several years… and mind you, it was pretty grim before that as well, but I was used to it. Starting with the sudden death of my mother, my only relative within 1000 miles, every single person that I loved, trusted, and counted on devastated and betrayed me in truly hideous ways. As soon as I started crawling back a little bit from one loss, another one would hit me. It was absolutely surreal. The other people in my life were so overwhelmed that they essentially withdrew in self-defense, because they couldn’t bear to talk to me anymore, and could no longer find any words to comfort or encourage me. Whenever I DID manage to talk to someone, I would always say that God was going to make good on it somehow. The agony dragged on and on, my situation got worse and worse… but I kept saying over and over that God was going to make good on it.
And then, one day, thanks to an invitation from a total stranger, I suddenly found myself at a party for church I’d never heard of… and my life took off like a rocket!! I always said that when God wanted me to go to church, He’d let me know, and tell me which church to go to… and He DID!! I went from having a worse life than I could’ve ever imagined to a BETTER life than I could ever have imagined, from one day to the next… AND, none of it would’ve been possible without all of my catastrophic losses, because without them I would never even have been on the website where I met the stranger who invited me, much less had nowhere to go and nothing to do on New Year’s Eve, and be socially desperate enough to accept that offer from that total stranger. God had a plan, and He DID make good on it, more and better than I could ever imagined.
He’s going to do it for YOU, too; count on it. Love, finances, happiness, are all part of the plan. You don’t need to struggle endlessly to handle it yourself; God is going to handle it for you, in ways that you cannot imagine right now. Stay in faith; your life is just about to take off!!
i am very happy today…. i want to study more by your words… this all belongs to me… i want to a student of god… i love u god i love… i love you so much please come with me in this way everyday and teach me always please i love you god…. uuuummmmmmaaaaahhhhhh
God will make Wrong RIGHT!! and Better than ever before!!
Thank you for those scriptures. I don’t know what to believe. It’s easier to hope to die and less painful to hope and not see nothing. My husband left me he’s committing adultery working living and enjoying life. I don’t want reconciliation. I know God doesn’t owe me nothing. But I ask for revenge or relief with death.
Thank you
Lolita
Lolita, I’m so sorry to hear about what you’re going through!! Don’t be so sure that your husband is enjoying life; we never really know what people’s private lives are like, and what gets passed around as gossip or posted on Facebook often bears little resemblance to reality. Since you don’t want him back, you need to start putting him out of your mind; I know it’s really hard, but do the best you can, and ask God to help you… He always will.
It’s never ok to ask God for either revenge or death; He will not give you either of those things, and all that will happen is that the flow of blessings will be cut off from you.
What you need to believe is that God is there, He loves you, and He still has an amazing plan for your life that your ex-husband could not prevent. Stay in faith; this time of pain will pass, and you will achieve new things that you never could have if your husband had still been there.
Mercy – thank you for your prayer – the short message concerning which you sent on 28th April – I have only just seen it – thank you- your heart is so big – it gave me comfort
GOOD DAY TODAY IS JULY/25/2016 AND I JUST WANTED TO SAY THANK YOU. FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HURT SOUL. I AM STARTING TO FEELA LLITTLE BETTER. I TRUST AND BELIEVE IN LORD JEHOVAH JESUS CHRIST AND THE HOLY SPIRIT. I THANK THE LORD FOR ALL THAT HE HELPED ME THROUGH SO FAR. I KNOW LIFE AIN’T EASY, YET I NEVER KNEW IT WAS THIS HARD. FROM ZERO TO 46 YEARS OF AGE. WOW WOW WOW. I LOVE HIM AND I TRUST LORD JEHOVAH IS LOVING ME BACK.IN JESUS CHRIST HOLY NAME I THANK AND WILL CCONTINUE TO PRAY AMEN.
Thank you this has given me great encouragement.
Thank you..reading that passage was soothing to my heart.
You’re welcome!! 🙂
I took a request from a guy on Skype back in January. I didn’t know anything about scammers. So we chatted for several months. He began to ask for money for various emergencies. Then when I figured him out he told me he was in love with me and wanted to meet me in real person. So, I flew to Africa and met him and spent 3 weeks with him. He was very good to me and protected me but I paid for everything as he didn’t work but was a full blown scammer. He wanted me to help him get a Visa to the US so I gave him the money for it because he wanted to get his life changed and knew if he could get to America he could get the help he needed. He was so persistent and talked about it several times a day. Then, when I flew back to America he was still calling and telling me he loved me and wanted to marry me as soon as he got here. He would call me and give me updates on his visa. Then, I would have to send him more money for his BTA, and money to stay where he was staying to wait on his visa to come through. Then, his friends, who I met began to call and email me that he was getting married and was using my money for his wedding and wedding rings. They told me his wife to be was a scammer too and they were both after my money. Everything became a reality and he still called and cried and asked me to forgive him that he was miserable and still wanted to be with me. I went to the Lord and took my responsibility for getting involved with this person. I told God it was my fault because I knew better. But, I have blocked him now and have no contact. Yet, I’m asking God for Justice. I told this guy that I forgive him and still loved him but couldn’t be in contact with him anymore or play a part of his life since he had a wife now. He has no job, no car, and makes his living as a scammer. I want the devil to repay me for everything stolen from me because he deceived me into believing a lie.
I’m sorry to hear about what you went through!! You’ve learned a painful lesson; NEVER give $ to a man that you’re not married to. It’s the job of his family and friends to assist him financially, and if he has no family and no friends, he does not qualify to even be in your life, much less to have any of your $.
There’s no point in wanting the devil to repay you for anything, since he has nothing to repay you with, and even if he did he would not do it. Unfortunately, you did all of this of your own free will, so you can’t guarantee that you will ever be paid back. Pray for God to give you healing of your heart and peace; that you can be guaranteed to get.
Lord heal me now. Im so much in pain 😥
Wonderful. But, what if we were just as guilty for pursuing something that we knew better not too, and in the process we were innocent at the same time. If we take responsibility for our own actions, and ask God for forgiveness and tell Him it was just as much my fault would He still give us justice because of the other parties actions. I have paid a price in grieving and suffering. Had to pray constantly for God to heal me of my own actions. Will He still deal with that other person as well.
I’m having a hard time imagining a situation where you could be guilty and innocent at the same time, so I don’t think I have a useful answer for you. Guilty people are generally not entitled to justice. God will deal with each wrongdoer, but not necessarily in a way to provide you with justice, or in a way that is within your preferred time frame or method. In the meantime, you need to focus on what YOU did wrong, not on whether or not God is penalizing whoever did harm to you.
Please let me re state my message. I did not know this person was a habitual liar, he was very believable in everything he ever said. He was consistent in everything or any story he would tell, But, for some reason I never had any peace, and was always restless being in contact with him but could never put my finger on anything. I’m feeling guilty because I should have known something wasn’t right but believed him anyway. Then, his friends contacted me and told me he was trying to get my money and would make me believe anything he said. So, that’s why I feel it’s my fault for allowing it to go on as long as I did. In the mean time I bonded with him and still difficult for me to believe he was such a liar. Does this make any sense. Do people who swindle and defraud others ever pay emotionally just like their victims do.
Thank you for clarifying your question. Imperfect grasp of a situation is not the same as being guilty of wrongdoing, so that leads to a very different answer:
We all feel like we should never be fooled by liars, but the reality is, almost all of us ARE fooled… that’s why they keep doing it. If someone is believable and consistent in everything that they say, then normally you SHOULD believe them, as those are the 2 primary tests that we can use to determine if someone is being truthful or not. It’s possible that something about his behavior was giving you some sort of subtle subconscious warning, but you might just be selling yourself a bill of goods after the fact; I have certainly seen people go from proclaiming total trust and confidence in someone to claiming that they ALWAYS knew that there was a problem AFTER something goes wrong, because they don’t want to admit that the other person had them totally fooled.
In any case, based on what you said, it doesn’t sound like anything happened that you need justice for; this man didn’t actually GET any of your money, right? Nobody likes being lied to or fooled, but these things by themselves do not typically cause harm; it sounds like he INTENDED to eventually cause harm, but that is not something that you need justice for either. Your anger at being tricked, and what sounds like hurt feelings that someone you bonded with never actually felt any kinship with you in return, are unfortunate, but they are also not things that qualify you to receive justice. It’s natural when someone has upset you to wish that they could somehow be as hurt as you feel, but it will virtually never happen that way, and God expects you to just deal with it, learn from it, and move on; He will not be exacting a penalty from the liar because he upset you.
People who do evil do not suffer from it emotionally; if they did, they would in fact NOT be evil, and would not behave the way that they do. God handles them, but typically not in the way or in the timeframe that their victims would choose.
You need to just let this go. There is absolutely nothing to be gained by investing one more minute of time or emotional energy in this man or the situation he caused. You have to forgive this man and pray that God will help him to become a better person, and then move on with your life. Next time you feel a lack of peace in your interactions with someone, you’ll know that that is a sign of a potential problem brewing, and you will decline to bond with that person, and certainly never give them any $. What you have learned here will probably benefit you significantly multiple times in your life, and might also allow you to advise other people who are having a lack of peace with relationships in their lives but don’t understand what is happening. Trust God to deal with this other man, and go back to living your life.
thank you for the word it has given me a boost today and It was speaking to my situation and I now know which direction to take
Thank you for the inspiration😊
What does it mean to grieve and and feel depressed about a person who betrayed you only at certain times of the day. I wake up every morning with this person on my mind and all the things he did to devastate me. But, after I get up and around the grieving and depression leave. It only comes right before I wake up early in the morning. Sometimes it will come in the middle of the day, but never at night. I always have peace at bed time and don’t think about it. Is it possible this other person is thinking about me at these certain times for what he has done. I have not spoke to him since August 20th. Yet, ever since that day, I wake up early in the morning with a bad feeling about him with a deep heaviness and I fight anger and resentment when I get this way. I have moved on and looking forward to see what God has for me. But, this is still lingering in my life and it’s like I can’t get rid of it. Sometimes I sense his presence. The thing is I don’t even care about him anymore. I’m happy where I am today. So, what is this I’m going through.
There is no meaning to what time of day you think about someone. What is happening here is that it has only been a month, and you are still thinking about him and fantasizing that you feel his presence. Stop thinking about him, and move on with your life.
I went through the same thing. Upon research, I found out these people are narcissists. Get the book “Healing Narcissistic Abuse and Finding the True Self” by Kaleah LaRoche and also “Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare” by Shahida Arabi. You will understand what and why they do what they do and info. for your recovery. These books are invaluable and you will find yourself and your abuser in them.
I felt that my soul was “murdered” by my narcissistic siblings, and that’s how I described it before I read these books. In the book they call it “soul rape” and “soul murder,” so I was validated about how horrible it was. JO gave me a lot of hope as well as other spiritual authors. It is true “what goes around comes around” and I have a CD at home where JO uses these same words about justice.
My sister who started the smear campaign against me with my brothers, now has stage 4 terminal cancer. Three months after they smeared me she was diagnosed for the first time. Coincidence? You decide.
Jane, if I could tell you what this guy did, it would devastate you. He was the best and most consistent liar I have ever encountered in my whole life. He planned to marry me, we talked about it over a period of seven months. He didn’t live in the same state as me but we would get together and spend time with each other. During this time, I gave him a lot of money to help pay for him to get a visa to come where I am as he was in another country. We spent 3 weeks together in June and he never left my side. He was so good to me and was very protective. Then, in July, he married another girl and paid for her wedding rings and the wedding with my money. Then, cried, and begged me to forgive him, telling me he didn’t love her, and he was miserable and didn’t know how to get out of it. I was in shock for weeks. But blocked him from everything. Your right, soul raped and soul murdered is the perfect definition for what I’m suffering from. I don’t see how a man can marry a woman that he says he doesn’t love, and didn’t know why he did it. At the same time, didn’t want me to leave him. Is this a narcissistic person. Or the devil himself. Where can I get the book.
First of all I’m sorry that you’re going through this. Secondly, YES he is a narcissist. I understand because my ex-boyfriend is one. We also planned to get married. Then he became ice cold, distant, unaffectionate, but would email me love letters. His words and actions did not match. I broke it off to save myself. He immediately went to someone else, however, I believe he was texting someone before we broke up.
I did research to try to understand my siblings’ cruelty, and why my ex-boyfriend was a Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde. It was God who led me to narcissistic abuse.
Amazon sells the book “Healing Narcissistic Abuse and Finding the True Self,” by Kaleah LaRoche. Get the Sept. 2016 edition. It is a MUST read. It’s easy to understand and you will not be able to put it down. It’s approx. $20 and approx. $4.00 for shipping. The other book “Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare,” By Shahida Arabi is currently available basically only on Kindle on Amazon. I don’t have a Kindle but I can download it onto my computer. It’s currently free on Kindle.
Here is an except from Healing Narcissistic Abuse by Kaleah Laroche; “The journey involves post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive thinking, low energy, lack of vitality, heartbreak, betrayal, deception, feeling devalued and discarded, feeling abandoned, feeling replaced, feeling lost, crazy, frustrated, insecure, needy, and addicted. You may be feeling guilty as if you were to blame for it all. You may be feeling deep grief and sadness, emptiness, and loneliness. You may have lost your will to live. You may feel invisible, like you don’t matter. You may even feel you don’t exist at all. You are most likely feeling the lack of closure.”
JO provided much spiritual uplifting to me and I am forever grateful for his books and CDs and DVDs. I listen and/or read his books every day.
You can get through this. It will be difficult but be patient and kind to yourself. You need to go totally no contact with your ex and read the books. Good luck and I’m sending you much love and healing.
Thank you Jane. You have been very helpful.
FH
I can see a beginning of a major turn of events, something amazing happening. God is still on his throne. FH, please thank Mercy for her prayers (28th April was his/her post) if you can contact him/her. Those prayers must have been strong.
So everyone out there who is suffering – hang on in there – a dawn is coming.
This is absolutely believing in faith for a better future. I needed this so much that I can’t even put into words. Life is hard, losses hurt, people’s judgements can be so crucial in finding happiness and peace…. ty from the bottom of my heart for this read. God Bless and keep everyone STRONG IN THEIR FAITH TO ALWAYS KEEP HOPING FOR A BETTER PLACE ON THIS EARTH! ❤
My boyfriend of 2 years left me over the summer after I found out he had lied to me. He would create arguments unnecessarily and then hang up and refuse to talk through things. I ended up having bad panic attacks and went through a depression. We had been talking about marriage before and when I found out all these lies involving other women, him flirting with them and trying to see them, and lying about his degree of contact, I was upset and HE couldn’t handle my hurt and left for me two months. He came back end of summer trying to get back and admitted he Persued women (while I was depressed and heartbroken). I found out he told one woman She was his soul mate only after a week, but she must have gotten scared and it didn’t work out, so he tried going after a another woman from work two weeks after and told her if she’d give him a chance to spoil her offered to take her in trips and buy her things, and said he’s ALL in, but he didn’t care. He is 41 and both of these women are around 24 years old. He used excessive flattery and talked about how beautiful their babies would be with each one and made side by side pic collages of them together.. yes, he pulled this with each woman. Nothing panned out and to me, this is why he came back. I let him back in my life and he apologized, but I could not forget how he left me and ended up dating other women. He wanted me to let go and would yell and me and ask him how long ago this happened. It hurt like hell to find this out. He started treating me bad about 1 month after he came back. We couldn’t even talk on the phone because he would think im saying things I’m not and I’d have to explain over and over, in love, what I’m saying. He would just Yell at me. I would tell him how I think and feel and he’d say that I don’t think and feel that way. We would argue and he’d hang up again And not want to talk to me based on what he thought, which he was wrong about, and Then blamed me for problems in the relationship saying we can’t communicate. I was in tears because I so badly wanted this to work, but told him we need to stop talking. He didn’t try to contact me at all to apologize– nothing. He told me to go f some other guy, I have many options. Then he goes and adds the woman back in instagram that he was sweet talking and claimed was his new soul mate. I could not believe he would try to hurt me like that again! I did everything for him and I wasn’t even allowed to have male friend, but is and was how he treated me. I prayed to God for understanding and he showed me, but I am unable to heal and ask God if he doesn’t see how this man is treating women? I know vengeance is. It mine and i still live this man, but when will justice be served? It’s so heart breaking and I’m lost. I wish I could stop loving him. He misused me and hurt me over and over even after apologizing, only to do it again. How do I heal!?
This man is an evil, despicable creature. I can’t tell from what you wrote if you are still together with him to any degree, but if you are, please end it immediately in your own defense.
There is nothing that you need to do in order to heal; healing is something that happens automatically over time, no matter how sure you are that it never will. Keeping busy and developing a new and better life for yourself will help a little bit, but other than that, you just have to wait it out. You will also stop loving him gradually over time, no matter how certain you are that this is not the case.
There is no way to know when justice will be served, and it is very unlikely that you will find out when it has been, since you will presumably be having no overlap with this man’s life. You need to stop focusing on him and start focusing on yourself and your own life.
The world is full of men, and virtually all of them will treat you infinitely better than this man did. One day, sooner than you can imagine, you will be with one of those men, and this other man will just be an unpleasant memory.
I am ready to forgive my Evil ex wife.
Good going!!
I needed to read this today. They sound like words I would have written. But, I’ve been through it and today your words helped me to try to refocus. Thank you!
Thank you. my father’s wife was very cruel to me. i always tried to be kind. i confided in my brother who betrayed me by tellng her what I shared with him. she uses her money to manipulate and my brother wants her inheritance, so his aim was to get me out of the picture. When my father passed she made sure my abusive ex husband was at his deathbed solely to hurt me. My brother and her tried to get me to sign my inheritance to her. He refused to talk to me.He wouldn’t even give me pictures. They slandered me to my uncle who falls for their act that they are victims of me. My uncle doesnt see how they treated me, he says he knows that I am sensitive. i did not attend my father’s ashes because they were so cruel. i got an attorney to protect my inheritance and they accused me of being greedy to my uncle. Now my uncle tskes their side. My brother, my ex and my dad’s wife are banded together and tell everyone I am crazy. My brother wants her money so he has thrown his only sister…his only surviving relative away. i am heartbroken. My only reaction was to cut myself off from all of them. i don’t ask for money. i wanted family. i still feel intense pain over this betrayal a year later. my aunt seems to take pleasure in my pain. i cut them all out of my life. I hope God will make them see. i hope that the truth will come out. they pretend they are good and caring people and secretly hide their cruel treatment. Nobody sees it because they want the world to think they are good, caring people who victimized by me. such injustice.
I am so sorry to hear you are dealing with this. I went through an identical situation with my family while I am still the executor of my parents’ estate. They also appeared to be Christians in public but were vile people behind the scenes. Look for any book on narcissists. Narcissists are the ones who will do smear campaigns and slander. That’s what people like these are–they are narcissists. Also, what goes around comes around. My sister who started the lies, smear campaign, and bullying paid an enormous price.
I don’t know who you are , but I share your pain, although my situation is different then yours , but I know exactly what’s like to be betrayed, rejected, then Abandonment. Without a doubt, and I know this is hard . God will deal with them and be there for you with the pain you are experiencing. You might not see this right now, but if you step aside and let God work this out for you. You are going to come out of this better and much stronger than you was before, and your walk with God will be more intimate. Please let him do battle for you. For he said I will not leave you nor forsake you. He will fight against those who fight against you.
Thank you very much. it means a lot to know that I am not alone.
THANK YOU ,
THIS ARTICLE IS LIKE MY OWN FEELINGS ,,, I APPRECIATE HAVING READ THIS ,,,
COMFORTING INFORMATION,,,
Morag
Awesome Thank u
Thank you so much sir, you’ve just uplifted my spirit and made me cry out those heavy tears that filled my head and heart. Though I’ve lost a lot of weight because of the weight of heartbreak and injustice being done to me by this man who has deceived me and lied to me that he will marry me for eleven years and kept wasting my time and years all this while, I’ve decided to hand everything over to the Almighty God. At a point, I had lost faith in God despite the fact that I’m a christian, I sorted for spiritual and evil ways to protect myself from his threats and end his life for good. This man has done me a lot of harm by getting married twice without my knowledge while promising me he will marry me. He beats me up at every given time, call me me names and lie against me on countless occasions. And each time he comes and asks for forgiveness, I will forgive him. Now I got fed up and looking for a way to end it all by finishing him when I stumbled on this article. I just pray that God will avenge me of this injustice being done to me for eleven years of my life by this man and his mother.
This somehow came up on my Safari out of the blue – certainly a God wink. Very encouraging sermon, just what I needed after terrible morning of bad discoveries. I went to print the sermon so I could re-read it when needed and it printed all the comments somehow. Anyways I was reading several and lots of heartache, crying out in pain, some sincere, some hateful and negative, and still you answered every one with encouragement. What a wonderful Christ-like behavior you have exhibited. This was originally posted 5 years ago and you still are answering. Wow. Reading all these problems makes me feel like I am one in a sea of millions of people with problems. Lots of people Cry out to the Lord, and yet He is there to listen to each one of us. I am in awe of His Greatness and ability to keep listening to billions of hurt and still have strength and desire to fight for each one of us. I do believe from witnessing and experience, that He works more quicker when we relinquish the hurt, and actively seek Him. ~ May the Lord bless you and keep you, may His face shine upon you and be gracious unto you, may you feel His presence daily, and what you are waiting for be fulfilled. I thank you for fighting the Good Fight and allowing God to use you to reach a multitude of others.
its 00:28 I am awake and wondering ,devil have been directing me to boyfriends who hurt me and rejecting me . im going through hurtful relationship rejection I m not saying I am perfect ,but I have asked my self a minute ago before I get to this site that why when you always try to do good ,people hurt you,reject you, and you work hard at work but you don’t get recognition, you are the most underpaid but you are the most hardworking as well I know this happens to the most of us. I tried not to feel bad about this. but there are time s like now when all this get under your skin,,, anyway this article have motivate me to continue to love,to be a good hardworking employee ,ye its true God sees our heart ,the pain we go through ,and joy will come in the morning, I’m greatefull to come across this side .keep up being our motivators,
What if your situation has made you inconsolable that you wish you were rather dead than experiencing what you went through and still going through and you have lose appitite for things of this world e.g money, pleasure, enjoyment,etc
I’m sorry to hear that you’re enduring this terrible situation!! You need to stay in faith, keep praising and thanking God, and wait for Him to do a new thing that will remove you from the situation. This is exactly what He did for ME, and He will do it for you!!
It’s April 11 2017 and this was written in 2012. I don’t know how I got here but thank God I did. It only confirms what I’ve been through and what I’ve been hearing about ‘payback’, ‘restoration’, etc. Thank you Lord for breakthrough, healing, restoration.
Thank you for this article. I needed it so much at this very moment in my life! I can relate to all you said, and I am so tired, so broken, and have had triple injustices in my life for a long time now. I was ready to give up on God, on life, and then I did a random, quick internet search for some kind of encouragement, and found your article. It would take too long to tell my entire story here, even of my life, so I will spare you the details, but just know, you encouraged me tonight. Thank you.
I thought i dnt hv life anymore bt reading dis article, 2day am gonna Praise God, i’ve seen alot in my life, i’ve been hurt, betrayed, nd left empty bt wth God i knw dat i can make it. Thnk u 4 everythin
I learn many things out of this massage and it helps me as a christian in my life.
Just like to ask you to please keep me in your prayers, I struggle with betrayal
Praying!!
‘i know my redeemer lives’ i thought God forgot about me,until i read this.am so blessed.thank you
Psalms 109 is my imprecatory prayer for my evil ex-wife
Pls i’ m lost need to regain my self emotion have dissapiont myself for going astery
You will never know how badly I needed this. Thank u and may God bless u for posting.
This is just what I needed due to the injustices and lies hurled in the past few weeks. Especially this Friday. It appeared as though my enemies had won. I woke up feeling the effects of the trial. Thank you for allowing God to speak to you and sharing. I really need this!
God Bless,
Dr. Donita Lester🤗
Wow! This is incredible and thank you for writing this! I use to be in very dark places and entering the light is the greatest experience I have ever had, I wouldn’t trade the darkness for anything though cause without it I wouldn’t be where I am and so close to God. It’s just too good to even describe and I am so truly grateful. I just love life so much and I’m so blessed to still be here. I truly believe in God and everything you wrote are things I believed before reading this and it’s nice to come across others with such faith. This reminds me of JO, the way he writes and speaks. Do you have any books?
This post is a transcription of one of JO sermons. He has lots of books. 🙂
I feel so inspired and uplifting what I just read. Am going through lot of rejection injustice trials and tribulation. Enemies are laughing at me where is my God. Please pray for me. Am so desperate. Thanks
God is right where He has always been, right there getting you through the trials and tribulations that the Bible says come to everyone. I hope this will encourage you during your difficult time:
Footprints in the Sand
One night I dreamed I was walking along
the beach with the Lord.
Across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed
two sets of footprints,
one belonging to me, and
the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along
the path of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in my life.
This really bothered me, and I questioned the Lord about it.
“Lord, you said that once I decided
to follow You, You would walk with me all the way, but I noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is
only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why in times when I needed you most, you would leave me.”
The Lord replied, “My precious, precious child, I love you and
I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering, when you saw only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you.”
Praying!!
I was feeling so broken… But now after reading the whole text , I am so relaxed…. Feeling positive wibes around…as if I am protected inside a shell of God’s affection….everything would be fine😊
The above stories seem hopeful,but what about situations that cannot be healed,unless a person has a time machine to be able to go back in time& for all people in their life,including themselves can nake different(better) choices in life.
A situation that has gone wrong can virtually always be healed unless one or more crucial participants have passed away. In that case, YOU can still be healed, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, with God’s help. You can make the choice to move forward, rather then sulking and dwelling and focusing on a dead past situation for the rest of your life.
Omg I just received this word so POWERFULLY INTO MY SPIRIT! I accept and believe your Word I RECEIVE YOUR WORD! Thankyou for the blessings you are about to LAVISHLY POUR UPON MY LIFE! Ive never been more sure about anything else ever before in my life. THE LIVING WORD FLOWING TO ME EVEN IN THE DRY DESERT OF THE WILDERNESS! Lord SET YOUR MERCY ON MY SOUL! Repay my enemies for everything they have done to cause me pain and strife! Equip me with your strength to make it to the other side as i have received this very word at this very moment THIS WEEK*** i WILL SEE RESTORATION! I WILL SEE cases SETTLED! VINDICATION! I will SEE PROMOTION & BREAKTHROUGH! Yes I ACCEPT AND BELIEVE THIS IS MY TIME OF PROMOTION MY LONG PATIENT VIRTUOUS HUMBLE RIDDEN PROMISE FINALLYYYYY COMING TO PASS! I Couldnt be MORE READY THAN I AM NOW! Take me to the other side! HALLELUJAH! AMEN AMEN AMEN! PRAISE GOD PRAISE GOD PRAISE GOD! PRAISE JESUS PRAISE JESUS PRAISE JESUS OUR SAVIOR WHOM WE OWE ALL THE GLORY! Thankyou FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEALED AND MENDED HEART! God is GOOD! Blessings
I try to remain patient while I wait for justice… but every day hurts.
I feel like I’m locked in a torture chamber -and maybe my inability to smile any more makes me less desirable for anyone to want to be bothered to rescue.
I know that God is the ultimate judge… but sometimes lately I think that if I just stop eating and wear a shirt that says “starving for justice” I might get out of this pain sooner rather than later. I can’t go on like this – I can’t keep waking up every day with so much pain. Surely God knows this, doesn’t He?
I hear you, Sharon, trust me… But it is NOT God’s will for you to live this way. You cannot focus your life on waiting to receive justice, and then suffering every day because today was not the day. The justice may take YEARS to happen, and you may never see or know about the justice, because it can come at a time and in a way and a form that you’re not expecting. You need to just believe that God will bring the justice, and move on with your life; you HAVE to stop dwelling on this issue. You need to forgive and bless whoever did you wrong; God can withhold your justice until you have developed the right attitude toward whoever hurt you. I know it’s hard, believe me, I know, but this is what God requires you to do. I’ll be praying for you!
I know exactly how you feel. I’ve rec’d divine justice regarding one person but not the others that were in on slandering me. Please read info. you can get your hands on regarding narcissism. For these are the people who do not have boundaries or respect and hurt people.
Also, the best book I have found regarding forgiveness is “The Art of Forgiving, When you need to Forgive and don’t know how,” by Lewis B. Smedes. I’ve read many, many books on forgiveness, and this is the best one. Also “Zero Limits” by Joe Vitale is an excellent book on forgiveness. The “Power of Now” by Eckart Tolle is powerful. I have many books by Joel Osteen that are in my self-help library. All of these books have some Christian references in them.
I’ve been recovering from the abuse I went through from the narcissists who abused me for the last 1-1/2 years. It is getting better but I was only able to achieve this by much reading, surrendering, and whatever way you can meditate to clear your mind. Godspeed!
I too have been waiting for Justice,, God will not turn a blind eye to it. There time will come. There are many scriptures in the Bible regarding to this very subject. Read Psalms 109. Good place to start.
Needed this so much
Got conned of my life savings
Hurt that it happened
Now I say JESUS IS MY REDEMMER
God is for Justice, read Psalms 109 & Psalms 35
Does god punish those who cheat others of their money
Yes, but not in a way that you will necessarily ever see or find out about. I know it’s hard, but you have to leave the vengeance to God, and just move on, because dwelling on the harm that was done to you, and the desire to see the wrongdoers punished, can poison your life, and KEEP poisoning your life on into the future. They already took your money… don’t let them take your peace and your joy and your life as well!
I pray to god for his divine help as I too are reaching out to him for justice. I have suffered so much pain and pure bad luck.from a young girl I married a wrong man.he has a gambling addiction. He lost our home and my happiness.he’s never sorry thirty five years on his stil gambling..his famiky are very cruel to me.they back stab me and are jealous of how I’m stil coping yet they are getting richer and healthier and happy.yet I’m losing almost everything around me.
My gran and father died .one year apart.I was 27 wen I lost both of them.then my home was taken.I moved on my mum’s. She b came I’ll with cancer..I cried a sea.and stil am.she died.my brother has been taken last month.aged 60. .I was made redundant..I’m in bad health.seems forever I’m in conic pain..I’m abused verbally daily.by him and his family and friends. He talks down about me to everyone..alot more has happened.yet I’ve been angry and bitter but never have lost faith to god.infact I’m forever close to him than ever bfore.I pray day and nte and almost continuesly all day for his divine help and love to shelter me and protect me from all these evil people that surround me.they sent bad energy and bad luck to my health and mind.I need to be in a new place with live and protection.true happiness and true love..I am waiting for god to help me bring my joy at last…
God is always willing to help you, but He also wants you to make some kind of effort to help yourself. Do you have any family left, or any friends of your own, anyone that you can go to to get out of this abusive situation? If not, please call the nearest shelter for abused women and find out what resources are available to you to help escape.
This article shows why we need God – to fight cheaters with their own medicine(they use unfair game to win). As i said in past – there is only one person you can beat – yourself from yesterday! =P Also this is why it is better to betray yourself than humanity.
p.s.That still does not make be betrayer. I just refuse to bow to BS on free will.
Pray for me I am so much discouraged with my marriage life..
Praying!!
Thank you so much NEVER have i EVER doubted God’s power but i needed a reminder that he IS ON MY side. MY redeemer LIVES…praise God ABOVE ALL…MY REDEEMER LIVES AND HE IS ON MY SIDE IRS PAYBACK TIME.. THANK YOU
Just what I needed this morning. This message was a confirmation of what God has been saying. God has used you to get me motivated to move forward.
I have lost a lot over the last 24 months, but God has quietly been saying “Vengeance is mine I shall repay.” God reminded me of Job whom He testified was a “Just Man” but still was met with all types of misfortune, but in the end God restored Job with double”
God has quietly said I will restore you. It has been a long time coming and I get discouraged, yet I wait. However, God had you write this message and sent me by to read it to reassure me of His promise. I know that I will receive double today!!!
Thanks again for allowing God to use you.
Thank you JO … your message is intentionally for me… I appreciate it so much… God bless You always… God made you an instrument for me that God is just… He will make favor to me, He will bring justice to what happened in my life…
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Thank you so much for this article. these were my thoughts this morning while i was meditating, but God has just confirmed those words of comfort expressly through you. These are really words of healing. thank you. May God continue to increase your revelation of His words. Thanks for blessing me with these words. i am extremely strengthened.
I’m looking forward to God bringing justice and compensation for everything people and Satan has robbed me 2 fold
Question….does someone who is being exploited sexually online deserve justice? Or because it’s their own fault for making a mistake not deserve justice?
There is no mistake that you could make that disqualifies you from receiving God’s justice if somebody has made the choice to do evil to you.
I don’t understand the situation that you have described, though. Sexual exploitation requires physical contact, so it cannot take place online; the only exception to that is if a minor child is involved, because anything sexual directed at them is illegal, in which case the law has been broken, and justice can be obtained directly from law-enforcement.
If someone is being HARASSED online in a sexual manner online, it should be reported to whoever owns the forum it takes place on, or Facebook, their email provider, etc, which will cause them to lose their accounts, and that is the end of that.
A short video was made of sexual acts few years ago on his cell phone and there has been no contact between the man and the woman for a couple years. Then it shows up online. He claims he lost his cellphone but on one of the sites he posted the video it’s a picture of his chest and his bedroom in the background. When I exploited him by posting the link on his Facebook “all of the sudden” the profile picture comes down “coincidentally”
The police tried to trace him but he is hiding behind programs so he can’t be traced. She has no way to defend herself. The police did not even really make an effort. Only God can bring her justice at this point. What he did was evil. Trying to humiliate someone.
Unfortunately, this woman did something very foolish, and in the modern day, that kind of foolishness can carry a terrible price tag, as she is learning the hard way. This does NOT mean that God will not bring her justice, but, as in most cases, the justice will not come at the time or in the form that she expected, and she will probably never know about it.
Everywhere that this video is posted, somebody owns that website. Each webmaster needs to be contacted with the request to remove the video. The website where there was a profile picture showing his chest and his bedroom will still have that profile photo stored somewhere in their system, which can be used by the police to identify him. Google cache might still have it as well.
If the police are not taking sufficient action, it’s time for her to get a lawyer. If she cannot afford a lawyer, then she needs to go to legal aid.
Sadly, none of this will change the fact that probably thousands of people have seen the video already. Part of being an adult is that you need to make the right decisions, and understand that every decision that we make has consequences. The unfortunate reality is that it’s VERY easy to make a sex video without the other participant even being aware of it, which is yet another reason to never have sexual contact outside of marriage. Husbands can certainly be scumbags as well, it’s not a perfect system, but it is certainly much safer than the alternatives.
Please encourage this woman to take every possible action, so that this man can suffer human justice while we wait for God’s justice.
This whole situation happened a year ago. It was posted on 2 seperate occastions within a week of each other. It has not been posted since. It wasnt difficult to get the videos down. There is a concern that he might try it again…unless God has already taken care of this situation throught his justice….but how would we know that? That is really the issue…. is just trusting that God has already handled it and there is no need to worry about it again. Will God let us know if Justice has already been done?
On what are you basing the certainty that the video was only posted twice, taken down, and never posted again? The video could be posted in 100 places right now, and there’s no way that you would know it; there are an effectively infinite # of places online where videos are posted, and you could never find or check them all, never mind that some of them require registration on their site, or even payment to gain access. Thousands of people might have downloaded the video, and every single one of them could post it as many times as they wanted to. This is one of the MANY reasons that God wants us to limit our sexual contacts to the person we are married to.
I’m guessing that the victim is less worried about people on the other side of the world that are watching her video than she is about people that she knows seeing it, so you need to focus on the man who did it. Unless this man’s house has burned down and all of his computer equipment with it, AND he wasn’t storing any files online, that means he still has the video, and that means that he could post it again at any time… unless you get legal assistance to force the police to take action. Even God’s justice does not necessarily mean that this man can’t do NEW acts of evil if he chooses to do so. He still has free will. Either get a lawyer to start forcing the police to get after this man, or just lay back and accept the consequences. I’m sorry to be blunt, but those are the options right now.
God will NOT send you a telegram informing you that His justice has taken place. It’s unlikely that you will ever know when God’s justice has taken place; even someone intimately involved in this man’s life might not be aware of what has occurred. There’s no guarantee that God has already handled it. There’s no guarantee that there is nothing to worry about again.
And: There’s no guarantee that 500 other people that this woman knows don’t already have the video on their computers, so no matter what happens to the original man, at any time one of those other 500 could cause her some trouble with those images… and don’t expect God to burn down 500 people’s houses to prevent this from happening, either.
The sad truth here is that God’s vengeance on the original wrongdoer, whenever it happens, will do very little to alter the overall situation. All this woman can do now is pray that God does not allow this video to pop up at her workplace, or her child’s school, or someplace equally horrifying. Once she realizes the true extent of what has happened here, she’s probably going to need counseling; do please help her get some. Tell her I’ll pray for her!
So praying for anything regarding this situation is pointless then if he has free will and God can’t do anything about it.
You started out asking about justice against the original wrongdoer, and now, if God does not completely erase every trace of this video, you’re going to petulantly declare that prayer is pointless? This woman did something catastrophically stupid, totally against the Word and will of God, and part of the consequences of that will be that she is going to have to worry for the rest of her life that this video will continue to resurface; justice against the wrongdoer does not mean that a person can do something foolish and get a perfectly happy outcome.
God can override or work around free will if He chooses to, but don’t expect Him to do it for someone who has totally disregarded His wishes and laws. Is this woman still having sex with men that she is not married to? She shouldn’t expect too many blessings from God, then, but she can still pray that that video does not show up in a way that destroys her life, and God is so good, and so merciful, that He might do that.
In the meantime, be confident that the porn king will get his, although you will probably never know how or when. She needs to just forget about him and move on with her life.
The filming of the “incident” happened in 2013. It was posted in September 2016. She has been with her boyfriend and only him since October 2015. He has been struggling with this whole thing for over a year. He loves her but he isn’t sure that he wants to stay with her because of this. He is trying to believe that God will give them a shot at getting past this but he isn’t so sure this will be the end of it. The next problem is I don’t want her to think her life is over and then attempts to commit suicide or something along those lines.
I’d be interested to know what made that man post the video 3 years later, assuming, which we can’t prove, that this was the first time that he posted it; that might give some insight as to what else he might be planning.
By “boyfriend,” you basically mean, “she’s having sex outside of marriage on a regular basis,” right? This is repugnant to the Lord, who does not distinguish between one night stands and steady boyfriends, and not the best way to qualify for His blessings. If your friend wants God to start moving on her behalf, and let’s face it, she has something she really NEEDS His help with, her first step needs to be to cease all further sexual contact with her boyfriend unless and until they are married. She also needs to be attending church every week, and praying and reading the Bible every single day; if she’s not willing to do these things, then she shouldn’t be too surprised when God doesn’t bust out the big miracles on her behalf.
As sorry as I feel for your friend, I cannot remotely blame her boyfriend for feeling as he does; he has to be imagining what happens if his family, friends, coworkers, or future children see that video, not to mention questioning her judgment, and, and I’m sorry to say this about your friend, her level of classiness. These two REALLY need to see a relationship counselor, and I mean SOON… and as her friend, you need to help her be emotionally prepared for the fact that she may lose her boyfriend over this, and that there are many other men who will decline to be involved with her because of what she has done. On the other hand, there are some men who would think that this is really hot and sexy… I personally wouldn’t want to date a man like that, but then again I consider sex something too special to exist outside of marriage, so I’m not a good subject for comparison.
If you think that your friend is so fragile that something bad happening to her might make her consider suicide, you HAVE to get her into therapy IMMEDIATELY… because, although it’s unlikely that somehow this video is going to be viewed by everybody she knows, now or in the future, the reality is that this could be a serious issue for the rest of her life.
I once read that a woman in a situation like this can partially protect herself by doing a radical makeover, so that she is much less recognizable as the woman in the video, especially by people who meet her in the future. This can mean radically changing the color, length, and styling of her hair (adding or subtracting bangs can make a huge difference), doing totally different makeup, exchanging glasses for contacts or vice versa, taking the jewelry out of any distinctive piercings, etc. I guess it can’t hurt, and by taking some sort of action, maybe she will feel less like a helpless victim and more like she is taking control of her life again.
I wish I had more to offer for her, but unless and until she starts living her life the way God wants her to, she’s kind of on her own.
Wonderful message. I needed that. I have divorced due too infidelity. Move into an apartment where this lady constantly attacks my peace by stumping and bumping above me. It’s been 5yrs since I resided here and I am on a fixed income. I love God and spending time with Him. But through the years dealing with this apt. I have become angry, bumping back at times, stop dreaming and fellowshipping with God. I thought why would God allow me too suffer this long. Especially, when I’m peaceful and dont want to be fighting with no one. But I am back on track, but some days are better than others.
Instead of being angry at your noisy neighbor, or suffering in silence and turning away from God because of it, buy yourself some good-quality earplugs, or if you can afford it, headphones where you can blast your worship music or sermons as loudly as you want without disturbing anybody. God expects us to take action to handle issues like this ourselves; He wants you to learn to figure out how to circumvent bothersome things without divine intervention.
lol I dont mean to laugh but I am in the same situation, but get some earplugs or I have my laptop and I play rain sounds on Youtube to drown out the noise
Wow, thank you, i needed to hear that.I’ve been having so much heartbreak,injustice , betrayal,emotional abuse, stealing ,alot of lying and dening drugs ,alcohol and a baby with the mistress that hasn’t came out yet . there’s alot of secrets in my marriage for a long time, 9 years, I live in fear and try to control things . Sometimes i’m just tired of everything and want to give up but i know Gods a God of restoration and He’s working on me .I got so excited finding your website i know it was God that lead me to it. Thank you !☺ and also do you have any books or cd’s out?
I’m sorry to hear what you’ve been going through, Suzanne! I’m glad that God brought you to my blog, and that it is helping you. No, I don’t have books or CDs, but I have HUNDREDS of posts, enough to keep you busy for a while. I hope things get better soon!
My children’s father left ( covert narcisist )
( 15 years together). For another younger woman. She also knew about me and our 2 children together and it seems I’m suffering while they have been both given an abundance of blessings. One after another while I suffer. Why are they being blessed for this for our brokenness. Why can’t things go wrong for them and they be punished?
I’m sorry to hear about the way your children’s father has behaved, Monica! He and his younger woman have not been given any blessings, they are simply enjoying the choices that they have made with their free will… for now. There is no possibility of long-term happiness from being romantically attached to a terrible person, and these are BOTH terrible people, so they will not be happy in the long run… and they will not be blessed at ANY point. God loves marriage and hates adultery.
For your own happiness and sanity, you need to STOP focusing on them, fantasizing about their happiness, and wishing ill on them. Your husband is a horrible person, and having a horrible person leave you is a gift, even if it causes your difficulties in the short run. Move on with your life. Meet new people, do new things, find a better man. God will help you make a much better life than you had before!
Thank you for sharing this encouraging message. In my case there is no way but the Grace and Power of God to regroup, restore and rebuild. His wonder working power and only His wonder working power will once again bring hope and restablish my life and great growth.Did things work out for you too?
Stephen Pelley
Some things in my life have worked out already, and some have not worked out yet… pretty much like everyone else’s life. Stay in faith, restoration is coming!
I Need This. Thank you God for bringing me to this site.
Reblogged this on The Way Online and commented:
This is beautifully written truth about the way God handles our lives.
Exactly what i needed to read
. thank you
I am a Christian. I was widowed from my husband Tom of 40 years. After that I married another Christian man albeit with mental issues and from an abusive home. He and I felt God had brought us together, so we got married. His family did not want us to get married and during the year and a half we were together did everything to break us up again. My new Husband Robin was unable to “leave them and cleave to me” and was unable to set proper boundaries with them, unable to say No to them out of guilt and fear. Recently they falsely accused him in order to put him in a mental facility and get him back on the drugs we had worked so hard to get him off of. While there they turned him against me so that I was not able to contact him any more. He has now gone back to his mother’s house with them not allowing me any contact with him. They came with the police to get back ‘his things’ and have robbed me of income and accused me of injustice to him while we were together. I did not give him his things because I fear them being able to take away the home my late husband and I bought together and that I was willing to share with my new husband while he was with me. I do not have a lawyer. Right now I wish to give him back his things but have no way to contact him. I do need God’s justice and restoration of His peace and joy in my life. I also pray that I may retain my home which has a mortgage on it with sufficient funds to pay for it and with no one taking it away from me. I have no animosity toward my husband but have a hard time blessing his treacherous family.
People can’t just take away your home, so take that worry out of your spirit. You were married to this man; don’t you have addresses for any of his family members? Phone numbers for them? If they won’t take your phone calls, drive his possessions to the nearest home of a family member and leave them on the front lawn, if they don’t give you any other way to do it. Do keep blessing all of these people even though it is difficult; believe me, the blessings you get in return will be worth it, including the peace, joy, and restoration that you seek.
I believe there is a chance for reconciliation with my husband if he has the courage to leave his family. I am asking the Lord to fight for us.
He IS fighting for you! Keep on praying, and keep moving forward in your Christian walk, and God will do something amazing!
I really needed to read this and I have some injustice going on in my life right now . Me and my family getting kicked out of the house we have lived in for 14 years and we have many memories here . My nephew owns the house and now that his mom my sister has passed away not even 5 weeks . He decided he wants this house to live in . He gave us till August 2018 to move out. It’s very heartless and sad that it’s he is doing this to us now . I just have to place my whole trust in the Lord to find us a place to live . I have a disabled brother that o take care of . I know my Father will bless us with a home much better than we could of imagined . Thank you I feel much better about our situation now . Amen 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Love this!!!!! Exactly what I needed to hear today. Claiming & believing for seven fold recompense this in my life, for every unfair, unjust situation, in Jesus Name. PRAISE
Hi Joanna,, I am waiting myself for God to make things right for me in my life regarding my evil ex wife, my workplace enemies and my nasty neighbor. The things they done to me have been and still are, going on for years. Myself personally. I had enough. Psalms 109
My God I just read this and wept and wept. Thank you for this. 4 years later from this message and it is exactly everything how I feel and need to hear.
This is the truth, all my life people have always tried to put me down or keep me in misery and it never worked. Everytime I go through a depressing mode he picks me back up ASAP. I have been blessed when others cursed me and I have seen many of my adversaries fall and fade away. There is life and death in the tongue and many have brought death on themselves. It’s like I live in a new world it’s full of peace, love, mercy, wisdom and miracles. God always gives you adversity in order to shape you up to prepare for his gifts, blessings and grace. He rewards you double folded and returns their own scorn upon their own heads double folded. I have seen all of this with mine own eyes since I was a pre-teen. We must pray for them for they know not what they do and what doors they are opening up and the indignation, plagues and judgement that will fall on them.
Was cheated and lied and robbed of all my savings
Trusting God to bring justice
dont worry and dont fret,, God will make it right for you. He knows your pain
Thank you Greg for your encouragement.
Waiting for Gods mercy.
Lost everything
Belinda, God brought me out of a pit, i was a miserable wretch. Here is what i found out. Its your faith, its never easy but it can be done. God has summoned you he calls you by your name and says you are mine. God will not leave nor forsake you, and he will pay back double for your sufferings. Step aside and leave room for Gods wrath.
Thank you Greg
I just cried out to the Lord Show me a word speak to me and your email.was there.
Please help me keep the faith
Have been cleaned out and have no money even for daily food
I Love what You’ve written!
In 1997 I separated from my husband he had several affairs he really hurt me. He wanted to take my home and my child away from me. I had very little money to make ends meet.I struggled for so long I felt suidial. I couldnt move on with my life. After a year someone said to me what is stopping you making a life for yourself, this echoed in my thoughts. Then in January 1999 I cried out to God. I made a promise that I would put every effort into my life to change things around. I went on a course to better myself after some weeks being on this course I was still struggling with money for bills, I was in a lot debt no money for food only having enough food for my child. I hadn’t eaten for 5 days only scraps that my daughter had left on her plate. Then I met up with an old friend she asked me if I would look after her children whilst she was at work and she would pay me.i had to give up on my course to be able to look after her children to earn some money. Then within a couple weeks I met my soul mate. I never felt so happy in life as did then,I even felt guilty for feeling so happy in my life as never felt this before.I got a divorce kept my home and my child lived with me. I had a small payout which I paid my debts. Me and my soulmate stayed together for 18 years we had a son together.My partner died last year with lung cancer. Life wasn’t easy but somehow I always got through.
A couple of years ago I told this story to a young man a friend of my daughters who was going through a difficult time he was giving up on life. I told him I made a promise to god that I would do all I can to make things right in my life and with gods help it did. The young man walked away feeling a little better. A year later I heard that he moved away to a new place got a new job and a new partner and he is now happy again. Life is what you make it and god will always help. I have since learnt that my ex husband in recent times that he is suffering in many ways. I do not get joy from this but feel he is now learning about the pain I felt during my relationship with him. Just keep talking to God he is listening.
i am trusting God will deal with my ex-wife with all the grief and sorrow she put me through, a long story, put i think you get the idea. Apart from God,,, i can do nothing
Trust in God Greg and move on in your life holding onto things that do not matter any more just holds you back in life. The greatest thing you can do for yourself is keep praying to god be hopeful and be kind to yourself learn from mistakes and always help a stranger when you can as it’s good for the soul.
This is very powerful.. before i came across this, i had googled a different content but it opened this.Suprissingly, all these are the things am battling and i feel an assurance that the time to inherit in double and have everlasting joy is here.wow. it has really made an impact in my life.Be blessed for sharing this.
Even though you wrote this seven years ago,(and I don’t know who JO is who wrote this?),but the message of this could not have been more perfect and more timely from God the Father himself for me and for my grown son and what he has been going through over the last six months. My 27-year-old son Micah has been going through tremendous heartbreak and loss. Also he has been lied about and slandered ,he has been stolen from, including his first and only baby. My son has been going through a Job like experience. He needs a lot of prayer and he needs God‘s recompense and restoration in his life. Thank you for writing this article it gives us hope and courage
Melanie, I’m so sorry to hear what Micah has been going through! You can watch JO’s sermons here:
https://bit.ly/1Mm4ia6
Reading this has made me feel less lonely and sad. It has made me feel like someone cares about me. And has reminded me that although I am rejected and hurt by my family and by others. That God loves me. That I’m not all alone. And God will always protect me, fill be with joy health and all that is good.in Jesus name. Amen.
Just wanted to share that my family and I have gone through terrible times as well. I decided when my first husband died with a massive heart attack in my arms in our kitchen I was 37 years old 2 young children that — I am either going to get bitter or better from this. I choose better. There has been many awful situations my family and I have went through and I refuse to feel sorry for myself. I chose to get better from each situation. It’s hard but I think of all that God has done I praise him and thank him no matter what. God’s always gives me great peace. It really helps me to think this way and read God’s word. If God can call each star by name, our hairs are numbered, he made the world in 6 days, He parted the Red Sea…I can go on and on. What do we really have to worry about when God is in control. God Bless you!
Just wanted to share that my family and I have gone through terrible times as well. I decided when my first husband died with a massive heart attack in my arms in our kitchen I was 37 years old 2 young children that — I am either going to get bitter or better from this. I choose better. There has been many awful situations my family and I have went through and I refuse to feel sorry for myself. I chose to get better from each situation. It’s hard but I think of all that God has done I praise him and thank him no matter what. God’s always gives me great peace. It really helps me to think this way and read God’s word. If God can call each star by name, our hairs are numbered, he made the world in 6 days, He parted the Red Sea…I can go on and on. What do we really have to worry about when God is in control. God Bless you!
I was dumped 3 months ago by my ex who i showed so much love to and did amazing things for him to improve his life in the end he dumped me like a piece of trash i didn’t just stumble across this message it was God sent thank you for posting it i feel 100% better Amen
Thank you I needed all you write and I am so blessed.👍👌💯🙏
I have been waiting waiting 19 years for justice. How and when will God bring forth the unjust attorneys and judges who stole from me and lied to get financial gain from the taxpayers.
There’s no way to know that, and no way to be certain that you will ever know that that justice has taken place. It might already have taken place in ways not visible to you. Meanwhile, you need to stop giving them power over you; you”ve spent 2 decades fretting over those injustices, and it’s time to let them go and focus on other things. It’s time to forgive them, as Jesus wants us to forgive all of those who have wronged us. Remember, forgiveness isn’t for them… they don’t know or care if you forgive them or not… forgiveness is for YOU.
THANK YOU, FH, for your reply.
The Count of Monte Cristo is a beautiful movie that I relate to. If you have not watched it, then I highly recommend you do. He etched in his cell wall ” God will give me justice”
Obviously, I look to all the Holy Bible verses that tell me I will see justice i.e.
Psalm 27:13, NIV: I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13, ESV: I believe that I shall look upon the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living!
I don’t know what I did as a sinner to be denied my children. My newborn baby was kidnapped from me by a lying caseworker and lawyers, and an unjust judge who allowed this crime to take place. My baby was then placed up for adoption. My husband and I already had 2 children ages 10 and 7. We lost custody because my husband beat me in the presence of our children.
That newborn baby is 19 years old now. I’m still bothered that I didn’t get to raise him. I’m still living that shame. I have forgiven the evil doers, yet, I feel empty and incomplete. I need more. I cannot explain the hurt and torment. God heals miraculously so why can’t God give justice expeditiously?
It rains on the just and the unjust. I Saint. a sinner made Saint by God’s standard.
Sinners and saints are blessed everyday. If God thinks I’m unjust, He can still rain a blessing on me. Right?
Psalm 27:13 doesn’t say that you will see justice, it says that you will see the goodness of the Lord, which is a very different thing. That might include justice, but it might not. Again, justice does not need to be seen by you to exist.
There’s no indication that you were denied your children because YOU were a sinner, from your description it looks like you were denied your children because your HUSBAND was a sinner. Shame is something to feel when you have done something wrong; in the situation you have described, your husband has done wrong, not you, and therefore your husband should feel shame, not you.
You have NOT forgiven the evildoers, because if you did you would just talk about caseworker, lawyers, and judge, not LYING caseworker and UNJUST judge.
God does things in His way and His timing, rather than our way and our timing, because He is Him and we are not. Be careful with questioning His ways and timing, because that can cut you off from blessings.
God does NOT bless sinners. They may have good things because of their own efforts, but not because God blessed them with those things. God can bless you at any time, and that blessing might or might not include you seeing justice being done.
Have you tried talking to a lawyer about being able to at least contact your children?
Thank you, FH, for asking. I have a different, yet, decent, dysfunctional relationship with my 27 year old son who is an alcoholic and fearful of becoming like his dad. I recently started talking to my 19 year old son after he was beaten by his dad (my ex-husband), so his testimony put his dad in jail. He told me his dad is “a monster”. [I know he is]. I do not have a relationship with my 30 year old daughter who is currently in a bad relationship with a drunk abuser-just like her dad, my ex-husband. After moving on, my daughter was resentful towards me and claimed I didn’t “save her”. The Court said I couldn’t have custody of my children because I wasn’t “fit” to be a parent because I was unable to provide them safety. After I left my husband, he then proceeded to beat the kids the way he beat me. I don’t want to type anymore about this because of the pain.
Your ex-husband has caused enormous and long-lasting harm! And that is all HIS sin, not yours! I hope things get better for your kids, they sure didn’t ask for any of this!
Reading through the comments I can’t kept but to wonder why so many blame Satin for our own sins of the flesh. I don’t know about anyone else but I’m pretty sure I hadn’t seen Satin or heard satin anytime that I’ve committed sin. Just because it was Satin that temped Job doesn’t mean that it was satin tempting you to commit adults and it was actually Karen from down the street. I know that’s not what the topic is about but accountability is surely important. We don’t get to blame satin but ask God for justice for those that do is wrong. They could just pass that to Satin too. Come on now