Archive for July 16th, 2010

I have asked God many times to bring me a friend.  Someone who lives close enough to me that phone calls between us would be free, and seeing each other could be closer to a matter of whim than a matter of serious planning.  Someone who’d be available to talk to me on something resembling a regular basis.  Someone who’d be interested enough in me that we could have enough contact to be part of each other’s day-to-day lives.

Today I had a high-paying job;  I was one of, it turned out, 8 people brought in to get it done, people hired from throughout the county.  I was 10 minutes early…  and so was another woman.  I started talking to her.  I discovered that she lives a MILE from me.


She used to live IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD, and still owns that home.


We chatted, and seemed to be making some contact;  I can’t always judge that accurately, though, because sometimes people seem very animated and involved with me and then it’s like a spell breaks and suddenly they’re a mile away, socially speaking.  We were herded down a hallway and brought to the room we’d be working in.  I made myself stop talking and walk in, going towards the far end of the room.  Would she follow me, or take advantage of my back being turned and my mouth being shut to break away and settle down out of my “reach”?

She sat next to me!!!!

We seemed to be steadily making more of a connection when the flow of work allowed us to speak.  When our time was up, we were still talking, and I was wondering if it was possible that she’d ask for my # rather than me having to be the pursuer.  She said that next time we should carpool… which sure sounded to me like a feeler about keeping in touch, so I suggested a # swap, she agreed, and we chatted all the way into the parking lot…  and discovered that we both work from home, in other words that we’re both alone and at least semi-available all day every day!!


Oh, and did I mention that she totally did NOT have the qualifications the rest of us had for this job, and so shouldn’t even have been there?


It’s true!!  She made a point of saying so after we all did our introductions, although it was quite obvious;  the recruiter had mentioned what a desperate time they were having finding people who fit a very narrow profile, and they obviously had to more or less grab a warm body with a little bit of overlap at the last minute.  Why HER?  Why do you think?!!

You couldn’t put all that in a book or a movie;  it’s too many freaky “coincidences,” it’s too perfect of a setup to make the “right” kind of friend, the kind I’m desperate for, and even better in terms of location and availability than it had occurred to me to have as even a wild hope.  There’s no doubt about it;  God brought me and this woman together.

Is she meant to be in my life briefly, to answer a question and then vanish like my friendship-site buddy, or will she be the real thing?  Given that, unlike with him, the age, gender and LOCATION (!!!) are right for a convenient relationship, I think it’s the latter.


And another freaky friendship thing:  There was a woman who I seemed to be becoming friends with a few years ago, but things got weird, due I think to both of us stumbling over when not to push, be blunt or blurt out things rather than take the longer and friendship-friendly view.  She lives a BLOCK from me, so it would’ve been good to have maintained the friendship just to have someone close by;  I was less alone then than I am now, though, less willing to just gloss over friction in the name of having someone to talk to or spend time with.

Today, I received a gift card for some game I never heard of.

While writing this post I looked up the old friend’s name;  the urge just came to me and I ran with it.

I clicked the social website link that came up.  It wasn’t her.  This other woman with her unusual name had almost nothing on her page.  She did have a short list of things that she liked.  First on the list was THAT GAME.


I have sent her an email.  How could I not?  With all the friendship-related coincidences already today…  could this really be yet another sign?  It seems like it must be, but I’m so bleary-eyed now that I just need to get this posted and get to bed.

The next few days will be VERY interesting.

Edit 7-13-14:  Four years later…  I AM pretty solid friends with that woman, but it just fell into place over the last couple of months.  God comes through, but in His time, which by definition is the best time.

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